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Celebrity hairstylist Derek J has never been ashamed of who he is and proudly expresses himself through his love of women’s shoes and clothes.
The ‘Fashion Queen’ also has no problem expressing himself to people who try to insult him and has a few words for some of you online ‘mean girls’ out there!
Derek recently posted a photo on instragram that sparked a slew of comments from what appears to be a group of angry Black women.
The pic, posted under the cut, one of his HOT male friends sparked a debate amongst the women about how ‘fine’ Gay men are a waste but Derek promptly put ‘em in check, noting that saying ‘he’s too fine to be Gay‘ is an insult not a compliment to Gay men and that it’s comparable to saying ‘she’s pretty for a dark skinned girl’…
Ouch! He really went there?!? 
Details below…
Derek posted the photo above of he and his friend and the ladies went wild…
The comments kept going and going and going. In addition to saying he was a ‘waste” that he was Gay, some even began to question the guy’s sexuality, saying he didn’t “look” gay so he must be DL. Derek’s couldn’t take it anymore and decided to respond to all the hate, stating…
How do you feel about Derek’s response?
Do you agree that saying ‘he’s too fine to be Gay” to a Gay male just as insulting as saying “she’s pretty for a dark-skinned girl to a Black chick?
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Not all gay men are ugly. BUT YOU ARE!
STFU!
ouch…….
Yes..lol…I agree..now I’m no hater..I give credit where it’s due…but he/she whatever is nothing attractive.
I gotta agree Derek is no beauty queen he’s shaped like a box a Cheerios.
I always thought he was shaped somewhat like Sponge Bob.
I didn’t know men were supposed to even have a shape in the first place.
He actually has a shape for a man because hello that’s what people fail to remember.
He just happens to stuff his body into womens clothes and shoes better than some women thats why your taking notice.
I am going to go with pregnant linebacker.
@Yeah, I’m taking notice alright. I notice that he looks like a stuffed sausage.
That honor belongs to N
LOL!!! Hell naaa….
Dana T.
Derek J. sucks….His thights looks like "Elephant Thighs/Gabby Sidabe Thights…And he needs a "Stylist ASAP"….Weirdo
yes and his clothes are always super tight, it’s not cute!!!! if he going to do womens clothes and shoes, it should not be tight as hell, not a good look at all for a man his age and build! tight womens clothes aint even cute on women!
LMFAO!!!
Aww the Gay Atlanta Black Man topic LOL this is gonna be a hot one. cant wait to read these hostile comments.
Bullshit no comparison.
"The dick ain’t going to waste, it’s just not going into you" BOOM..that is all folks..nothing to see here..move it along! Y’all gonna learn about messing with a queen! bwahahahaha
Yes! Best quote. I agree with Derek J’s comment and I think he’s just wonderful. An awesome man, with good taste.
LOL I agree! Now people on this site wanna come for his looks GTFOH y’all must be mad because he has a worst shape than you but pullin more dudes still? HA!
+1. He summed it ALLLLLLL up in that one sentence. Nothing else needs to be said.
Ha! I love your comment!
Derek J is EEWWWgly as hell. Im sorry. He does not have a fashionable bone in his chubby body. lol. Now Miss Lawrence is ALWAYS fierce and fabulous (2 snaps). Although I do not agree with the homosexual lifestyle, I do agree that you do not have to say/do mean things to other people.
Someone PLEASE educate me on this:
Why would a gay man want to be with a man who looks like a woman??… shouldn’t he just be with a woman if he’s attracted to femininity?
I’m a gay male and have had an attraction to a trans woman or two in my day. For me, it was more about the actual lifestyle she is in vs her being a woman. Whoo! This is harder to explain than I thought. I am not attracted to women, but a trans woman has a better understanding of me my attraction to males. I’m sure you’d say just get with a born female who is excepting of a gay/bi male. That wouldn’t work for me. I guess for me, I know that the woman is trans and was born male, and even though I see them as women, I still think there is a certain allure that comes with them being trans. I’m sure someone else’s answer would vary widely from mine.
As a gay male as well, I can totally see where you are coming from, I’m personally not attracted to trans or drags, but I know people that are and I have been with someone that was. People i.e women kill me that whole saying "too cute or fine to be gay" Like are all gay men supposed to be ugly like WTF I missed that memo, and obviously my mother did too when she had me. So I say to those women that feel that way, you’re too pretty to be str-8 or your to whatever to be doing what you’re doing, they wouldn’t know how to take that if someone retaliated to them in that matter, as much as us attractive gay men get the "you’re too w/e to be gay" and I agree with DerekJ like all gay men dnt have to wear purses and heels to be gay, or carry themselves in a flamboyant way to let that be known, i’m not my sexuality so why do I neccessarily have to carry myself in that manner to let it be known, cause to be honest i’m attracted to guys you can’t tell that are gay, but are openly gay…theres a big diff!! -ignorance
YOUR JUST SICK AND CONFUSED
You’re an idiot.
SO RIGHT SO TRUE, IT’S SAD AT THIS POINT THAT HOMOSEXUALITY IS THE NEW "IN" THING. THIS PEOPLE ARE TRULY SICK AND TWISTED, PEDOPHILES AND BESTIALITY NOT TO MENTION THE RIDICULOUS NOTION THAT CHILDREN SHOULD BE ALLOWED AROUND THIS FILTH WILL BE THE NEXT "IN" THING. AFTER ALL THIS PEOPLE ACTUALLY BELIEVE THEY CAN GET MARRIED BEFORE GOD AND MAN…
I can’t answer that one for you and I’m gay myself. He’s got to be a dude…
Dana T.
OMG I been saying the same thing for years! That shiz ain’t cute and it d@mn sure ain’t a compliment when a female tells me I shouldn’t be gay because they like my look. WTF is that about!?
SN: The first pic above of Derek J is shocking. I never go with Derek’s fashion choices, but he is slaying in that floral piece and the gold heel. That is the second time I’ve personally agreed with his style choice. Good shiz Derek J!
I think it’s hilarious!! I love Derek J and I hate it when people treat people some kind of way based off what they prefer to do in their bed! Get yo life boo!!(in my best Tamar voice)No one says anything to you because your preference is unemployed no good lying cheating baby daddy now do they?!?!? So get off his back! They are both FINE men POINT BLANK PERIOD regardless of what their preference is!
who is derek J fucking without paying be foreal
Chile, you’d be surprised! His fame (and I use the term as loosely as one could possibly imagine lol) alone, is enought to snag trade, as well as social climbing, pretentious, "I know/fucked Derek J" type bunnies without him spending a dime. They would get with him for the investment potential.
Derek J is a local celeb in the A. His shop is very popular, plus he shows out at the hair show, and he acting up at the gay clubs and bars throwing fierce parties. I wanna be Derek J friend just so I can throw shade, sip tea and spill it later at all the ATL events he gets invited too.
ewwww….
NO DAYUM BODY BC HE IS THREW AS HELL UGLY AS A MAN OR WOMAN!!!!
When you are a bit older you will learn that beauty is only skin deep and ugly goes to the bone. Keep dwelling on the superficial and that is all you will get. A stiff one, wet buns, and heartache.
girl die! dont get on here trying to kick knowledge to me taking up for no punks! you gotta be kidding me . i know your momma didnt raise you like that. the fact remains derek j is ugly! period! just like tiny, oprah, estelle,tori spelling, wendy wms, flav, star jackson,tan mom, & probably YOU. i can appreciate what ppl are for the inside(thats y i date only ugly straight men thx!) BUT the truth shall set you free homegirl.
Um… It’s hard to take anything he has to say seriously with that outfit on. Ijs.
Derek J got all into his feelings….so for a moment Ill get into mine.People use to compare the struggle of African Americans to gays.THERE IS NO COMPARISON! I dont think saying he’s fine is an insult,most people simply judge by appearance,because thats the first thing you see.But dont act like there are no DL brothers in the ATL.I believe in live and let live,but for you to think you just checked all black women,you need to go back to bed and hope your a** dont wake up ignorant.
I’ll agree that the comparison is not really the same from black vs gay. But not every masc male is DL. Some men identify as masculine and are still openly gay. Some males only look masc but when they open their mouth…drag queen. Saying a gay male is fine is not an insult, but saying that the gay man is too fine to be str8 is blatant disrespect. Seriously, think about what someone is saying when they speak that. It’s like when I hear ignorant comments about males only being gay because they can’t get a female. WTF is that about?! Newsflash: gay males and str8 males come in all varieties. I have seen plenty of ugly gay men, and just as many ugly str8 men. Same with attractiveness. Str8 man aren’t the only men who can be attractive.
Lmao you sound like my nana talking bout go back to bed and hope your ass don’t wake up ignorant! Too funny.
I know your nana is a wise woman,so THANK YOU!:)
I think it’s the struggle of both movements that are compared. I’m black and gay so I have the race struggle to contend with, white and black folk and I have to deal with the gay thing white and black folk.
Black folk can be the most program-able group around. We believe any and everything that comes from the T.V. or the powers that want to be. No one has to agree with things they don’t understand, I wouldn’t recommend that anyway.
Dana T.
a lot of these gay men tickle me…..especially the ones who hate anything related to women and then want to be a woman…also to me some of these gay men are selling themselves short they are no better than sideline hoes they brag about sexing “straight” and downlow men in all actuality these men only want sex and will not even bring them out and public…i.e. a side bitch !
But, a lot of straight dudes do this to you all everyday all day. What’s worse is that the women believe the shit the straight men say to them…
It’s terrible…
I see my straight male friends running game on the females a lot and I just sit by and shake my head.
Dana T.
On topic though…..he has a point to some degree but the inflation of egos for these gay men is just climbing something serious…..it’s all about the dick….they hold the dick in such high regard like it’s not hard to come by…..
O Frankie.
The thing that destroys the world is the male ego. Gay men are no different. We are still just men. The gay part is just some extra shit…
The ego is the main reason why straight relationships often time don’t work. Me and some of my female friends discuss this all the time. A lot of women make a lot of money these days. I would go so far as to say, most professional black women make more money than their men, if they even have one. The straight men are intimidated by this and when the ladies get mad at the men they throw their success in the dudes faces one way or another. The dudes EGO can’t take such an attack. So the men usually do one or two things, they start to abuse or cheat on the woman or they just simply sit back and use the woman. Then, the women are hurt and damaged and become just as confused as you and other folks accuse gay people to be.
You women need to stop worrying about gay stuff cause the hetero world has a whole host of problems to deal with, like failing relationships/marriages, children who are out of control and last but certainly not least, lack of spiritual involvement.
Dana T.
@DanaT. Now I don’t care about none of this. I am glad y’all come out in the open about this. But you say straight women need not be concern. I think as black women being straight it is our concern because of many reason 1) procreation meaning keeping our race in existence 2) our motherly instincts always kicks in with concern not hate. and 3) it is the black woman who keeps our race alive even when we can choose other races we choose our own. This is a concern. But it is also a concern because of the numerous of black men who do look good but keeping it on the down low. So for you to tell us not to care why can’t we. Again, this article does nothing for me and I don’t care cause I think both guys are ugly. However, when reading the ladies post they ended it with(LOL) meaning it was just a joke. People take things too serious and I think some tranny guys are just in competition with the real deal so anytime they can have one up on the real woman they like to boast about it. I think women just need to let go and let everyone have their little party. No big deal and nothing to see spectacular.
@what2dawhat:
I feel you. This subject may not have much meaning to you but imagine if the majority of the world including people you have things in common with such as skin color say to you and your group have no place in the world when you know you do cause you exist. O, wait you already live this…
I just feel that women have other things that they could be paying attention to, not that this isn’t important but just trying to survive in the world is hard enough for you as a woman and me as a dude. This subject should be important to you. You never know what life will bring you tomorrow. A son, an uncle, a favorite cousin, etc., How will you handle it?
Dana T.
I guess I could see why he’s upset, but being a straight woman who has had that thought (Damn what a waste…), I have never said it meaning, "All homosexuals are ugly…" or any of the other comparisons he through out there. Actually my thought has never been about the person’s partner. I think it’s most about lamenting over the fact that if a man is fine and prefers other men, then he’s not even an option. That is the reality. However, although I think Derek J is being a bit sensitive, understanding how the expression could be offensive to others, I suppose I will at least give pause and consider before I speak. That’s just me.
I don’t think anyone EVER EVER EVER EVER told Derek J he was too fine to be gay. Lmaoooo
@Anna Marie WHY did you kill me? LMAO! dead@ EVER EVER EVER EVER!
RITE!LMAO!
I sure would like to know who told him that he was too fine to be gay. I think he’s a dresses well, but he is ugly as sin.
I’ve been enlightened. I won’t say it anymore… (But I will be THINKING it) – forgive me. I’m human.
As a gay male myself, I don’t think they are the same at all.
The only thing both comments have in common is the negative connotation associated with gays/dark skinned blacks. But the difference, in my opinion, is that whenever women make that comment, they are essentially saying "he’s too sexy for someone who will never be accessible to me." The bottom line is, they want the dick, but can’t get it! The "pretty for a dark skinned girl" comment, in most cases, are from people who still have the opportunity to date said individual per se (assuming the comment originates from the opposite sex).
So to me, no, I don’t see them as the same. Believe it or not, I actually consider the comment a bit flattering in some ways. It reaffirms that we don’t all look like the stereotypical flame throwers you see on television.
+ 9500000000000000000000000000000000000000
idk y he on fashion queens anyhow, it’s a joke!! him and lawerence is a hot mess.. that shit aint cute. it’s a shame how people can praise this fools
GO IN & LET HAVE DEREK J!!!!!!!!!!!
He does have a point.. U cannot judge a book by it cover. this is where women go wrong. assuming he to phine to be gay and try to change him into being straight. now that’s wrong in many elements. we have to accept ppl for who they are. them for who they are or keep out their life.. its hard being a gay person and they may seem strong on the outs love ide but people ya’ll negative words and judgement will stick to a persons soul no matter how strong the person is.
Girl please! I love the boys but when I see Derek j fine does not enter my mind,boy from the head and big girl from the stomach down! Really?
I agree with derek but why does he always look a damn mess except for when he wore that red suit.
My thing with Derek J, is that he doesn’t realize he is insulting another group, because he was disappointed with what a few stated. I am dark-skinned and his comment doesn’t bother me. But the comments didn’t come from dark-skinned women, it came from superficial, judgmental women. I think the comment was inappropriate from these women, but that didn’t help his case. Some of the women that left the comments about his friend may be the same type of women that feels that dark-skinned women are normally not cute. I think when you are in the media, you should not make such general comments.
being darkskin and being gay are not even in the same category ..please
Why yall askin for the truth? he ugly both ways from both of my eyes lol.when it comes to agirl they lookgood in all colors if you ask me GOD made them perfect. but he ugly as aman 1st then as a shim 2nd. he can get MAD if he want to PUSSY ASS N!&&A WHAT AWASTE OF A MAN. THEY NEED AJAIL FOR ALL THE GAY GUYS SO THEY CAN DO HAIR/MAKEUP ALL DAY IF THEY WANT TO LOL.!
LOL… Funny azz hell…
Dana T.
in that order! lol lol lol
take off that GoDDAM DRESS
IDK about his analogy.Skin tone and body parts are to different things.Sounds like some beauty shop talk..The guy is where he want to be. Stop salivating girls,let it go. I use to club w/my childhood friend and I’d see some of the local college football players layered in muscles in there(gay club)squeezing,hug’d up and dancing w/queens old and new!
I have traveled extensively. And ATL gays are a class of their own. I love them they come second to my NY gays. Women say "waste" because those fine ass genes are not being passed on to babies. Then again there are plenty of gay men who have children before they came out the closet. Some make arrangements with the AG girls and have babies, case $17 K for invetro is no happening. No Gwad.
Derek J probably know all the Tea! Don’t you?
This how it normally goes.
Damn! He fine! whew! fans self! walks over brief conversation. You gay! Are you sure? Picks face up off the floor and walks away.
Damn he fine as hail! ( we all have our won definition of fineness)
But the title including the words "Bitter Black Women" slays me-The only thing that I’m bitter about is those scarred up legs and supersized calves in those heels. I never thought I would see the day when a man would try to read a woman about some dick.
If ONLY someone can tell him HOW to walk in heels..just because you love it and found it in your size..doesn’t mean you should wear it..his body is too squat for those fashion choices and he stomps mudholes in those size 13’s! Let’s make this clear, Derek J can be whoever he is because I am NOT the Father and I will not judge MAN..but I WILL judge a walking fashion mishap
amen and thank you! how is he on fashion queens when he is the very opposite of it him and his two co-host! yeah … thats a "READ"! bitches!
"Just because you love it and found it in your size doesn’t mean you should wear it" has me on the floor crying! Truer words have NEVER been written. PREACH!
gurrrrrrrrl lmfao!!!! you on fire today!
Lmao!! Right! Derek J, you get a big ole chile please! Yuck.
I need to stop reading your posts when people are sleep because I hollered yet again Lawd
This is funny coming from you…and that other one…
I’m still stuck on "all gay men do carry purses and wear heels" Really Derek? Smack ya self for that one. There are plenty of gay men who are not jumping in womens clothes, rocking the rainbow or screaming Yes Gwad/No Gwad.
AND DONT FORGET AS QUIET AS ITS KEPT,AND HUNTY! LOL
That was a typo i re read it..he meant NOT ALL
Noone cares what he has to say…..unless its about hair.
He not fine to be gay, but certainly too fine to be wit Derek Jae!
It all stated when Pam told Gina "Why can’t Cole be gay?" lol
started* ..dammit !
"your sexual experience don’t determine your sexuality". I disagree whole heartedly on that one sir! If a dude I’m interested in is have sexual relations with another man. then by all means in my book his ass is gay! point blank and the period!!!!!
i agree with his statement … ive "experiemented" before … I dont consider myself gay.
i am not saying i agree with comments said, however… people are going to feel how they feel … if you post a pic up for thousands to comment on.. you are going to get a thousand opinions … some you like, some you dont like … besides … guys say that about lipsticks all the time… all the time… especially when they get turned down for a session of indulging in his own set of fantasies and fetishes …
people who say the same thing about dark girls or big girls … are going to feel that way, whether you like it or not … you may not like the comments … but people are entitled to their thoughts and opinions … and the internet has become a public forum to voice them …
~ whatevs … if you dont like to comments … dont post pics … or unfriend folks … simple as 1..2…3
Lol@ everybody. These comments are hilarious!!
superficial ppl. smhh. Determine ppl by who they are and not how they look. applying this will get u a sable of great ppl. some ppl are just plain simple minded. Period.
Derek J, go get an AIDS test! ugh, i can’t stand gay men ,let alone gay men that dress in women’s clothes and shoes, you are not a woman honey, you are a confused little boy in a grown man’s body!
Now granted he analogy was flawed but "go get a aids test" was totally uncalled for.
Huh, Mary says, you do know that straight people get AIDS too?
Totally not cool…
Dana T.
are you derek j’s personal assistant? yeah straight people get it from down low gays and blood transfusions!!!!! hiv/aids is still a gay mans gay womans disease! trust and believe! if a straight person got it, they got it from a gay! tell derek i said hi too!
O dude… This is the type of programing and miss information that goes from adult to their children and then continues for another generation, i.e., Paula Dean.
I’m in no way connected to Dereck J and his buffoonary. I just wish people would open their eyes and by that I mean their minds.
Having a medical condition like AIDS/HIV is as serious as having Cancer. It doesn’t matter who it comes from but that it exists and it kills. What I’m getting from what you’re saying is that gay people and drug users bring this on themselves and that they deserve this. If so, shame on yo azz cause no one deserves to lose somebody they love to any of these disease’s. For you to make lite of this speaks volume about who you are but I WILL SAY THIS Mary, keep living…
Dana T.
damm derek j looks really sickly he betta go get tested
exactly!!!! and take off the womens clothes and shoes! this man is deranged! we should be praying for him…. he is really sick, him and ms lawrence! make up lipstick womens clothes and shoes and purses, this is craziness God will not be mocked, for whatsoever a man soweth that shall he also reap! derek j and ms lawrence will burn in hell with their whore clothes on!
I’m sorry, but gay men are some of the most judgmental people in this world. Please have several seats. Moving right along…
There is obviously something seriously wrong with a man that insist on wearing women’s clothing. Everything he has to say is null and void.
yes it is, God will not be mocked, mark my words! derek is one ugly ass manwoman too!
+100
To answer the statement "He’s too cute to be gay" As a straight woman I have heard this statement often. It doesn’t mean that gay men are ugly, but it does put gay men is a box or make them stereotypical. A lot of gay men carry feminine traits, ie look more like a woman than a man even if they were straight, they have feminine traits or looks. Whereas others, like Derek J, whom I love, looks masculine, and is muscular like the average man. This doesn’t make him any less of a man than any other man, he just have a sexual preference. When women see a man of Derek J statue, they feel it’s a waste of a fine man to be with another man. Women feel that with a lot of the fine men choosing other men as a sexual partner it doesn’t leave much left for the women. And women just because a man is fine doesn’t make the ding, ding a waste no more does it make him better in bed, it’s just an illusion. WTBS: Everyone needs to stop putting people of any orientation in a box and leaving them there. As humans we come in all different colors, looks and sexual preferences and God made us all. All gay men aren’t flamboyant. Derek J, keep doing you boo. There are as many people that loves you as there are haters. Keep it moving.
Often times we go off on tangents (comments above) and throw our own personal experiences into forming surface, baseless opinions about a situation. And they are more than irrelevant. So, lets actually attack the comment itself. Hardly ever do people say "They too fine to be gay" and mean just that. That is usually the type of blanket statement unintellectual people use when they cant conjugate and/or hide behind what they REALLY mean. What most of these women probably meant was "Hey. He is fine. I know I can’t have him so imma throw shade and make a bitter, angry, hit dog comment"
But anywhoooo I just wanted to address the abstract and psychological side of this situation. i dont feel any certain way about the actual said "Offensive" comment that was made. I can count my list of hangups on one hand. Who gives a sh*t. Focus on stacking YOUR money up and Live YOUR life.
Omg…get over it D.J…There are better things to fight ir debate than what some lonely women say online about a gay man…why keep getting mad mad when someone says something….as long as they’re not physically harming you let it go…im I’m sure those women sre just jealous. .
It seems to me like it is the other way around. Afterall, HE is the one dressed in WOMEN’s attire. So who is jealous of who?Otherwise, why would he take the time and energy to write a lengthy comment?
Scuse me? He don’t even know who he is, so he has no biznes trying to read anyone. Hush BOY….scurry on somewhere in them big heels!
What kills me is the energy wasted on even acknowledging the idiotic judgments of internet strangers vs. the the energy that should/coulda gone into basic spelling and grammar skills. Check those priorities, boo and don’t waste time giving life to those that have too much of one and not enough of the other!
…and in that order!
There is nothing cute about any part of this!
I love my Boo! Now, runteldat ishes!
Well he sure doesn’t have to worry about ever hearing those words!
WORD!! #DerekJ that was offensive women!! Ya’ll should know better!
Not really sure how I feel about it. On one hand, I understand where he’s coming from but on the other hand, I understand how the women feel as well. I just don’t get why the gays always want to compare their drama to the struggle of African Americans as a whole. Yes that being fine for a gay man statement is stupid but it doesn’t compare to being pretty for a dark skinned or being called pretty for a big girl statement. Hell it’s commonplace for gay men to be fine (to me anyway), shit the majority of them live in LA Fitness. *Kanye shrug*
O dear…
It’s compared cause it’s the most known and the similarity of bigotry is pretty close. One simply get it from the whites and the blacks in the case of being gay.
Dana T.
he look a Hot ass Mess in heels bigass head and a superior gut. and it ain’t cute.Read me mr.thang.
Ok first off no offense to anybody but I aint NEVA EVA EVA seen a fine ass gay dude. Where yall be finding them cuz I sho don’t see none. I see average, ok, basic and often hot messes. Nothing wrong with being average ijs. And I always see pretty dark skinned girls so again where these supposed ugly ones at. To me Derek and anybody thinking like him got some insecurity issues and harbor hate towards anything hetero or dark skinned.
Thank you!
These heterosexual women who defend guys like Derek Jay, etc are in for one huge rude awakening. Just wait, when their sons, grandsons, fathers, and spouses are saying they want to lay up with another dude, they will be surprised…lol…just wait! It’s coming!
I personally think Prince is the fionest gay dude EVER! Michael was second. B.Scott third. As for Derek J., it’s his attitude that will always keep him on top. Keeping it real…he never flaunts that sickening diva crap that’s starting to bury Miss Lawrence’s over the top loud azz. Even on "Fashion Queens" Derek keeps a line of respect for the trashee. His pleasant demeanor and respect for others will take him even farther than he is now. Only one wish…PULEEZE stop getting comfy enough to let cameras film you in stocking caps..never a good look.
Prince is not gay…that’s first.
If he was…he’d be the first to tell it and wouldn’t be ashamed.
Prince tapps into his feminine and is heavily influenced by Jimi Hendrix down to the ruffled shirts. ITs a look.
Prince was married to 1 woman Mayte and dated a host of women. As feminine as HE is HE would still not be caugt…IN NO DAMN SKIRT! Lol….(not yelling at you…just love me some Prince)
Prince was gayer than Michael. Thanks to Dick Clark and other mentors, he stopped wearing fishnet stockings,spike heels and putting his gayness on blast. He only married Matye because he wanted a baby..just like Mike married Lisa and Debbie. Matye can’t to this day tell you WHY Prince divorced her. Never heard of him with any other chic. And also like Michael..Prince is a Jehovah’s witness. No WAY would he proclaim his lifestyle to his church. I love him in all his ruffles.
Oh, and no he didn’t wear skirts…in his first appearances he wore fishnets, spike heels and negligees. Check him out on YouTube.
WOW!! Looks like Prince deleted all of his early 80’s videos off the map!! That must have cost him a purple penny.
You see fine gay dudes on a daily basis Mz. Dee. However, they are on the DL.
Fantasies…some women are so lonely when they see a gay man who is obviously gay to everyone else its a shocker to find out dude is gay. So to make themselve feel good about the situation they make that "too fine to be gay comment"
LOL…
MzDee, where to you live?
Atlanta and D.C. both have some fine azz black gay dudes and not the ones with the dresses on or ladies articles. Masculine dudes that you would get wet by just looking at.
Dana T.
Preach Pastor Derek! Wow, that needed to be said and women don’t get mad, but TAKE it in, and THINK it over, you might realize that he’s right. He could have said "she got a cute face, for a big girl". "Love ya Derek J, live your life; you only get one, and why live it to please someone else."
Are you a woman? If so, are you straight? If so, how would you feel if Derek J was laying up with your straight man? I bet you will be singing a different tune at the point. Honey please, wake up and smell the coffee!
I think this whole gay thing goes well beyond what meets the eye. Come on, not all men-especially black men- are gay. However, there is a growing number of men who are gay or experiencing sexual intercourse, etc with other men, particularly in the Atlanta and DC metro area. Personally, I believe there is some sort of fad occurring. Just being on facebook has become a drudgery for me. All of these men are showing off their asses for these other men. I think, women are getting so annoyed with the men on the DL, not the openly gay men. Just think women, what are we to do when majority of men come out the closet and demand we as women are to accept their bisexuality, etc. Ladies, trust and believe me when I say there are wayyy more men than you know who are into other men and pretending they are straight. Only time will tell. We are sadly approaching a different era. Not Good!!!
You are RIGHT! There are an astronomical number of Black men and rising population of white and Latinos. Black men especially because they’re scared of responsibility for themselves, women and being tied to a child they can’t and won’t financially support. Too selfish and lazy/broke to wear condoms. Too dumb because of weed addiction to pass ANY kind of test whether educational or job related. And lastly..they just don’t care. So they live with and f*ck anybody who will take care of them.
Sooooo true, Versatile.
Also…Black men get use to gay traits through repeat stints in jail/prison. Survival mode becomes the norm.
Damn, probably the realest comment on her. So many black women getting sick and they not getting sick from other black women. Its the DL they view as fine, not knowing these fine gay guys are sleeping with many women. Ive seen that a few times in Atlanta.
Not approaching, we already been in that era but the masses are just now catching on. If a man is willingly having sex with another man, and that don’t make him gay then IDK what does ….. see it this type of thinking that has sooooo many in denial and confusion, GTHOOHWTBS, If you having sex with the same sex you are gay ot the very least which is gay imo no matter how you slice it.
When strait viral men get locked up for 5 or more years, there’s no way some he aint’ pumpin’ dudes head on his dyk AND in their azzez. Now his woman don’t want to believe that and travels every month to sit on his lap cause in the back of her mind she don’t want him to be tempted. When the lights go out sh*t goes on. That doesn’t make dude gay…it’s just that he can’t suck his own dyk.
That’s some BS and a prime example of the confused and in denial, every dude that gets locked up does not turn to another man for sex, unless he wants to, which means he had some tendencies before going to jail…. and or the dude got raped but some men would die first before letting that happen
@OSSH; You may also e right. Who really knows? After Ving Rahmes got pumped in his ass in "Get Shorty" he’s been pursing his lips ever since. "Holiday Heart", "Chuck and Larry". I think everyone is born with these traits. As they grow so doestheir choice. Some choose to hide what they know is the dominant until somewhere later in life they can’t suppress anymore. I think it’s best to be who you know you are than let anger at judgemental society and frustration manifest into something dangerous and degenerate like Dahmer and pedophile priests and pastors.
I hear you Nikki, but I’m confused more so than note. If you and other people are saying that the number of black men (in Atl, and D.C.) experimenting with sex in particularly with other dudes is rising than what does that say about the pussy? Really? What does that say?
Let’s get it in…
I’ve been reading posts and listening to folk make crazy azz comments about gayness. You don’t know what you’re talking about first off. Secondly, if there is power in the pussy then we wouldn’t be having these conversations cause there wouldn’t be any conversions, according to what a lot of y’all are saying. We are somehow or another converting straight dudes to gay ones. Most of my male friends are straight, they all know I like dudes. We still go out to sports bars and watch football games and talk about y’all. They know I’m just a regular dude. These are my folks… They have no interest in dudes, I don’t get any vibes from any of them. They all love women and so do I. I just don’t like having sex with them.
They don’t look down on me or think that I’m less than a man than they are. They also know I don’t take any shit either. So, with the exception of who I screw around with I’m the same as the next man and so are a lot of my gay brothers.
Dereck J and other dress wearing dudes make up the sensationalized group of us. It’s safer for everyone to show the prissy dude dancing around doing hair than a NBA player showing up at a black tie event with his boyfriend.
Think of it like this. In the early days of film, it was better to show black folk with really dark skin shuckin and jivin and tap dancing then one who played a doctor and could speak well.
Please people, open your minds…
Dana T.
I have seen men who are gay, really good looking and said the same thing(too fine to be gay)and I have seen dark women who are gorgeous and never thought they "were pretty to be dark". WTH. That’s probably the way he thinks.
I take it he has accepted his destiny in hell, and the fudge packers too. God’s patience I know is paper thin with these homosexuals. Jesus didn’t die for this.
Amen.
Throwing Bricks at glass houses huh???
LOL…
Dana T.
Thank you!!! No sin is greater than the other.
@Rawhunee You have no clue of how much patients God have so let’s not speak for Him. And yes, Jesus did die for this…he died for OUR SINS. So before you start speaking on what others are doing take a long look in the mirror. You have and is sinning, talking about/judging others is a sin and if you say you’re not or haven’t then you just SINED…lying is a sin.
@Cl Now why would you call gay people pedophiles and bestiality? You do know the meaning of those two words, right? No? I didn’t think so.
Pedohile – An adult who is sexually attracted to children.
Being gay doesn’t mean a gay person want to have sex with children. You want to bash gays?, why not bash the PEDOPHILES, the men and women nthat prey on helpless children. Gays are being killed, and raped while people that prey on children get a slapmon the wrist, have to register him/her self as a pedophile bwhile targeting their next victom.
Bestiality – Savagely cruel or depraved behavior. 2) Sexual intercourse between a person and an animal.
People can be so ignorant and think they’re say something or better yet "spitting knowledge". Smh
LOL… Y’all kill me speaking for GOD… LOL. Luv it…
Dana T.
Chile please; TELL ME TOMORROW!
They constantly try him on Instagram and it’s easier said than done to not respond. He is good at his craft seems really sweet. I won’t judge him about his personal. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder however I have died and cried and had to lay to the side after some of these outfits.
When a woman says a man is too fine to be gay, all she is saying is that he’s a waste of a man as it pertains to a woman. Just like when I see a fine/thick sista with a white dude or another woman, I think to myself that neither one of them can physically handle "that" the way it needs to be handled!!
Yes! And I’m sure these same women turnbtheir nose up whenever they see a black man with a white women. I guess that would be a waste too, huh?
LOL… O, yeah, don’t forget a sin as well.
People are crazy and don’t realize they are. LMAO…
Dana T.
Uhm…don’t be mad cuz you are an ugly man and am UGLIER WOMAN!
I am the bytch that you wish you was and the QUEEN YOU COULD NEVER BE!
Real men gay or staright wear PANTS! Now twirl on that!
Check out both of there lips….like they sucking on something other than AIR.
LMBAO!!!
I think he’s justified in his response. i’ll admit i’ve said "what a waste" but it’s because exactly like DJ said I was mad it wasn’t going in me. lol.
I dont think they were talking a bout derek J cuz he dont hide who he is I think they were refering to the friend. But know You can never judge a book by the cover. There are way to many men out there with a lady on there arm just to cover up the talk but there man is at home waiting. Personaly I feel like we all need to be excepting of anyone who is gay and then we wouldn’t have any dl and confussion. but these woman need to realize wether or not a man is gay dont mean he would want you.
There is merrit to what he said. Alot of single women blame gay men for their situation.
you may be gay but youre a man before anything derek j… can the hand bags and the heels and man up.. be a gay man and not a gay man and not a cross dresser who wishes he was a woman…. i just don’t get it!! if you’re into dudes that like dudes… what’s the point in dressing like a woman?? you suffer from identity crisis… take a pill… smh
You gay men make me sick. Why we gotta be bitter ’cause we don’t agree with gays. Gay people are a abomination. And all y’all going to HELL point blank period there is no way around it. Gay people are bringing this country down.
LOL…
Gay people are bringing this country down???
LMAO… You guys are too funny. People who don’t mind their own business and are not paying attention to there own house is what’s bring this country down. If you look at your own family I’m sure there are some questionable situations that are going on that would could bring some of your confused biblical thoughts into question. You should really take a look.
Dana T.
NOW, YOU KNOW I GOT’S TO WEIGH IN ON THIS…
I noticed a long time ago that if a dude is expressive, you know, carrying pocket books and doing hair and shit like that, then he is the girlz best friend. Y’all can ke ke and laugh and gossip but if his interests are "regular dude stuff" like watching football, fixing cars, acting hood, y’all know, things that black folk equate to being straight then the women are pisted and say things like what a waist.
NEWS FLASH!!!
Most of us don’t carry purses or have interest in hair or chic stuff. That doesn’t mean we are on the DL. It just means that we don’t care about those types of things and we don’t want to be women. So stop saying things like what a waist cause it’s stupid. If you’re female and are alone don’t blame it on Atlanta or the men here, you’re alone because of you.
Take a look in the mirror at you and then say what a waist…
Dana T.
BOOM! @ "Take a look in the mirror and say what a waste…"
I just can’t seem to figure out WHY PEOPLE HAVE A PROBLEM with gay people? Why not mind your business, let everyone live their lives the way they want.
Dana T, I’m not sure if you took my sin comment as a direct hit or not, nif so it wasn’t meet to be. I was saying a sin because that is how other’s; "Christians" "saved folk" see it. So I used that term because a sin is a sin no matter what that sin is.
I don’t know what God truly think of gays and us lesbians but what I do know is that God is "love" and we love the same as anybody else. I was raised in the Church, and the paster talked about gays and lesbians are sinners and had a special place in hell. So that aoone scared the living crap out of me. I tried changing the way I felt about girls, I even started dating boy’s, but that feeling I had never went away.
People say "You weren’t born that way,, you’re gay because byou want to be" Well, not me. I was always around boys growing up but never ever had feelings for them. But their girlfriends on the other hand is a different story. My step-dad, aunts and people at church thought I was a hoe because of it.
So for all of those simple minded, ignorant, judgemental people, there is no such thing as "pray-the-gay-away", gays can’t MAKE you gay and you can’t make us straight so GET OVER IT.
Ryder Says:
Hey family!!! I feel ya. I grew up in the church as well. I found it quite strange that the pastors would speak about scripture from Leviticus and at the same time would be flirting with all of the women that usually sat in the front row with short skirts on. Or, they wouldn’t talk about the women having several kids by several men and not marrying any of them.
The world is filled with hypocrisy.
Like I said earlier, throwing bricks at glass houses… Huh…
Family (Ryder) people are going to mock or fear things they don’t understand. The best thing is when they speak on shit they don’t know about. Don’t you luv that. LOL…
peace cousin…
Dana T.
Is the dude in the pic with derek j his significant other? just bcuz u take a pic with someone doesnt mean they"re gay bcuz the other person is. But I like derek j
If one partner is a lot more attractive than the other…What a waste!!!! He is too fine to be with YOU Derek. There are far more prettier gays out there.. Oh, What a waste!!
he sounds kinda slow on those notes.. and that’s all i’m gonna say..
I see what Derek J is saying. I need him and other gay men to check themselves too. Some gay men are bitter because they were not born a woman or bitter because society has distinct gender roles that they do not want to follow. They, in turn, take their anger out on women by belittling them.
I think Derek J is a prime example of this. He gets on social media and dogs women out (e.g. the rant he gave about natural hair). Why does he or other gay men feel the need to disparage women (especially black women); Self-Hate, maybe?
Like I stated above, I see what Derek is saying and I agree that it is wrong. He also needs to check himself because he acts like a "mean girl" too.
Derrick J looks like a damn fool and so does Ms. Lawrence
Derek j needs to be playing pro ball some damn where. Instead he’s killing high heel shoes every chance he gets. Ol bitch made niglet.