This documentary was sad but its necessary. I’m BLACK… And we are all different shades of beautiful. There are ugly lighter skinned women who feel they are cuter because they’re skin is lighter. And? you are light and still ugly!

I think that until we ALL take a good look at ourselves and ask WHY we like dark over light or vice versa. Then we can better understand if its really our "preference" or something deeper.

Question: for those who watched rb divas, season 2, I know its edited, but, when you see keke wyatt, belching and acting like a 5 year old, in what appears to be a business meeting. If it were a darker skinned woman, say, angie stone or nicci that was belching like that, would it be swept under the rug? would they have made a whole episode of how unprofessional that was? or would have been a silly 3 min clip of how "colorful" their personality was, as what was said in the clip … idk IJS

LOVE IT

I am a dark woman and have been all my life. I have never really had a problem with my color, but I did suffer through the blurple, tar, black and any other jokes that came about. I remember in high school I had one boy who would always call me a different candy bar because he said my skin was so chocolate (which was rare). I also was told once I was pretty for a dark skin girl and my reply was I am just pretty for any girl. The crazy thing is the guy thought he was giving me a real compliment.

Most definitely right now the primary concern is interracial relationships whereas black men prefer white and Hispanic women and do not considerate dating or even marrying a black woman. Therefore, we as black women regardless of colorism we need to stick together.

I am a very fair skin black woman. Never did I realize how very skinned I was until I moved to the south. There instead of being recognized by my name, I was called "high yella, or lil’ red." I also realized that in the south, my "stock" if you will,went up with darker skin men. I always found it offensive and downright self hating. I had a lot of girlfriends who were darker complected and GORGEOUS! I always thought of myself as a tomboy with not much to offer to the other sex, but then one of my dark skin friends told me that because I was "red" I could pretty much have any man I wanted. But did I want a man that would date me just because I was a certain complexion? Hell no! As I got older, I realized that it was not just the black men who held lighter women in a higher regards, but white people did as well. I worked as a bartender for a few years while finishing college and again, I was working with a darker woman who I found absolutely drop dead gorgeous..me nor any of the other white bartenders could hold a candle to her, yet, she never made the amount of money we did in tips. One day, a group of customers came in and demanded that I serve them instead of her. She became enraged and begin shouting that I am the same race as her, what is the difference? The group as well as the manager looked at her as if they were perplexed. That is when it hit me…I was accepted because I was a light skinned black girl, I was accepted and preferred because I was racially ambiguous. It is ignorance that holds other races from looking deep into the faces of a darker skin girl and realizing her beauty. This was made evident to me when I had a daughter of my own who was the spitting image of me, but dark skin. Never have I heard, "you are pretty for a black girl," I was told I was pretty , and that was that…but when I find myself having to explain to my beautiful ebony twin that she is beautiful regardless of her complexion because some ignorant ass person decided that she is the "exception to the rule" I find myself hating humanity more and more. I said all of that to say this, you have a mirror….you have eyes…that is the mere beginning of the beauty you behold. If you are able to endure the cruelty in this world and still know that you are a beautiful person in out, and that goes unchanged…..you are indeed beautiful, no matter your shade…btw, fair skin chicks and white chicks realized the beauty in the darker complected women ages ago….why do you think they spend so much money on tanning? Sorry for the long post..came home after a birthday dinner and was expecting to catch up on LHHA and found this…lol

We need to do better.. Tolerance begins at home.. As a (considered not Black enough light skin chick) I’ve dealt with with the typical light skin jokes. Living in a predominantly white neighborhood complicated issues. Dark or light skin we share a lot of social discrimination issues. Sad for 2013!

It’s hard out here for a dark skinned woman. I think the documentry was necessary and something that should have been addressed a long time ago. It’s crazy how we are allowing the separation that slave masters imposed on our ancesters years ago to still dictate how we treat each other. They divided us by bringing the lighter skinned slaves inside and making the dark skinned slaves work the field. It was embedded in our minds then that the lighter the skin the more priviledged you are. Today media tells us that you have to be lighter skinned to make it in the entertainment industry by using photoshop to lighten skin in print ads of girls you know are browner. As a dark skinned women, YES I have been passed over, talked about, made fun of, been sterotyped, and all that. My self esteem at one point was low and just the feeling that I won’t be loved. But thank GOD I love me enough to not allow those things to keep me bonded and feel as though I can never be anything more than dark skin. I hope the documentry opens some minds and some eyes to some issues and like someone said it may not change but the awareness of it is a start.

The bottom line is this: Self-esteem–whether you are light, caramel, or dark–starts at home! If girls are taught from the beginning that they are beautiful, smart, and other positive, confidence-builders, they will be equipped to deal with society’s bullshyt. What they will learn is that the problem isn’t them at all, but other people and will be able to blow off petty stuff like beauty and skin color.

I will say this, I am 25 yrs old with cancer (I am light skinned very fair and had blonde hair and hazel eyes but I am not mixed, both parents are black and so are both sets of grandparents to give some perspective), I have very little hair, and I went to a beauty supply store to get some stuff for my scalp because of irritation before I moved. The black girls in that store gave me the DIRTIEST looks and even had the nerve to whisper "why she here she ain’t got no hair" all while giving me dirty looks the whole time I was there. These were dark skinned girls; now it is not that I am unaccustomed to being treated like this by my own race, but what shocked me is that the discrimination from MY OWN PEOPLE knew know bounds, not even to someone who has cancer. So I am done with this unity crap, this light skinned people ruin everything stuff. It just has no bearing when really it just boils down to low self esteem.