I’m riding with Tip on this as well. They were never married so what gives her the idea she’s entitled for him to fund her household? His responsibility is to their children and he’s definitely handling that so I don’t see her argument.

He pays 3,000 a month and private school, health insurance, etc. 3,000 should be able to take care of any bills she has regarding the kids.

I want him to make better choices as it relates to picking his women … His taste sucks!! Love him though in other words “HOE SIT DOWN”

I’m all for people working and the young lady does have a job. But I’m getting a very strong feeling alot of people on blogs bring their OWN issues to a story. There are three sides to every story (his, hers and what actually is the story) and none of us are getting the FULL story on this situation.

Just because a mother requests more payments does not make her automatically a bad person. You all are making assumptions about this woman and none of them are fair. One this is the FIRST time anybody has even heard her make any requests from him. UNLIKE Mr. Curtis’s ex she doesn’t seem to be trying to make her case against Mr. Harris in the media nor even speaking ill about him. I just have a strong feeling that due to our current economic times, his impending possible incarceration and some other things we don’t have privvy too she may be feeling a little skittish about her future payments and wants an order in writing. Both of them appear to be good parents, and NO there is no evidence that she isn’t, but it was also mentioned that what he provides has never been court ordered. I think she wants something in writing and when you go to lawyers they ALWAYS tell you to aim high and you usually end up where you want to which is somewhere in the middle. I also get the feeling that she may others whispering in her ear about this that and the other, and like most of us we sometimes react first. She doesn’t appear to be some gold digger or “baby mama” out to score. When you were with someone since you were 11 it’s a little hard for me to accept you just got pregnant to get MONEY when you were both broke at the same time.

I’m sure Mr. Harris is upset that this is coming out at this time but it’s not her making all the hoopla it’s the media and blogs (because of who he is) and on some levels him. In order to get the order she has to bring him in front of a judge and there is nothing WRONG with that. As for Mr. Harris’ comment regarding his hard work and sacrafice, he’s able to do that b/c there’s always been A WOMAN at home for him raising the children whether it was her when she was with him or Ms. Cottle now that she’s with him. That makes it a LOT easier to go out in the world and conquer it. Men tend to forget that it’s because women stay home and care for the little one’s they are able to go out and do their thing. No disrespect to men but raising a family household as well as your income standard when you have kids works much better when you have someone at home spotting for you. And since Mr. Harris is out on the road more than he’s home then yes it has been because of teh women in his life who’ve raised his children that has allowed him to do so. And saying you want your kids to live with you full time is not the same as how it would be if they did. Besides not being funny but EVERYONE says that in front of the judge at custody hearings, fathers and mothers….LOL

i feel you, “hmmm”.. but first off, she doesnt stay home witht the kids, because she makes 20k a year. so she must work fulltime. I bet TI would be willing to give her 30 or 40k to go get a degree so she can bring more $ into her home HERSELF for THEIR children, then to give her 10k a month that shes requesting, when women dont have to prove what they do with the $. Who needs 6-10k a month to raise a child? cmon now. a 200k mortgage is less than 2 grand a month. new cars- maybe another 1k. you’re still talking alot of extra leftover $. There’s more leftover then she makes in a year.

I feel WHO you lay down with has nothing to do with HOW MUCH u get monthly.

it’s retarded to attach income to payment for a child. Why does a kid to a prof athlete deserve 10k a month, when a kid to a mcdonalds worker gets 225 a month. Now if the court feels 225 can properly assist raising a child, how can you justify thousands to someone else? Because of what their daddy does? That’s retarded. There should be a scale – under 2yrs old needs x dollar amount. 2-5yrs old needs y dollar amount, 5-10 needs z dollar amount.. etc. Then ALL parents, regardless of income, are all on a level playing field – or should i say “paying field!”

Just cuz u lay down with someone with money doesnt mean you should be entitled to latch onto it for 18 years. Like another person on here said – baby momma is not a career. Help to raise – absolutely. Every man should take care of his kids, and if u dont – ur pitiful excuse for a man. But the sliding scale of support pymts we have in america is utterly rediculous. she makes 20 a yr, and wants 120 from him.. c’mon now..

and as for the woman staying at home – ti has time on his hands too. Im sure he sees his kids alot. I bet she WANTED the kids fulltime, so you dont get kudos for raising kids, when you wanted them with you. That goes along with the job. I dont expect a compliment because I pick up my kid from daycare every day – hes my kid, and it’s my responsibility. Does it make me a good dad – possibly. But i certainly dont deserve compliments for “holdin it down.”

I also bet he’d be happy to have them under his roof with his other children, but then baby momma wouldnt get anything. And we know how that plays out in courts.. men lose.

Popdaddy – my comment was in no way to infer Mr. Harris isn’t a good father. I’m sure he’s an excellent father as I’m sure she’s an excellent mother.

I personally believe people should get kudos for being good parents b/c it is such a thankless job. :O) So yes you are a good dad b/c you spend time with your children.

She didn’t sleep with him for money. Their kids were made prior to the fame and fortune which was my point. When you’ve been with someone since your were basically kids yourself it is a little hard for me to believe it’s JUST about the money. I feel this is more about getting it in writing more than anything else.

In regards to how much a parent gets, I do feel ya on that. But I don’t think it’s an easy answer. The system was set up to insure that children didn’t get shafted if one parent was doing better than the other. Of course in the old days it was the men who did better than women and to some degree that still holds true. It is a well known fact, well at least I’ve heard it said several times, :O) that the standard of living for children diminishes almost 50-60% when the father leaves or is not in that home. And the figure got worse when fathers remarried and had other kids. The courts kept hearing horror story after horror story how the kids where left out when the father moved on, especially if he got remarried. So they tried to implement a pay standard they thought would alleviate that. Unfortunately, both men and women have abused the system both ways and has made it difficult for good parents.

My only real point is I think both of them are good parents, but b/c of some of the things you’ve discussed and my point about the flawed system, we the people are jumping to conclusions. As I said early, and I apologize if I wasn’t clear (its hard to type thoughts when they come faster than your writing, which is why I love face to face as opposed to this type of thing :O) but I digress), I really think this is more about getting it in writing and when you go to court LAWYERS always jack up the asking price, trust me I know…LOL

With the uncertainity of our economic times, just think if those with are scared witless just imagine if you were without or limited.

Lastly, there are no easy answers to lifes complicated scenarios and blended families is one such scenario. I just hope both parties can move beyond this moment, ignore us bloggers, LOL and continue to be good parents to their children and hopefully at least pleasant to each other. Yeah I know I’m an optimist, but I like it. :O)

Popdaddy – You are indeed correct we ALL, myself included, bring our experiences to bare on any situation we discuss which is why it’s important for us to make peace with our pasts. :O) I noticed you said you were 33 yrs old. I’m a little older than you and have put to bed a LOT of my past pain and issues. I’m not a fan of male bashing especially when men and brothers in particular are SO MUCH fun to be around.:O) A lot of the bashing comes from women not putting to rest their pain and hurt, just like when brothers bash us.

To be honest I see so much of the pain, hurt, insecurities etc in our community and it breaks my heart. I guess as I’ve acquired a tiny piece of wisdom I’m learning that we’re all really just trying to do the best we can with what we got. And to semi quote Ms. Maya Angelou we do better when we know and understand better. Right now in my space of life I’ve learned that people want to do better when we come at them with love and respect not anger and hate. As I’m sure you can attest to when people and women specifically came at you with “attitude” your first response was always “step down and step off” even if the point they were trying to make was correct. But when she came at you with love respect and honored you as a man you automatically and innately wanted to do everything you could to live up to that standard. It is true for all of us as humans.

Lastly, thank you for the kudos. The same are returned to you. I have several brothers and a lot of male friends and I do listen when you all speak. :O) Me personally even though I was raised by a single woman, my mother NEVER spoke poorly of my father which is why he and I have a wonderful relationship today despite him not being there when I was young. I also realized it wasn’t my father not being there so much as how my mother treated him and situation that determined my attitude towards men. So your point to that is spot on. And I do know I wouldn’t be the woman I am today without all the men who have been in my life, yep including the ones who broke my heart. :O)

POPDADDY:

I’m sorry you feel that way, but hey- everyone is entitled to their opinion… I can respect that.
However, your generalization that the majority of women uses children to obtain more money is incorrect.
You already know child support is based on income/assets of both parents. Statistically, most seeking child support just happen to be women aka the custodial parent. Support may increase as the bread-winner income increases-depending on circumstances.
Every woman that asks for child support is not scorned or of devious nature. Many(more than 5%)simply want what’s best(includes entitlement)for their children.

With a situation like TI’s, I don’t choose sides. Hopefully they can get beyond this and continue to focus on the people that matter most– their sons.

who cares – you are right, income and assets of both parents. so if mom doesnt have any income or assets, why go out and EARN it and better yourself, when you can just re-evaluate your baby daddy income every year in court, and as his assets and income increase, so will baby mommas, for doing nothing on her own to better her own life. That’s the way it is. Nobody, if spoon fed money, is going to go out and earn their own. These women know this. You do too. Please tell me how she needs 10 grand a month, and what possibly a child could need, beyond medical needs, that would amount to so much. Its greed, plain and simple. She’s getting 3 grand a month + insurance + he sees his kids too. She cannot expect to live large off him. She makes 20 grand, gets 36 grand from him. 56 grand? With no health insurance or daycare?That’s middle class. There are alot of people makin it on 2 minimum wage incomes. She’s greedy, and shes envious of what the kids under his roof fulltime are getting that hers are not. She said that herself. She doesnt want such a disparency between what they’re offered at his house vs at home with her.

Greed and envy are not good things, “who cares”..thats why they are both deadly sins. She should get some gumption and get a degree, get a better career, and better her kids life herself. Trust me, t.i. will kick in more dough VOLUNTARILY, if he sees that shes kickin butt and takin names to better their children’s lives.

And lastly, going from 3k-10k a month is not asking for an “increase”. Its an 84 THOUSAND dollar a yr increase, my friend. If you make 36 grand, and ask your boss for 120, for doing the same exact job you been doing, what do you think his response would be? Exactly. Pink slip.

first off the people hating on tip need to wake up the girl is getting 72,000 a year in child support and now this chick wants 120,000 a year for 2 kids? puh leeze is this chick crazy? tip might as well have FULL CUSTODY he’s paying for every damn thing (tuition, car note, medical insurance, extra curricular activities and clothes with that) !!! She is just plain lazy and GREEDY…. and im a woman .She does NOT deserve one more red cent!!! she should be happy he’s even in their lives he’s always photographed with them,he isn’t a deadbeat so she needs to SIT DOWN, this is BS. If she wants it to be so “equal” why not let him keep the kids??? YOU are no longer his WOMAN so stop looking at TINY and wishing you were living that life get a J-O-B. And all this she is ‘at home taking care of them.” shut up already sittng home with your kids WILL NOT pay the bills so that is not an excuse for her. there are plenty of women who work 2 jobs and their kids are fine i have NO sympathy for her at ALL.

WORD OF ADVICE..PUT A CONDOM ON IT..ESPECIALLY IF YOU THINKIN ABOUT HAVIN A KID BY T.I. HE AIN’T TRYN TO GIVE UP HIS DOUGH,,,,TINY BEWARE.

I RIDE WITH T.I. HE WORKS HARD FOR HIS MONEY WHY SHOULD HE HAVE TO GIVE IT TO HIS KIDS MOTHER? GIRL YOU BETTER USE SOME OF THAT MONEY AND GO BACK TO SCHOOL.