137 Comments on “In Case You Missed It: Bob & Sheree Whitfield on “Iyanla: Fix My Life” + Oprah Shares Her Thoughts Online… [VIDEO]”

1. I just don’t understand it. At first for the entire 3 seasons, she explains about their relationship. Now she wants to get back together? Does it have to deal with $$ or what. Very confusing.

   1. Were we watching the same show? I don’t think they were trying to get back together because they were never "together" in the first place.

      1. Great response! LOL!

      2. exactly, the whole marriage was like porschas and phaedras…based on that almighty dollar or gettign pregnant and wanting to save face.

         sheree saw $ married an ugly man with $$ , had kids with him to secure her finances but it backfired on her ass. she was never in love with bob and bob knew it and mentally detached himself from her. men like bob are very insecure and what i see in him is a jealous monster who know he is ugly, know he is fat and sloppy and he knows he has to buy pussy, he see sheree as the beauty queen who wouldn’t fuck him unless he had money and he is angry at that, angry at himself for playing the fool. if he didn’t have money sheree wouldn’t not take a second look at him and sheree knew it and should have told the damn truth on tv, but she wanted to save whats left of her image. this shit happen all the time and thats why men like bob go to white women, because they feel a black woman dont want their ugly asses. bob didn’t get blasted enough from iyanla if you ask me, i would have tore into bob ugly ass for being a deadbeat and for holloring at his son for not being good at football. men like bob make my ass cheeks cringe. i do not like a deadbeat and like sheree said, man up and no you cant just show up at my house phone first hell i might be on some dick! lol lol lol

         1. You have said it best – and said it completely. Kudos!

   2. What show were you watching, Carlyn? They don’t LIKE each other, never really did. This show is not a ‘romance show’. They are trying to learn to co-parent without all the animosity which has gotten in the way of both of their relationships with their two children.

2. Has she really fixed anyone’s life? Or has she exploited issues for a show?

   1. Iyanla does what most therapist do. She listen with an objective ear and then tries to help the person move forward and past what appears to be preventing them from leading a full and productive life. She makes no apologies for telling them that it is going to take work to get pass what their issues are. People can only be helped if they first admit they have a problem. From on the outside looking in, she seemed right on about Sheree. And yes I believe there are those she has helped.

      1. Well said, Bertye. Most people don’t understand the job of a therapist. The other thing is that change is not going to happen after a few hours. It is a process. In all honesty, they need someone to talk to on a regular basis. She opened the door and made a lot of discoveries, but they need more time with a professional to fully explore the root causes of their bitterness towards one another and heal from it so they can co-parent.
         Iyanla rushed the co-parenting contract at the end. She admitted they weren’t ready to be in each others lives and they can’t co-parent effectively without being able to do that. IMO, I’m not really sure Sheree is ready to give him access to the kids. She uses them to keep Bob at bay and he with holds child support to punish her.

   2. Has she really fixed anyone’s life? Not in this case. Has she exploited issues for a show? Definitely!

      It’s a show, so it is about money, ratings, and the business that goes along with that. If it were just to impact lives, she could definitely do the work without any of the Hollywood effect.

      That being said, there something to say for watching yourself on tv and not just you but everyone you know. Truth can sometimes be revealed in odd ways…I hope Sheree can see that she blew an opportunity to be vulnerable and attempt to resolve some deep seated issues. But, instead, she chose to be the strong black woman hero role she has chosen to play for herself, her image, and her kids. It’s odd that Bob did more work to being honest, transparent, and getting at the root of the issue.

      Not really knowing him, I have a new outlook about this brother.

      1. I agree! Sheree really blew it! If she doesn’t want ppl to think she’s selfish, martial, and cold hearted then she should have open up more. Sometimes you have to show a softer side and when your in the eye of the public and have a rep of of bad image you have to show some growth, let walls down, and be able to open up just a little. Funky dinvea hit nail on the head in his review!

3. The empress has no clothes! Sheree was dressed down by Iyanla & Bob!” Who gon check me Boo? Uh that would be Iyanla..Boo!

   1. And finally we get to hear Bob speak off Bravo cameras. The most defining moment of what he felt to me was when he said "I am your pocketbook and the kids are your shoes". No wonder she tried to take Ilanya aside and ‘control’ this episode. Your controlling days are almost over Sheree..as noted by the appearance and ages of their kids.So sad, her kid’s whole childhoods have bore the brunt of their parents anger. In a couple of years they will be free and more than likely abandon whatever affection they were denied yet as adults called upon to repay. " gave birth to you" will be the only thing they’ll repeatedly hear from their parents. More than likely their parents will receive what they have given…not abandonment but reserved love. You do reap what you sow. Shore up what you may need if granted age especially if you think for some reason you can’t influence justifiably, your kids gratitude.

      1. YES!!! WELL SAID @VERSATILE. MS SHE BY A JOKE, TRY’S IT HONEY. I LOVE WHAT BOB SAID ABOUT THE PURSE AND SHOES TO! BOOM! IN YOUR FACE.. KEEP CALLING THAT MAN A DEAD BEAT, BUT YOU WALKING AROUND WITH 20,000 HAND BAGS, THROWING PARTIES, AND CAN’T GET YOUR KIDS HAIR DONE OR AT LEAST A 1,000 SQ FT APARTMENT..NOT TO MENTION THE FACT THAT YOU DID NOT EVEN CLAIM YO TEEN PREGNANCY DAUGHTER THE FIRST SEASON, BUT NOW YOUR HOUSE IN HER NAME.. SMH… IF BOB A DEADBEAT TO HER KIDS, THEN SHE IS AN LOW DOWN DIRTY NEGLECTFUL DOG… AND IN THAT ORDER…

         1. you could not had said it no better!!!!

4. I Loved How “Iyanla” Said This House Has Nothing To Do With The Kids, Its All About You……

   1. Yes. And why did she try the fake cry. Sheree needs to go inside herself and figure out who she is. Until then the African’s prophecy will be true. She will die old and alone.

      1. LOL and the Oscar goes to Sheree for fake tears

      2. LOL. I keep forgetting about the whodoo doctor in Africa. He’s turning out to be quite the sage.

5. I Love How "Iyanla" Said This House That Is Incomplete, Like Your Relationship Incomplete, Business Incomplete.. Has Nothing To Do With Your Kids!! Its All About You….And I Really Have A Better Understanding Of Bob W. And Why He Is The Way He Is..

   1. I agree wholeheartedly! I judged Bob too soon. I also want to apologize to Michelle. I was very mean to her in some of my comments last year. I was HOT that Michelle was so TEAM BOB while Sheree was struggling to raise her kids without his child support but now I understand it was all an act and show for the RHWOATL cameras. Michelle was "spilling tea" and giving us the inside scoop and I didn’t even realize back then. Michelle, you are still my favorite blogger because even when I’m mad and upset about what you write, I appreciate how you give us the floor to say how we feel. Thank you for giving us the real.

      As for Sheree. I hope she finds a good church home or some friends who she can talk to because her hatred is eating at her from the inside out. It’s written all over her face. (And I guess nobody else saw that Herpes bump on her lip?)

      1. I think that Sheree came off as bitter and was not seeking to repair the relationship with Bob but rather to put him down as much and as often as she could. She seemed evil. Why did she express that it was her goal to have him in her childrens lives and then cock block that effort? Her son is a 16 year old she doesnt need to talk to him unless its about school. Why does she answer the childrens cell phones when he calls? Why are her events so important that they can’t be cancelled if the relationship with their father is so important? She contradicted herself multiple times. I just couldnt do it. And when her children are old enough to watch and understand they will resent her. She is ruining her relationship with her children just to spite their father. Is she mad because he doesnt want her anymore? And in what universe is a 16 year old’s weekend tied up with plans from his mother? Not in this univers he is no longer 10 years old. That is wack. I feel for bob.

         1. Sounds like she never knew this man. Sounds like a one night stand. Sounds AND looks like the second baby was conceived on a baby bank scenario where she got him drunk enough to seduce him. She seems cold and calculated. Were Andy Cohen not gay she probably would still be on show because of behind the scenes sexual coercion which probably other than peeing is the only other thing she uses her vagina for.

         2. Your comments said it all! She contradicted her promise by putting that powerful cockblocking (yours, but my favorite word too) phrase some bitter mothers keep as a trump card to control the father’ ability to have a good time with the child and to put guilt on the child if he wants to be with Dad instead of Mama. Sheree needs to get a life and let the kids learn (1) how to be a good man, and (2) how a young lady should expect a man to treat her well. She will have another two kids like her older daughter (forcing the boy to propose and choose an expensive ring – neither of which he wanted to do; buying furniture for the daughter and her boyfriend, etc.)- they will become bitter while still tied to her umbilical cord instead of being strong and independent and happy.

6. Bob was the one with the halo at the end of the day & he was givin Sheree the dagger eye even with the cocked one!

   1. Shut up! (LOL!)

      1. y’all kill me with these eye comments! I don’t want to laugh, yet I do.

         But for the record, Bob’s eye looks that way because he is blind in one eye. And apparently he was when he hooked up with Sheree….which caught him. Men, put some latex on if you don’t want to pay child support. Who goin’ check me, boo? Checked, Sheree. Oprah, Iylana and Bob. Wow, I’d be in the corner crying. smh

7. Missed it.

8. Bob is a loser! Deadbeat Dad. I don’t care what Sheree’s issues are, anytime you don’t pay child support, you are a loser. Anytime you let the fact that you don’t like the mother of your children, get in the way of you not seeing your children, you are a LOSER. Iyanla let Bob off easy last night.

   1. I think you may have missed a few points to what was being said…

      1. Right. He was paying it, but Sheree, like with Chateau Sheree, was using it to waste on She by Sheree, the cars, the acting career, the lavish parties, the helicopter, etc, instead of banking it and buying a modest home and sending the kids to a nice school. It was all for show like Bob said, she took the opportunity on TV to blame him for what she was not able to control, the child support money ordered by the court. She stole all the furnishings out of the old house and more than $150K of stuff illegally. The judge ordered it a set-off for the extra child support she was trying to get to make up for those $20,000 purses and shoes she had brought to her house on a regular basis…Bob followed the court orders, Sheree did not. Bob kept records and receipts. Sheree did not. She cheated Phaedra and did not tell the truth before they went to court, then she blamed Phaedra because Bob came prepared with the truth and the receipts!

   2. Bob is not making any money. He is living off of his savings. She can afford to build her house from the ground up and was gainfully employed but was sufferring from not receiving child support? Please, when any man is unemployed they dont have to pay child support. He had to take that money from his savings. Did you notice that he couldnt even afford a lawyer and represented himself? Did you notice that she had an Hermes bag but didnt have beds for her children? She is a dead beat mom who wants to keep her children from their father so that she can make his life miserable. He is trying she is cock blocking she is the dead beat not him.

      1. Who told you an unemployed man doesn’t have to pay child support? Yes he does. And the state will garnish unemployment earnings, bank accounts, seize assets, etc. If you’re eating your children should be eating.

         With that said – I’m no fan of Sheree. Both she and Bob have issues. Bob should have gotten a visitation schedule through the courts and that would alleviate a lot of the "power struggle" btn him and Sheree. Sheree also needs to step out of the way of their children having a relationship with their father. And I don’t care how much money Sheree makes -BOTH Sheree & Bob are financially & emotionally responsible for those children.

   3. He stopped paying because Sheree wasn’t using the money for the kids. The kids were well taken care of any time they were with Bob but he stopped money in sheree’s hand for the kids because she was not using for the kids. He instead used it on the kids while they were with him.

      1. "stopped putting money in sheree’s hand"

         sorry for the typo

   4. Sorry, but a deadbeat is a mother who keeps every hair on her head laid to the max, while her son needs a hair cut, and her daughter needs a touch up. Dead beat is a mother who drives expensive car while her children sleeps on air mattresses. Shreree apparently had money to throw around for herself, but wasn’t spending it on her children, while I don,t agree with Bob not wanting to give her child support, I truly believe her children wouldn’t,t have benefited from the money, because their mother would have spent the money on herself

9. AMEN

   1. I agree too. Just because she was suddenly employed shouldn’t mean that he pays NOTHING to support them and he DID say that he DOESN’T pay because she’s working. I know there’s the factor of her ripping him off to the tune of $400k but at some point that should be addressed in court. Money and time spent with kids are two separate issues. How embarrassing for Tyree and many teenage boys who have nationally known athletic absentee fathers.

10. Both sides own blame here from what I saw…I see why both did what they did, but they should not have let their differences come before their children

    1. AT end of day this is the most simple and on point explanation I read and i agree. Children are innocent, and when you try to use them as pawns while going through changes with the ex.it only hurts them…

11. This was disturbing and difficult to watch. However, as a woman that co parents, it made look at my situation. Iyanla "checked"me though Bob and Sheree and I’m making sure that I read this parenting contract tonight.

12. Classic* You Don’t Have The Privilage To Not Like Your Children’s Father* You Chose Him* -Iyanla Vanzant* WHOA*

13. They were both sad and pitiful. Both of them have so much contempt for one another. He never loved her, hence him not even having a real wedding for the mother of his two children and not even sleeping with her on their wedding night. She never respected him, hence her not supporting his career or understanding him as a man. Now they both blame each other for their own unhappiness and at the same time they make their kids unhappy. SMMFH! THEY NEED JESUS AND NEED TO REBUILD THEIR SPIRITUAL HOME.

    1. he had children by her prior to marriage. Why would you marry someone that you don’t love, with all of those problems that existed prior to saying "I DO"? It doesn’t make sense!Do Sheree and Bob really care about making things right for their children, or is this yet another selfish attempt to one up the other, and get the last word, and see who can make who look the worse! If you don’t sincerely hope to benefit from a show like this, than why do it? They both need to get individual counseling for their unresolved feelings of bitterness and resentment, so that they can benefit more down the line from this type of co parenting help. Sheree says she was looking for love, but I know that $$ had to factor in there and weigh high on her scale also. She needs to keep it real. If he didn’t really ever love her, what was his real reason for getting with her, having 2 kids, marrying her, only to continue doing him? very confusing! They are a mess, and need to get it together quick. i feel most badly for their children Kairo and Kaleigh!

14. Sheree just can’t be fixed!!! She got this “if it aint my way it’s no way” attitude. Everything gotta be about her. And with that attitude she aint NEVER gonna succeed!!!! Like damn u couldn’t show up on time to the games….smh

    1. EXACTLY..when they can finally say it’s not about US but about OUR CHILDREN..they will be making a big step!Sheree is bitter that she can no longer afford the life style to which she became accustomed!This is why women need to have their own, and not depend on a man to carry them financially forever! Her money train came and went, and she’s been unhappy ever since!She should have invested some of the Whitfield money in a college education or trade, instead of shoes and designer bags..clothing! Just sad!

15. @lockhart don’t forget Iyanla also told Bob you don’t have the privilege of not liking your children’s mother because you chose her.

16. They are both broken. When the parents are broken the children cannot advance. Sheree is doing alright as a single parent but it would be better for her KIDS if she had a better relationship with their father. You cannot co-parent when both people despise each other.

17. I felt Sheere was still not owning her faults in the relation and her role in holding her kids from having a relationship with their father. She is in her own world and only thinks of herself. I felt Bob was honest about his feelings and Owned his bad decisions. He wants to be on his Kids Life. Sheere wants her kids to demise and hate him as Much as she does. Nothing Good is going to happen come to her until she stops her madness and move on.

18. Lord Sheree has issues I understand Bob better too…. Sheree you know DAMN well them kids don’t need no house that BIG….SMDH ……Bob you still should’ve NEVER let your hate for Sheree EVER stop you from being a good parent to your kids you WRONG for that…..I LOVE AYANLA love the show……

    SO Bob date Michelle who owns & run this blog EYE SEE lol

19. Sheree needs to watch this and REALLY re-evaluate herself because who is buying this act she is selling??? Women raise kids on their own everyday and these kids are teenages, how long is she gon harp on the father not being there. You can tell she interfers w/ Bob’s relationship w/ the kids talking bout he can see them if she doesn’t have plans. WTF, they live w/ you honey you can always do something w/ them. If she cared about anyone but herself she would watch and learn something from this show because Im pretty sure Bob has redeemed himself while she just dug and even bigger hole for herself. Shame on you Sheree you just showed the world what a bitter woman who went into a marriage for the money & fame looks like.

20. Agreed MzDee Samuel.. Im Not Cheering One More Then The Other, They both linked up for the wrong reasons,,,Thier will be no Co-Parenting Here,,,,Iyanla said this isnt even finished she just left because the epeisode was over……lol…But Also Bob Whitfield Atleast tried and owned up to his deadbeatness* Thier was atleast a chance to salvage something* With Sheree’ we couldnt even get a admission of nothing no space to grow… (And I met & talked with her before) she was really cool at that time..

21. He said he didn’t pay child support because she was making enough money….huh
    And shereeis in denial, I hope she gets help.

    1. you missed something because I thought he said he didn’t pay because she had enough money as in "I already GAVE you hundreds of thousands of dollars and also agreed to GIVE you a portion of my pension.

       1. I didnt see it that way when i first watched it but now that that you saying it it does make sense.

          1. I watched it twice. From what I could tell Bob was tired of giving Sheree all his money ie the "cost the whitfields’ comment he made. I know he has more children than just Sheree’s and none of his other baby mamas have ever referred to him as a deadbeat. I read somewhere that he has one son that is at Standford now playing football.

       2. Right and she never used the money he gave her on the kids. She used it on herself, that’s why he stopped paying. his kids were not seeing the money. Sheree wants "sheree support" not child support…

22. Sheree came out of this looking worst than ever. It’s always been said there are three sides to very story his, hers and the truth. Bob kicked the door open to truth when he all but admitted they did not know each other he married her out of a sense of OBLIGATION to the children. However, in no way was she able to sway anyone last night into believing that she is building a house "for teenagers" this is what she wanted to do to show Bob and others I got money. At the expense of my kids I’m gonna show you, what an IDIOT. I had based all my opinions about Bob on the filth that came from Sheree’s mouth – I apologize. The man seems like a nice person and a dad who has been blocked from fathering his kids. Yes it was WRONG of him to not support them or father them because of what he was going through w/Sheree. I hope he sees the errors of his ways and corrects that NOW. I HATE women use children as pawns. But those same kids are gonna grow up and form their own opinions and Sheree might not come out of this so good in their eyes. Thank God for Jesus.

23. It sounds like she was a plaything who got pregnant with 1 and when 2 came up he felt he had to marry her. When he didn’t come home after the wedding I would’ve hit it and filed for child support. He told her in so many ways she wasn’t wanted but she chose to stay and this is her outcome.

24. Sheree is the problem. She is bitter and allows her bitterness to block her blessings as well as her children’s blessings.

25. A Man Cannot Get Into The Space* Where Thier Is “Feminine Rage”-Iyanla Vanzant…..

26. Since she tweeted about her regardless what yal fools have to say about Sheree she has mega mogul Oprah Winfrey’s attention. Come on Sheree you’ve been humbled enough pull it though!

    1. I don’t think I want Oprah’s attention if I look bad in the process. Sheree should be ashamed of herself.

    2. Was this about getting Oprah’s attention or getting her damn life in order.. This is the problem..mixed priorities. Its not about Sheree or bob , its about the children.FOCUS! Stoop trying to use Oprah’s/ Iyanlas’ show to get back in the limelight! Take your azz to school and get a career so that you can support yourself. The kids will be grown in a few more years. Time to get real… real quick!Pitiful when you remain in a marriage where your not respected for namesake.. a lil fame… and fortune, Get ya mind right shallow woman!

       1. Let me take a moment to "stoop" down to your level. I didn’t comment on the show because I didn’t watch the show, I commented on the fact that whomever feels whatever way about "Sheree" 1. Oprah approves everything on her network therefore she took some sort of interest in Sheree 2. I’m sure that she was paid somethingggggg to appear on this show so your comment is redundant 🙂

27. Bob came off as a nice person. Judging from videos he has done here it seems like he is a jokester and not a dead beat dad like Sheree had him out to be. the first episode people saw through that shit. "whats a budget" "7 figure settlement" Look what happened when she got her money, astin martin, porsche.. heffa sheree , what in the man aboves name is wrong with you?

    1. Don’t for get that ‘independence party’ and that huge billboard of herself she paid all that money to have painted(and it looked cockeyed). I tell you this woman’s head has been squeezed in a vise and she’s therefore "narrow minded".

28. u marry a gold digger..what did u think….she like u for ur looks ? career gone = she’s gone….and still trying to collect smh.

29. I really use to like this blog but it has now turned so negative. Michelle done lost some damn weight and is now smelling herself but please bye

    1. Sheree?

    2. Then go to another blog, you want be missed@cutiepie

30. Whenever you have an excuse for why you did not do right by your children, YOU ARE NOT DOINT RIGHT BY YOUR CHILDREN. They are both wrong here. Sheree is a lot of things, but she takes care of her children. Of course she could have done much better co-parenting, but so could have Bob. This is the reality of a lot of broken homes here in America and it’s time for us to stop looking at this "family" and start reflecting on the skeletons inside of our own families. Before somebody has something smart to say, I am not defending either one of them because they are BOTH WRONG.

31. So Bob comes off as likeable because he admitted that he was a piece of trash husband and father? AT THE END OF THE DAY, Bob kept making excuses for his behavior when there really is no excuse…Iyanla and everybody else is just mad that Sheree played it cool (as she usually does). There was really nothing that Sheree could admit to – she’s wants the kids to have a relationship with Bob but she can’t make him…What else is there to really discuss??? Everybody doesn’t break down in tears just because that’s what we want them to do. Grow up folks.

32. Excuse me! Sheree is NOT the only problem. Folks need to quit blaming her. Bob did not pay child support, WHO on this thread supports that behavior of his? Bob did not visit his children. He makes the excuse that Sheree got in his way. Really? How sorry is that. Take her to court to get a parenting plan if she’s getting in the way, but I guarantee you, he got in his own way. Smdh at all this Sheree bashing.

33. P.S. It’s probably wise that Sheree didn’t provide an update…More than likely Bob still isn’t doing his fatherly duties. Sheree chose not to say anything rather than bash him again on TV…But again, because it’s Sheree people are going to chose to believe she didn’t provide an update because some other devious, evil, manipulative reason because big bad Sheree is anti-Christ….

    1. Any chance sheree’s has to bash bob she will…she did it for 3 seasons. The fact that she didn’t respond actually speaks the oppposite I think…

34. I dont give a damn what issues Bob has with Sheree or what Sheree has with him, NOTHING should get in the way of taking responsibilty of your children. Period. . .

    1. I agree. I don’t care how much hate they have for each other but they need to put that hate and hostility to the side and put those children first. When things like this goes on, sometimes children can be stressed and can’t perform or concentrate at school, or they act out. Hopefully they can work everything out for the sake of these kids, they at least deserve that.

       1. His hatred is not in her lack of support per se. They are divorced. I think his hatred is in her cock blocking his relationship with his children and manipulative behavior. I can defend him because my judgement is not on whether or not one is wrong. My judgement is based upon the fact that he was willing to work through it and she wasnt that is where my judgement comes from. He was willing to say I dont like you but we can do this arrangement. She was not willing. When they went to discuss what they could do she put him down like a verbal abuser and talked about what he had not done. Its like saying ok lets move forward and she went and put the car in reverse. Its crazy. No there isnt progress if she is still answering their phones. Why does she need to answer her childrens phones when he calls? Why is it that he cannot talk to his children without her interference. And when I saw him with them they seemed to be enjoying him. Sorry she is wrong because of her attitude in moving forward.She doesnt acknowledge her part in anything. She doesnt want to move forward. She wants to stay stuck and bash him as much as possible. Who gives a shit if he never loved her? She never loved him either. Who gets pregnant that fast by someone and you already have children? She sounds like she was digging for gold with him and continued thats why she stayed even though he left after the second night back from the honeymoon. If you choose to stay, then address it, get over it and move on. Dont stay stuck that is wack.

          1. Well, like I said before on a similar topic. People need to realize that a child doesn’t keep a man and woman together and like Maya Angelou said in one of her quotes, "When people show you who they are, believe them".

35. I really appreciate Bob’s candor. He seems to be a really sweet guy. Sheree needs to get a clue and get honest with herself for the sake of her children. What plans will she have that trumps them spending time with their father? She tried to make Bob seem like the stereotypical black man but she is the epitome of a stereotypical black woman, but then again, she’s not because she’s not strong…she’s just angry. This whole situation is sad especially for those children.

    1. Seems to be a really sweet guy??? uhhh….

36. Im usually a serious fan of Iyanla’s. She’s a very wise woman. But ratings is driving this show way too much. It’s still Oprah’s only means for bringing folks to her channel and that blocks it from being able to operate on the substance and with sincere purpose. I can partly get her method, tearing down to build up, but it reeks of malpractice like you said because no professional life coach or counselor worth their salt regardless of a tv show is willing to leave a patient or client vulnerable and open raw like that especially if they are the ones who did the opening in the first place. I’d feel much better if the network paid for on going counseling and reported back at a later day. Sheree is a phony. Her purpose was to make herself relevant again and to gain an upper ground by exposing her ex on national tv. She can’t be fixed because she would never be herself long enough to be open to being fixed. If you can get by that she and her husband will need all kinds of counseling to reach a place where they can co-parent. DMX is a full out drug addict. To claim to come and work with him about sex or womanizing addiction and to try to heal a bond between him and his son just sounds disingenuous because if I were serious, I would see a million miles away that through drug addiction NOTHING can be fixed before the addiction is brought under control. Exposing folks for shock value ratings is honestly careless. This needs to get under control.

37. I missed it.

38. What got me was when Iyanla ask her who she build the house for. She replied her children. That house was not built for her children nor herself unless you want to include her ego. The picture of it in the rear appeared to be incomplete. Did she run out of money or were she expecting to build it off child support?

    1. When she said that, she sounded ignorant. Building that house was all Sheree’s selfish doing and to be honest, Sheree really looked uncomfortable on camera.

       1. I noticed that too. I wonder why she decided to do the show?

          1. she got paid to do it I’d feel sure, right?

          2. And not only did she get paid to do it, she ASKED to do it. Of course whatever she got paid wouldn’t even cover the interest on the $100k+ she owes IRS plus lawyers fees. Can you imagine throwing that kind of money away on BS? With not ONE tangible thing to show for it? A shell of a brand new house that will be hard to sell because it’s oversized and too close to neighbors. Her and Kim’s mantra "I would’nt dare live in someone else’s house". Which of course Kim came to her senses and bought(only to try and replicate Big Poppa’s interior of his mansion). Bet if Kim would have done homework she would have discovered ‘mold’ problem in inspection docs. Of COURSE Bob is mad seeing this uneducated middle aged woman throw away his hard earned cash. Star on a show with divorce settlement money as her platform.

          3. I MEANT Child Support money as her platform.

39. @Kelly it was left out that sheree gets a check from the NFL 4 child support she decided that she still neds Bob to pony up also. There would b no way he could avoid jail if he had the ability 2 pay but chose not to obey court order

    1. I think people forget that. Bob said on an episode of RHOA that the NFL pays us well. Sheree gets a part of his pension but she wants him to give her additional money. The fact that the NFL is giving Sheree a part of HIS pension is him paying child support because that money should be for his kids. Instead she spends that on herself so she wants the additional money.

40. They must both really need cash. I’ve never even heard of this show. Seriously, why would either of them put what little private laundry they have left on TV??? I feel for these kids, and for their sake I hope bottom of the barrel reality TV pays more than I think it does.

41. This episode barely scratched the surface. They each need an episode all to themselves. Iyanla has to get at who they were as people before they came to the marriage and started having children. What were their individual motives? How did those motives serve/hurt them. I’m not a professional but I saw (as lots of us did) waaaaaaay more issues at play than just bad parenting.

42. I think Iyanla hit the nail dead on the head in regards to the nature of their relationship from the start and the reasons for so many of their problems.
    OK, first of all. Correct me if I’m wrong, but weren’t they only married for about eight years? Their children have been alive much, much, much longer than their marriage lasted.
    He didn’t sleep at home the first one or two nights of their marriage? However, you stayed with him. Also, you had another baby with him.
    As Iyanla said, "You should have cut your losses and moved on."
    However, she stayed in the marriage because of the money. Let’s cut the bull.
    Bob had a fun-time chick who he simply had fun with for years, but finally decided to marry her to save face for the sake of the children. Bad move. Again, as Iyanla said, "You didn’t have her in your heart."
    If she wasn’t in your heart, then you shouldn’t have married the chick. Also, what about using protection: condoms and birth control?
    But no, she wasn’t going to use birth control because pro football player+children=money.
    This is not 1930 when it took years to build a home. She claims it’s not about her? Come on. She calls it "Chateau Sheree." It’s not about you, but you attached your name to it?
    Again, cut the bull.
    It’s just said that in the end the children are the ones who are suffering.
    For the sake of the children I hope they get it together. However, I doubt they will.

43. The real reason she’s not getting child support previously posted on this site from MTO:
    NEW TEA on the Whitfield child support drama below…
    MediaFAKEOut normally steals my posts without giving me credit, and have even stolen pics and cropped my watermark off…. but I’m not going to do them that way.
    MTO has EXCLUSIVELY obtained legal documents that show why Bob may have been laughing so hard when I told him to “pay his child support” the other day.
    While watching this season of The Rea Housewives Of Atlanta, we were CONFUSED. MediaTakeOut.com was consistently CONFUSED .. . as to WHY Sheree isn’t getting ANY child support. And we were even more CONFUSED as to why Sheree DIDN’T ALLOW Phaedra to enforce the Child Support ORDER against her ex-husband BOB WHITFEILD . . . and have his AZZ THROWN IN JAIL.
    Well, we did some research, and uncovered some SHOCKING documents. We found a LEGAL PROCEEDING from two years ago, which shows that Sheree attempted to DEFRAUD her ex-husband out of their mansion.

    Here’s what happened. When Sheree and Bob got divorced, the court ordered them to SELL the house, split the proceeds. And for Bob to give Sheree $425K in additional cash.
    The way it was supposed to work is that Bob would pay her $25K up front, and the other $400K once they sold the house. Well Sheree TRICKED Bob, and asked him if he could give her the $400K early, so that she could get a home for their children.
    And after Bob gave her the money, Sheree filed MULTIPLE lawsuits, and refused to leave the house or pay the mortgage. Eventually the bank foreclosed on the house, and Bob lost ALL the equity he had in the home.
    [READ: Guess Who?! The RHOA Foreclosure Edition – PHOTOS ]
    SOOOOO . . . . according to the docs, the court ADMONISHED Sheree for her behavior. And it suggested that she may OWE Bob a ton of money, for F*CKING up his equity in the house.
    And we’d bet that if she tried to get the money for her CHILD SUPPORT from Bob, he’d COUNTER-SUE her and she’d have to pay him the money she SCAMMED from him first. (source)

    1. Atlien? Forget to change names?
       <em> The real reason she’s not getting child support previously posted on this site from MTO:
       NEW TEA on the Whitfield child support drama below…
       MediaFAKEOut normally steals my posts without giving me credit, and have even stolen pics and cropped my watermark off…. but I’m not going to do them that way." <em/>

       1. Looks like Barbara cut and paste from the linked post in the article about Sheree’s child support.

44. Bob is an asshole.Good luck to Sheree.SMH.

45. dang!!^^^

46. It seem that he wants to be a father and spend time with his children . But she is controlling that . And it her only way to get back at him . But at the same time call him a bad father . She need to let go of what happen in the past and in there marriage . And agree to do what best For her children. As long as she Carry that anger around she never be happy . And nothing she start she will every get finish . In 2year her son will be eighteen and will be able to see and have a relationship with his father. It a lots of single mothers that wish that the fathers would show a interest in there children . She seem to only carry about the money . On the Atlanta house wives . She take her son to buy shoes but didn’t even know his shoes size. That said a lot .
    Trying to hurt Bob is only hurting her children.

47. Sheree is just what she says she is, stubborn, AND she likes to play victim. Iyanla warned her there would be times when she won’t like her and the next day they meet she’s like I felt attacked GIRL PLEASE, you felt the read Iyanla was giving you and tried to shut that book. SMH some people can never change because they aren’t real about the issues they have inside.

    1. exactly..lol so true

48. After watching the show, I came to the conclusion that Bob knew if he paid any support it would of been for Sheree and not to take care of the kids. When he mentioned the kids and himself as pocketbooks and shoes, he knew what it was hitting for. He also proved that all of her motives were for spite. But Iyanla seen right thru her, she seen the hurt and anger right wid the little time she spent wid her. And Chateau Sheree was about her, trying to prove to others what she failed to prove to herself.

49. Thank You Barbara Murphy for the TRUTH.

50. The show exposed what most folks already knew about Sheree: she’s empty and ignorant. Her self-worth is connected to things and the opinion of others. Wanting people to envy her has broken her in every way, especially financially. And caused her children to suffer. Iyanla tried to help her, but she couldn’t receive the message. Sheree seems stunted. She still has the mentality of a 20 yr old groupie. I sometimes wonder if she even completed high school.

    1. good words..very true

    2. I agree, wholeheartedly.

51. @ Barbara Murphy, no disrespect to you at all, but I trust MTO as well as I trust Nat’l Enquirer…which is that I don’t. @ Karen, where are you coming up with that you are saying about the NFL paying Sheree. There’s no court in the world who would’ve heard Sheree’s case on the child support, if she is already getting support. Plus Bob admitted that he did not pay support. Again, it’s easy for many to jump on Sheree, but Bob is a HUGE problem as well.

52. MTO is notorious for publishing stories in error.

    1. @Tracy Johnson I agree with you about MTO… but here’s the link to MY story which is also posted in the story above. (the only reason they were linked were because of the court documents – which are real) >>> CLICK HERE

53. @Tracy, Bob gave an interview back when. I dont know which site now, but it has been reported that she was getting support checks from the NFL. I think when he left the NFL, the checks stopped & that is when she took him to court. The hose is also an issue & I know ppl in ATL who lived in her neighborhood and she did leave their marital home due to foreclosure. That is what Bob meant when he said on Iyanla that she messed up the Whitfield name. Money should not be the core issue when it comes to co-parenting. I agree that they need a follow-up show, cuz nothing was resolved.

54. @Barbara, that is what was reported by media sites such as MTO & others. Season 1 shows Sheree is in their home and soon after that is when she moved into the townhome. It seems they were both using each other in the beginning for one thing or another. I always feel for the kids in this type of chaos because, egos get in the way & the result is evident & the reason Iyanla had a role in their story. I think it has been demonstrated that Sheree has been living well above her means and now she has hit a wall & Bob is being cast as this evil deadbeat dad to deflect from past misdeeds.

55. Sheree pretended that she loved that man when she only loved his money and Bob thought he had an uneducated pretty girl to sit on the sidelines with his kids while he played ball.

    They both failed because neither one was honest about their true intentions. They both "pretended" – Bob pretended he wanted a wife but he spent the night out right after returning from their honeymoon and Sheree pretended she could be a wife when all she wanted to be was paid.

    In the end, it’s those poor innocent children who lost. Both parents are at fault but Sheree is preventing progress by maintaining a 25 year old’s gold digger mentality at the age of 40 somethihg. I pray they are both healed and guided in the right direction.

    1. you hit the nail on the head … POW I agree!

56. They shook tables, chairs, and lamps. They let her have it and she needed it. For the kids I hope they be cordial to let those bonds be tight. She is nothing nice and when you’re like that you will not prosper. Loved Bob’s truthfulness and her lies.

57. #fixmyeye priceless..why isnt his eye fixed???

58. After seeing Bob and hearing how he was never in it to begin with, I can see how Sheree has built walls up so high as a defense mechanism. She’s not the only one that’s bitter, Bob is bitter too and he’s an asshole. Both of them are too hung up on personal matters (like showing up on time to games) to work together for the kids.

59. I didn’t watch the Iyanla show on this, but my brother lives next door to Bob. Bob has blantantly bragged about not paying his child support. I can’t understand that. They both have issues but no man who respects himself or his kids, would skip out on child support. I would never to that to my kids and no real man skips out on seeing his kids, just because the Mama causes drama

60. So Karen Phillips you don’t think there’s anything remotely wrong with a man not paying his child support? A man who chooses not to see his kids, just because of their Mom? I may need to re-read the thread but I see very few people on this thread putting him on blast about this. They are equally wrong, yet Sheree is being slammed the most. Smh. I don’t care what Sheree is doing or not doing, he is dead wrong for how he’s behaved. If she was as bad as he said, why not take her to court early on? There are remedies for what she was doing. Also, like it or not, the person who is paying child support has ZERO SAY in how the money is spent within the household. As long as those kids are fed, clothed, utilities are paid, doc Rx’s are paid, school fees are paid etc….they are being taken care of. Neither one of their kids were suffering. Sheree has her flaws, but she never ever put her kids out to pasture when it came to their needs. Where was Bob? Oh that’s right, he could not stand their Mama, so he was absent and then had the nerve to not pay child support. Smh. Also don’t let Iyanla’s cameras fool ya. His “performance” on the show was brilliant. He knew he showed the ass that he really is, on RHOA and he had some redeeming to do. Sorry, but Bob does not get a pass.

61. I read the documents Straight From The A and all that is saying is that they had some drama around the house and Sheree took him to court on a contempt motion and she lost that motion because she had no merit to her claims. I’m an attorney and I see this stuff all the time. There is no where in those court papers, where it addresses his child support obligation. The court never found that Sheree is not entitled to her child support. These are two separate issues. So Sheree manipulated him, not a good character trait for her, but the bottom line is the kids STILL need support. So she had no furniture in the main areas? Big deal! I’m sure the kids and Sheree had beds they were sleeping on and their bedrooms had furniture. I guess what I’m trying to point out is, none of what is shared in those court papers has a hill of beans to do with Bob not paying his child support. All it shows me is that he took his anger out towards Sheree on the kids by failing to meet his child support obligation and ceasing to visit the kids. Bob looks like a fool…

    1. I feel that if Bob is the man that he claims to be, he wouldn’t let Sheree’s shananigans interfere of giving his children the support that they needed. Why make the kids suffer? And Sheree should quit spending money on handbags and an Hermes belt.

62. Sheree has no shame. This episode for her was all about showing off, hence the reason she walked up with a hermes belt around her waist. She will never be accountable for her actions. She saw this as an opportunity to get back in the spotlight. Iyanla was very true in her words to her. How do you jeopardize the relationship your children should have with their father over money. What ever happened to compassion? She has managed to waste money throughout the years on frivolous things and the Chateau is just another front. I actually feel bad for Bob, because clearly you can see that he wants to build a better relationship with his children. What are you doing answering the kids phone when he calls. Allow him the right to have a line of communication with the children without worrying about the idiot mom who is using grown children as pawns and looking to funnel information from them regarding their father. Sheree is just shameful. She is the poster child for sorry azz women. The courts need to start requesting receipts from these brokedown women who use the money that should be used to care for their children on themselves. She should be jailed! Sorry azz!

63. those kids are going to be adults b4 that house is done; plus I read her Mother was the real legal owner; I didn’t watch; but it appears Sheree played some of this up for the cameras on RHOA

64. Team Bob. How did either of them expect to heal when this was being aired on national tv? Sheree is bitter. She needs counseling and parenting classes. She is NOT a mother. She’s suffers from "trying to be someone you’re not" at the expense of her children. Bob on the other hand is "done". Stick a fork in him. He was honest. He said she gets in the way and tries to keep the kids from him. I also picked up that she probably makes the kids feel bad if they even act like they want to see their dad. That is mental abuse and she should be ashamed of herself. Sheree will end up broke and overdosed and people will be talking about it. She’s not dealing with reality and Iyanla called her out on it several times. The nerve of her to say she needed to "talk" to Iyanla to clear up some "mis-representation". LOL Really" YOU were called out and didn’t like it.

65. all i saw is that bob dont like sheree. he is definitely the more educated and mature and sincere of the two. But dang, he has nothing but hatred for her. thats sad. it looks like she brings it on herself tho.

66. I’m not sure why Sheree came on the show and expected Iyanla to favor her over Bob,he was open minded and dealt w/some real feelings towards his ex. and kids. I grew up w/both parents in the home.My respect was the same but I interacted w/them differently..I knew what they expected from me and which parent tolarated the most.I also knew who did what as a parent.

    Basically,you each have to be accountable..yes you co-parent but,I looked at how they treated me one on one..Even if Sheree didn’t do the right thing w/finances,it shouldn’t stop Bob’s air supply or support for his kids.At the end of the day they will look at who was there for them no matter what.As for Bob and Sheree,they never took the time to communicate as a couple and lacked basic foundation and long term goals for their marriage.

67. I felt so much better about myself when I watched this. My life is simple compared to this. Messy, messy, messy.

    First, use latex. Avoid babies with a drive by. Thirty minutes of a hot time ain’t worth ending up on fix my damn life.

    Second, gold diggers – it comes to no good end because the one you are getting the gold from gives nothing when the mine dries up–look at TO and the baby mama’s in that mess. Anyone can lose their income. I don’t know about y’all but I’ve lost a job before.

    Did anyone notice that Sheree wiped her eyes with a tissue, but I didn’t see any water? Or was it just me? I mean, I was looking at that TV, waiting to see a tear roll. Beloved, I didn’t see anything that even looked like Visine!

    God be with those children.

    1. She probably saw doing the show as yet another "acting" opportunity! She doesn’t know how to be real, she’s been faking so long! Its sad , because I was hoping that this show, and Iyanla would be able to stir the messy Bob & Sheree ship in the right direction , but I guess not! (shrugging) Maybe they will one day get it together, because that was pitiful.

68. Sheree said that Bob contacted her to ask her to be on the show and she agreed but only to discuss the kids. They tried to bring in her finances and house to humiliate her. It back fired in their face because she shut them down and let them know that they will only be discussing the kids. Sheree was very guarded on the show because she only did it for Bob because he asked her to do it to build a relationship with the kids and to try to get along with her for the kids. I am just letting everyone know why she is not saying much about the show and why she didn’t reveal much about her personal life on the show. This was Bob’s "reality showoff" this time lol.

69. As I’m watching "Wizard of Oz" I can’t help but think of Sheree as Scarecrow sings "If I Only Had A Brain".

70. Sharee is STILL attempting to keep up appearance. How do you have "the best shoes, bags, cars, house" yet your children do not have what they NEED? If he’s a deadbeat financially she’s a deadbeat EMOTIONALLY b/c she’s not meeting the emotional needs of the children. I bet Kairo would appreciate a REAL bed, ON A FRAME, OFF THE FLOOR more then seeing his mother PopStyle on Bravo. Sharee needs to understand that the visual is not what’s needed. They are BOTH wrong b/c Bob flat out admitted that when he COULD pay child support he refused to do so. As parents they BOTH have a lot of growing to do. They just f’d up in different ways. I really feel for these children b/c this is how you perpetuate a cycle of emotional homelessness where marriage is not see as a partnership but an anchor.
    BTW for all those ppl expecting Iyanla to FIX LIVES in one episode you are obviously clueless to the therapeutic process, which often can take YEARS. Her show is a start! It’s all about what the "client" wants to do after. Look how Sharee didn’t want to give an update. See…. this is why her Life is incomplete she’s not willing to open & change for the progressiveness of her family, just for $$$$ & cameratime.

71. No way am i condoning him neglecting his cnildren financialy or otherwise. I just believe that it is not as 1 sided as Sheree has portrayed in the media. Also firmly believe that Bob would be under the jail if he blatantly disobeyed a ct order support agreement esp in GA. So that says there is more to the story. Bottomline is neither of them have made the kids a priority and that will come back on them later in life. Do i feel sorry for Sheree? Not! She is the one who is airing the dirty laundry for the kids and whole world to see. At least Bob had not persecuted her publicly b4 the Iyanla event. All of them including Iyanla have exploited this issue for personal gain! That is my opinion.

72. @Tracy, hear Bob’s take on the Iyanla interview. I think Bob comes across as a person who is interested in restoring his relationship w/ family & he is much more “likeable” than Sheree. I wish them both the best for the sake of the children. http://straightfromthea.com/2013/04/17/bob-whitfield-speaks-about-fix-my-life-appearance/

73. Funky Dineva agrees w/ my point of view…http://straightfromthea.com/2013/04/17/bob-whitfield-speaks-about-fix-my-life-appearance/sheree-iyanla-vanzant-funky-dineva/

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