OK let’s delve into this pre-nup debate.
A few weeks ago, two Real Housewives of Atlanta stars revealed that they are headed towards the alter.
Kandi has made no secret that she’s down for a per-nuptuial agreement and according to her latest Bravo blog post, she totally believes in them for a number of reasons.
First I’ll go back to my conversation with Porsha about pre-nups. I do believe in pre-nups. I know that some people feel if you are truly in love and are planning to be dedicated to your marriage that a pre-nup somehow means the person requesting the pre-nup is expecting the marriage to fail. I don’t agree.
I feel like it’s a safety precaution. Just like if you have a fire extinguisher in your home it doesn’t mean you expect it to burn down, but you’re just prepared to put out the fire before it starts if need be. I’ve had friends and associates who didn’t get a pre-nup say “they didn’t need one,” “she or he would never do that,” etc. But then later when they got divorced, things got ugly, and the person tried to get everything, they were like, “I would have never thought they would have done that to me,” “she or he is not the person I married,” blah, blah, blah.
I feel like people do some crazy and vindictive things when they’re hurt, so I think there should be agreements set in place while everyone is thinking clearly. That way if D-day ever comes (and hopefully it won’t, but if it does), then it doesn’t have to get uglier and more hurtful than it already is. (source)
Oh I get it. Kandi believes that having a pre-nup is just sort of a safety net…. something that protects each individual when things go awry during divorce proceedings.
But on that same token… what about Nene and Gregg? They got engaged at the same time and I doubt they had a pre-nup the first time they walked down the aisle.
Since Greg basically held Nene down and agreed to “divorce” to keep her storyline alive, do you think he’d fall into the “pre-nup” trap now that she’s the top earner in the household? 15 years is a long time to be beside someone and in my opinion, a pre-nup now, during their “fake” re-marriage would totally be a slap in the face…. considering.
There are major differences between the two couples… like this would be Kandi & Todd’s first marriage and they are going into it with assets, while Nene & Greg’s marriage the first time around wasn’t as monetarily beneficial to either party.
Now that dollars and cents are involved does it make sense for Nene and Gregg to develop their “safety net” with a pre-nup… you know… just in case Nene needs a new story line or something?
And Kandi… with all of her accomplishments musically is surely ensuring that her money goes towards her daughter’s future as opposed to her new husband. I guess.
Do you think pre-nups are a good idea in either situation?
Why or why not?