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from: [Name Removed]
to: StraightfromtheA
date: Tue, Oct 9, 2012 at 11:16 PM
subject: UsherSo I just read your entry on Usher and Grace and the lil girl..
My thought is Chris Brown hit a female and he get’s black listed but this man goes and takes a woman’s kids right after she loses a kid and it’s like the A is not even speaking about it.
He rocked that girl to the core..now no matter what she did in the past ie. golddigger, messy, what have u, a child is a child.
And for me when his music comes on in the car I turn the station. But Amen. You reap what you sow.
I always thought he was a compassionate person but more and more interactions it’s not turning out that way…
Just my 2 pennies
thanks
[Name Removed]
The writer of this email makes a very valid point. Chris Brown faced the harshest criticism when he beat the brakes off of Rihanna and even after he completed anger management, he’s had to defend his actions to this day.
But Usher? Some of y’all STILL praise that man like his sh*t don’t stink… even though he admitted to Oprah that he actually did all that dirt that y’all cussed me out for… it’s so amazing.
Oh well… life goes on. Right?
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… personally i think society is conditioned to accept emotional abuse a little bit more than physical abuse … even though the effects of both can really be damaging to the victim …
This post was the worst comparison between two situations that I have ever seen in history…
i didn’t and dont condone what he did. I don’t listen to his music anymore either. but if you notice his ticket sales for the european tour was less than stellar. So he might already be reaping some of his sowing. Karma is a dirty stanky b!tch!
I don’t listen to his music anymore and really I can’t stand the sound of his voice. Every time a song comes on I cringe and change it. It bothers me to my core that he fought that hard to take the kids from Tameka. I’m sure he’s hired someone to help him out. But he’d rather do that then let the boys be with their mom.
Usher tried to postpone the custody battle it was Tameka who wanted to continue with the case.
Postpone? What was the point of him going after the children anyway? She was NEVER proven to be unfit or abusive. He did that because he’s a selfish lil jerk.
So typical to call Usher selfish for wanting custody of his children. It’s not selfish for a woman to take a man’s children and make him pay for it? You don’t have a clue about why she doesn’t get custody. If she had her sh$t together she would have automatically got custody. I guess a man is never suppose to try to get custody of his children in your thinking. This only happens when you have money to fight for a fathers rights.
It’s obvious that in THIS particular case it was done as a revenge tactic. Why is it that people like you read too much into comments? Furthermore, you can’t tell me what I’m thinking … But let me respond to your inflated statement, however … More often than not when a woman has custody of children and the father is FORCED to pay child support (because state issued child support is a way of FORCING an absent parent to be responsible), it’s because the father isn’t active in the upbringing of the child(ren). If more men would step up and be REAL father’s there wouldn’t be so many child support cases active in state courts. I’m not saying Usher wasn’t active, before you misinterpret what I’m saying AGAIN. However in the case of Usher, it’s obvious to most people WHY the custody was sought and HOW he won.
I don’t blame her for wanting to move forward but he only wanted to postpone the hearing anyway because he felt that she was getting too much public sympathy over the death of her son. Usher is NOT the man I thought he was.
Did anyone ever wonder why Tameka didn’t have custody of her kids? You have to question a woman who would leave her family for a man and that is exactly what Tameka did to her family.
Get your facts straight. Tameka and Ryan always had joint custody of their sons.
Is this the same type of joint custody that she has with Usher? Seems to me that it is. Everyone jumps down his throat about the case but she has joint custody of her children with Usher. If she was fine with that arrangement with the first set, why not the second set? There’s two sides to every story but this story right here, I am tired of hearing about.
From my understanding it’s the same joint custody that she HAD with Usher prior to him getting primary. Her and Ryan jointly decide things for Ryan Jr with Ryan Sr having the final say…
I AGREE!!!!!!!!!
And she was fine with the second set. It was USHER
Tameka was fine with the agreement in the second set. It was USHER who persued full custody instead of the joint they had.
Ladybug22 took the words right off my fingertips.
From what I understand Tameka and Ryan have joint custody and have always shared their kids time.
Usher had the SAME, joint custody but decided he wanted to take the kids away from her completely. May be for his move to L.A for his new The Voice hosting job. I read where Christina Aguilera said it was too much and she spends less time with her kid than she thought she would.
Well on the Oprah interview it seems he doesnt spend time, but his mother and aunt care for his boys! Wat I got from that interview was that He took them for his MOM bcuz of her dislike of Tameka!!!! Sad……. Wasnt the time to be devious, she’d just lost a baby…. Smh…. Hope they get older and fight to be with her….
I absolutely agree. I’ve even read some people comment that Tameka should "just get over it (losing her kids)". Usher continues to humiliate this woman. I have still yet to read what Tameka has done that has proven these so-called "gold digger" claims. Even still that does not justify what Usher is doing to this woman. She married a man that she loved. This man cheated on her with her bridesmaid(s). Then "leaks" a picture of the woman he cheated on her with posing with her their kids days after she lost custody. Yet, people are STILL defending him. As a woman and a mother, I can’t.
Since the beginning of this custody battle, I’ve lost all respect for Usher. Believe me, I was the biggest Usher fan since he released "Can You Get With It" in 1994. I was in loooove with Usher. His was the first concert I went to. My friend and I had 3rd row seats and when he poured that bottled water down his chest and humped it … Um um um … And it splashed on my hair I almost died! But NOW? If that lil ignit bastid wet my hair, I’d beat the HELL outta him. I’ve supported everything he’s ever done but I didn’t buy his last 2 CDS and I’ll never support that weasel again.
And might I add that I’m not a huge fan of Tameka’s. She seems like she has a stank attitude but that’s no reason for him to do what he did. Especially WHEN he did it.
I’m sry, but I think it’s sad that we are looking at the lost of her other child to say if she deserve these kids… (MAD BLACK WOMAN TALK) to me, and I think it was a VERY POOR call for the writer of this [fan email] to even think that comparing Chris Brown and Rihanna situation to this story…. Tameka lost fair and square… they had a ceremony for the kid, and that’s where the sympathy has to stop for her case… I’m sry, but her lost in the court room and her lost with her son had NOTHING to do with each other, and it’s irrelevant like the fan comparing Rihanna’s hurt to Tameka’s hurt…. smh for that one
they had a ceremony for the kid, and that’s where the sympathy has to stop for her case…
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I pray that in this society your opinion is and remain the minority. You can’t dictate another person’s compassion, thank God.
Thank you STL…
And FYI…The correct word would be "LOSS"
Has anyone noticed that when TEAMUsher comes to the rescue it is always some 14 year old who hasn’t experienced life. Those of us who have gone through marriage & motherhood really understand how foul and disgusting his actions are.
Team Usher – finish school children and live longer. You’ll understand one day and want to kick yourself for defending this moron.
I straddle the fence on this one. Too many people seem to be putting their own life into one side or the other. Usher said he decided to seek custody of the boys because she would play fast and loose or childish games when it came to his time with the kids. If thats the case, I see why he would do so. Tameka character has never sat well with me but if she is the right, then she is in the right and folks have to honor that. His actions so far have been very suspect and if folks choose to not support his music financially that is their decision. If the radio played music based on artist morals or actions in their private life, then their would be no music on the air.
If the radio played music based on artist morals or actions in their private life, then their would be no music on the air.
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Absolutely, which is why they have a PR team to hide the sins and preserve the profitable image.
At least you’re being objective.
What does ushers music have to do with the way he treats tameka?? I could gives 4 fucks about what goes on in a celebs personal life…it’s not my business..although it does make for good conversation…I’m sure tamika is no angel…hell u reap what u sew… Atlien u sure are doing a lot of ass kissing…I guess tamika threatening to woop ya ass really did spook u..
His music has nothing to do with his treatment of his childrens mother. BUT I wont SUPPORT a man that dogs his ex wife just because he’s moved on with the next victim. His ex wife and sons are the home team and him mistreating her, is mistreating them and I wont root for a man that doesnt this.
I wonder the same thing all of a sudden Meka is the victim. Yes he did her wrong its no different from wat all men do, its not an excuse but i dnt see y everyone getting upset over someone they dnt kno life. Let them live make mistakes n hopefully learn. Im never gonna stop buying his music n the few of u haters ain’t taking away from his very very large fan base
Haters? Plz. I’m so damn sick of people saying that just because somebody makes a decision one way or another. I thought hater was a jealous person. How is withdrawing your financial support due to personal convictions a sign of jealousy?
No, he’ll still live the high life. But for how long. Let’s continue to watch R Kelly, Icky minaj and CB, and see how that plays out.
Where’s the Tea? We put our opinions in the comments section not the post it self.SMH
CB was proven wrong in the eyes of the court, so until the court proves Usher wrong of something, everything else is someone opinion. Thats the difference, fact vs opinion.
HUH?? What was these use of seeking custody of HIS kids?? These are his CHILDREN also!! That’s the reason for seeking custody!!! I truthfully pray for Tameka and her family, but Usher had nothing to do with her child passing, so why is he be treated as such! Again Tameka wanted to proceed with the case and she lost for now. The children can still be seen, but they are notliving with her at the moment. Women please remember, HE IS ALSO THIER PARENT! – from the eastside of the A.
People act as though he is pulling a Halle Berry and trying to leave the country. She can see them for 13 days out the month. That arrangement was fine when Usher was on the receiving end, no fan uproar then. I think women all over the country are taking for granted that they are usually awarded custody of the children. I know several men who would like to gain sole custody or primary but dont feel they could win because the courts said "you have to prove the mother unfit and unless she is on drugs or abusing them, your wasting your time." Sometimes the better parent is the male, may not be Usher in this scenario but in other household it damn sure is.
@ Loving This Site See I actually think he is trying to pull the Halle Berry. He is on the Voice show now and he has a tour planned for out of the country. If he has custody this means that the kids would be dragging around behind him from place to place. I think they’re too young for all of this travelling and sight-seeing.
He is doing the voice, but he cancelled his out of the country tour. The voice isn’t a all year round gig, it’s a few days a week for a few months. Its not like he’s working a 8-5 and 40+ hours a week. If meka is as a good of a stylist as she claims she might be on the road just as much as him.
He only POSTPONED the tour overseas. He didn’t cancel it. He took the job at the Voice and then he is going on a World tour immediately after. I read all of it before commenting. The man is BUSY and not to mention partying and making another album. Usher is too busy for kids full-time, I guess that where their step-mother Grace falls in to ‘play’ mammy.
How do Usher know if she’s up to it or capable enough? She needs to be checked out before she can raise Meka’s sons. Where are her kids while she is globe trotting with Usher and entourage??
good some with some sense i agree totally. My bro in law cant see his kids n he is an awesome father but the mother took the kids cuz he left her cuz she wasnt treating him rite just bitter as hell. She used those kids to ruin him when he married my sister. Some woman are evil n bitter n run away great father.
There is NO reason to seek Full (sole) custody just because he is the father. You have to share kids not dominate and take them totally away!! Joint custody was fine and it is what they had, its selfish for a man to try for Sole custody for no reason. A woman carries the babies and a man comes to snatch them away, just because he can? Money is why he won, no doubt. He’s hosting the Voice now in Los Angeles and the kids live in Atlanta, how will that work out?? Usher is self centered and mean, period.
Yes he is also the father but, why now is he requesting sole custody? Because she gave him greif when he wanted to see the kids? So, I guess now he is in control of that huh? Why now is he wanting to uproot the kids from all things familiar? For someone who is so close to his mother I can’t help but think that this was done out of spite and a need for control. Usher is a womanizer by any means necessary.
Let’s let facts be facts. Tameka had 2 YEARS to get out of that house and she failed to do so. This was the result of their divorce proceedings.
Why would she need to get out of her house? I don’t care whose name the house is in currently she and her boys call it home and from my understanding that isn’t changing.
I normally try not to comment on the personal life of others because if you are not in that household then you will never know 100% of what’s going on. My husband and I are currently working on getting full custody of his son and many people and looked at him sideways for doing so. But if we can provide a more stable household then why not? In the case Tameka & Usher I really do not see the point in getting sole custody for any benefits of the child but only self-serving benefit for Usher.
But either way he went about it a legal way. Yeah it might be wrong and most don’t agree but can you really be blacklisted for that?
I think it’s just a general remorse for Tameka. I guarantee you that it wouldn’t be this way if Kile wasn’t killed in that accident.
Yes, it would’ve. Although some people may count that as a factor, support was swinging in Tameka’s direction before the tragic accident.
Strange its alright for you and your husband to provide "a more stable household" for your husband;s son and yet you judge Usher and what he wants for his sons. Do you know Tameka personally? Are you residing in her household? Do you know something about the situation that might have swayed the judge’s decision? Don’t judge! Stop feeling like you’re in a position to feel superior to Usher regarding Tameka. Perhaps with the grief she’s having regarding the lost of her son – she might need this little break. Tameka’s relationship with Usher began the same way his current relationship has started. Usher appears to enjoy relationships with married women. I’m told that Tameka was married when she and Usher started seeing each other and how he’s doing the same with Grace. Yes his morals seem to be askew but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t love his boys. I do agree with you that he shouldn’t be blacklisted because he wants more time with his boys and obtained it through the legal system. I also think that the media and people should give C. Brown a chance. I don’t think Rihanna did not have her part in her beat down, I do not think it was the first time that hits had been passed between the two and it is now obvious had the media not been so involved they would have gotten back together sooner. We’ve all been young and made bad decisions based on what we thought was love only to find out later it was just lust. Both are young and will learn through experience – we the public have to learn to stop judging these people in the entertainment world. After saying all this…I wish you and your husband much luck and kindness.
This again? okay…
Here we go again.
OKAY, heres what the situation is. Chris Brown did do what he did, and he’s owned up to it. I can’t speak for everyone else, but I forgave him. I don’t think it’s fair that he’s consistently being bashed for it especially since Rihanna has forgiven him and is still showing love for him.
Usher and Tameka’s situation is completely different. Not even in the same category.
I’ve said this before and I’m going to stop saying it after this. Everyone is mad at Usher because everyone seems to feel that he killed Kile, even though Kile’s death was unexpected. What’s most important, Kile is not even Usher’s son. Kile’s father is alive and well and while the media kept implying that Usher was. Lastly. This court case was going on well before this incident. I can’t speak for everyone on the response you received for being biased (because let’s be real here, you were!!!!!), but from my perspective you failed to realize that while all of this was going on, Tameka was giving her 2 cents on twitter compared to Usher’s 1 or 2 formal interviews. She’s said more on social networks than Usher ever had. Now, this has nothing to do with the man’s character, because he may just be a dog in private. But you make it seem like he was dogging her out the most. And when she got on the witness stand she threw herself under the bus, Usher didn’t do much to make that happen. I read the transcript.
But, Oh well.
The only person who keeps claiming people think Usher "killed" Kile is you. I have NEVER heard such stupidity about the topic until u post here. You have even been corrected numerous times on it so own your feelings then get help because the one thing everyone can agree on is Usher was in no way responsible for anything involving Kile . Usher bitchass is a lot of things but that ain’t one of em so please let that go.
Oh Dennis shut up……. Bitter and broke much??? LMAO. I follow her and WAIT daily for her Twitter rants and guess what??? NONE. Period. She has not commented about this bum or this trumped up court case. Ya man is a bitch and he is wrong. Stop trying to defend him and flip sides in her face. #HoeNiggas
well said!
What Shay said!
Everyone is mad at Usher because everyone seems to feel that he killed Kile,
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FAIL!! Please point me to the blogs you visit, because I’ve NEVER read that anywhere. I have heard some idiots blame Ryan, but most of the peanut gallery seems to blame Tameka. Never Usher. Never beloved Usher.
Thankks for posting m letter. lmao!
But seriously, I can see the writer’s point. It’s almost like Usher is "untouchable" in he eyes of the public and his peers. With Cris Brown there were several people like T.I. Jay-Z etc who publicly spoke out against what he did with Usher it’s silence.
Thanks for posting my letter. lmao!
But seriously, I can see the writer’s point. It’s almost like Usher is "untouchable" in he eyes of the public and his peers. With Cris Brown there were several people like T.I. Jay-Z etc who publicly spoke out against what he did with Usher it’s silence.
I guess nobody famous really cares for Usher that much.
I still love Usher and I will still buy his music. My mother always said you never know what goes on behind closed doors. He does not have sole custody of his sons, but primary custody. Tameka and him still have joint legal custody. This means the boys primary residence will be with Usher. Tameka still gets to see them. So why is Usher such the bad guy? Tameka (from her tweets and official testimony) seems to be very bitter. What would keep her from letting that effect Usher’s visitation with the kids. I don’t blame him I would have went for primary custody too. I guess I don’t get such the animosity toward Usher for wanting to make sure that he could see his kids.
And she’s comparing Chris Brown here where this situation is totally different. If the roles were reversed Usher’s image would seriously be tarnished and CB would look ‘untouchable’. But that’s just my observation.
well said.
I personally know Tameka and although she is a beautiful person physically, her attitude is awful. She has the most irrational sense of entitlement and makes the "little people" around her miserable. She knew exactly who she was marrying and still chose to marry him. I have no sympathy for her. Can you imagine what example she would be setting for her kids going around barking orders at people she feels are less than her? She’s no better than Usher. Pick your poison. And also the judge made the final decision so how everyone keeps saying "he took the kids from her" um obviously the judge had some facts that we don’t know. Lastly, I’m not a Usher "Stan" so spare me that backlash.
No backlash but you so sound like the boys God mother who used Tameka to go on vacation then testified against her. Lol I believe Usher is into drugs so drugs compared to a nasty ass attitude..not comparable.
and you sound like the bridesmaid he sexted and now you’re trying to out someone! Comments are like a$$holes we all have them and post them!
And you just sound childish-School’s out early today?
to Suthernhummingbyrd:
another comment from an entitled a$$hole!
@And @not a fan…..They really need to re evaluate the hours of operation concerning kindergarten-you children have too much time on your hands. Please be quiet when grown folks are talking.
ROTFLMAO! Suthern, I swear to God I love you. Marry me? No homo.
hahahahaha
You sound like a FIRED employee or a jealous post-stylist broad. Attitude is usually based on situations not just natural. None of your comment has ANYthing to do with her as a MOTHER. If you "know" her so well, then you "know" that she loves her kids too. I would think so, based on her fight for them and her constant tweets about her boys and babies. You sound like a jealous underling. Bye girl.
Kimmie, I thought the same damn thing…that she’d been fired.
I can see Tameka as having a sense of entitlement. Most people who’ve been touched by money do. There’s a reason that a woman who divorces a performer turns around and marries an athlete. They get used to the lifestyle.
I said it before and I will continue to say it…those babies were too young to take from the mom. Usher could have waited until they were about 9-10 and then the baton could have been passed on.
You gotta be careful as to with whom you procreate with!
Usher annoyed the crap out of me
FYI i did Young Jeezy’s bday cake this year at the biltmore house. there were 4 cakes in total made for this party 1 four tier dummy cake (fake) and one 2 tier dummy cake. then i made 2 edible cakes one that had a versace theme that had the inscription "happy "c" day"
i have no idea what the C stands for but around the square cake i put a versace belt and buckle around the cake. the other cake was for someone he knows named Jesse. so happy to see the pictures of the cakes on your site
Thank you Dawn for changing the subject! So many people are judging this man based on what?
He wants more time with his children! His ex-wife is keeping him from doing that. Women have been known to use their children in this manner…don’t act like they don’t. He had the money to stop her from doing so and now she has to wait to see the children. Perhaps one or more of you angry women can explain what you are so angry about.
Not a fan the only thing ill explain to you is how to exit off this Damn post go educate yourself on the subject before u start challenging folks.
I agree with the @NotAFan guy for sure, and I own a website that has all of this biz on it… so I’m "educated" enough to challenge anyone on this topic @Shay lol…
Brandon what would you like to challenge? Im game
Perhaps one or more of you angry women can explain what you are so angry about.
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You first, Fan Almighty.
I can’t compare the two of those guys. Chris actions puts him in a whole other category. I don’t know what was really what with Usher and his ex wife and honestly it’s not my business. They both have their versions of the truth and then there is the real truth. All the side line observers need to handle their own lives before commenting on other people’s lives.
I tend to agree with you. I feel like cheating is horrible, but more so is about the relationship not being right, and immaturity within the cheater. But women beaters, well that’s something completely different. While I think Usher’s timing was wrong, I still don’t know much about what went on in their relationship, so can’t really comment on that.
what Usher story you got lined up for tomorrow Atlien? thurs? fri? clearly you have no plans of stopping. i bet youre in your bed at night thinking about him. thinking of what far fetched story you can come up with next. its one thing to blog about someone cause it was the news of the day. but this here is an obsession. you should really get some help.
And I bet yo azz will be clicking on this site thur,fri,sat,sun,Mon,tue to check for it. Clearly u have an obsession also.
same with you as well, correct?
Present! I wouldn’t come to a site that I don’t pay for then complain about its contents. Don’t like it don’t come its not like u can’t see its a USHER post before u read it. Obsessed much.
HA!! You tell ‘em, Shay!
Team Usher n Team Chris Brown y’all can keep bashing them so what broke ass don’t get paid to comment so have a nice day
Take "the woman’s kids". Isn’t he the father? If I felt like the other parent was unfit I’d go for custody too. Timing was bad, but those are just as much his kids. He doesn’t want her living off him. If you reverse ythe situation and Usher was the Mom, he wouldn’t be getting all the hate. I guess y’all turn the radio when Gucci (pushed girl out a moving car), Jay Z (mushed some little girl in her head), 50 (had his baby momma burned out his house) and pretty much every rapper(sold drugs which ruin our communities, destroy families, kill kids) come on. The hypocrisy here is ridiculous. You were not in the marriage and do not know what she or he is like day in and day out.
Well said! Well said!
If you reverse ythe situation and Usher was the Mom, he wouldn’t be getting all the hate.
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Of course he would. He’d be Tameka. You’re right about one thing, though. The hypocrisy is rediculous.
Are you retarded or somethingWTF do you keep Worrying About Usher for you Damn Bear. Don’t worry about this man,she tried to play games and control him through his kids and suck him dry for money.By the way which she had for money anyway. A Blind man can see that.
Ignorance is bliss.
How blissful you must be!
Very. Now you stop sneaking on the computer and go watch Elmo’s World.
Fuck him and his money. Suck him dry for what? I’m sure he has accountants and managers to control his money. How do you know she "tried" to suck him dry???? Or play games with his kids??? Were you there? Did you just read a gossip rag and decide this? Shut the hell up, spreading hearsay and rumors that you have no proof of. I never ONCE read that he said this, he is the jet-setter of the two. You sound stupid and your city is too.
lol
well damn, lol!
And to think I almost didn’t read this thread. First a hot debate (Biden got in that AZZ!), and now I’m crying through laughter.
I don’t like Usher anymore he the biggest Jerk I ever seen…his music suck I don’t like any of his new music….he can kick rocks and go to hell with gasoline draws on and take his bald head ass mama with him…..I hope Tameka never give up her fight….. R.I.P Kile
*giggles these men are human…at least they are not having sex with minors…oh but I guess that doesn’t matter either since everybody STILL loves them some R. Kelly. Personally… I’m still mad at Black America for forgiving R.Kelly so freely…but as far as Chris Brown (IMO) is concerned, he was dead wrong for his part in the altercation with Rhianna, and I don’t condone his actions. However…I believe in my heart that the situation was a lover’s quarrel that escalated into an unfortunate moment in their lives. And as for Usher…seriously? I searched on google and nowhere did I find anything that indicated that he was a saint. He shouldn’t have EVER married Tameka in my opinion and she should have been the "ADULT" in the relationship instead of the typical opportunist. You reap what you sow…..
Yup, what she said.
Cosign
cosigning to the other two!
Usher sittin there lookin like Chris Brown’s dad! He look too old! All Partied out! How can he say he cared about Kyle!That baby wasnt in his resting place a week before MR.I THINK I CAN STILL DANCE went after Kyles Mother! Usher is pathetic!
I have never commented on any web site but I have lost a child. I think we Tameka supporters should be much more vocal and visible. This is already a life and death situation for Tamkea she doesn’t need to have the kids with Grace when Grace doesn’t take care of her own kids. The Judge should be penalized and disbarred, why is she smiling? She would not have done this to a white woman. Tameka cannot handle mourning and losing the custody battle alone. We should help by keeping our money and speaking with our wallets and purses. Do we want our sons, brothers, and husbands to act like Usher?
usher is trash!!! his music is trash, screw him im tired of talking about these non worthy celebs who prove themselves to narcassistic assholes and idiots. true, i was a huge fan but now i am just appalled by him. and his new album, im going to need him to do better than that.F him , he is just not that important and relevant anymore, its over for him. who cares?
I TOTALLY AGREE!!!
Its HAM time on the board!!! I AGREE Usher is a DOG….. for a man to take the BABIES from a woman that lost a child due to death, is a callous, evil deed. I WILL NOT SUPPORT any jerk off artist that disses his kids mother and ex-wife, thats Deion inclusive, these women were GREAT to marry, procreate with, love and NOW TREAT LIKE TRASH????????? No way, I will not respect or support a dog man. I hope Tameka drops this demons name and sheds all memory of him. He is nasty (bridesmaidss), he is rude (custody battle), he is heartless (fighting after her baby passed). That is enough grounds to ban his narcissistic, ape looking arse. He is IRREVELANT and a pig. Who really is into to him lately? Grace and her gal pals are it. Maybe a few Euro trash hoes, but we sisters are off his fake train. We see the real him and its trash.
This site posts and complains about Usher just as much as Sandra Rose does about Beyonce and Obama. Smh!
Wow this Usher is so WANTED! All you ladies are just pissed that you are not his girlfriend. Grace keep up the good work!
girlfriend? dont you mean boyfriend?
Chile Ushers boy parts is used and abused don’t nobody want that.
you forgot to tell her to shave those sideburns and pull up her neck, idiot.
Thanks Grace. Now go abandon your daughter.
Easy and simple math: If you love someone, you don’t cheat, you don’t lie, you give full respect, and last but not least, you want that person completely! Otherwise it is not really love, it’s the idea of love. Period.
I am so not feeling Usher anymore. He is arrogant and cold hearted, and did Tameka real wrong. I am no longer a fan and have put him in the R. Kelly, Chris Brown Ex-Fan Bag. Done!
There is again no surprise that Usher cheats on his women, Tameka knew that as well so let that part go. Tameka knew this but married him with that history, sorry but she needs to take responsiblilty for that. For all we know she could have used the kids for her advantage for personal gain such as staying in the house, her businesses etc. We have seen it by women before, have a baby and make the man jump thourgh hoops just to see their child. He might have gotten tired of it and went for primary custody. We tend to have this "we know it all" approach but really don’t know. Just like the Casey Anthony case, she said the nanny (gave a random name from a business card) kidnapped her daughter. People and the media went HARD on that lady only to find out Casey was lying the whole damn time. All i’m saying is we truly have no idea and what we feel is best by our personl belief may not be best for their situation. Besides what you do in the dare will come to lite.
Come on really?? Its also on surprise that men also LIE, promise to change, beg forgiveness, blah blah blah. I’m sure Meka didnt marry him "knowing" that he would cheat hourly!!! Oh and with TWO of her bridesmaidss!!!! What woman would marry a man who they thought would rip their heart out????? This is a stupid comment. He barely admitted it to Oprah 3 years later, so we know that this guy probably lied til he was blue in the face while he was married to her. He went for SOLE not primary custody because he is a selfish pig. Sole custody means ONLY he can make decisions, even in an emergency. Thats selfish and crazy, he may not even know how serious that is, Im glad the judge didn’t give him sole custody!!
Personal opinion here: It would seem that a vast majority of people, primarily females feel a certain way about Usher wanting custody of his kids. My only understanding for these feelings is that an abundant number for these folks who don’t understand this move by Usher are not accustom to having or seeing black men WILLINGLY put forth the effort to care for their children. Who says a child has to remain with the mother when the parents separate? When it comes down to it, the most/best fit parent is who gets custody and that decision involves consideration of many factors to include emotional and mental stability. Keep in mind, the expectation is that the mother will keep the kids so when the father gets them instead that says a lot. Think of how many men you know with “Baby Mommas’” where the kids not doing so great socially or in school and who could benefit from living with the father even if Grandmamma or Auntie have to help, yet that father don’t make a damn move to make a difference and family members don’t open they mouth to encourage such a move…. Don’t crucify this man (Usher) for making that move, for loving his kids, and for WANTING his kids in his life! Shame on you to do so…
Great comment, but some of these commentators bashed meka and called her every name under the sun before her son died, now Usher is the deadbeat. She wants to play victim, but this is exactly how she did Ryan, but now she’s hurt. Smh
If her son hadnt died I wonder how many people would be on her side. I keep seeing the comment of "she just lost her child now you want to take the others and make her homeless". It was her decision to move forward with the case. Even though Usher is getting the side eye from me on other matters, he gets two thumbs up from me for letting her live in his home for free for several years after the divorce. She would have been got evicted, and by force if neccessary. She mad at Grace because she stole a page out of the Tameka handbook. How you got him, is how you lose him.
I totally understand the move by Usher and I feel it is/was unwarranted. Let me also add that I was raised in a family where black men WILLINGLY took care of their kids and are a very active part of their lives.
My feelings about Usher has not changed prior to Kiles injury he was full of it and now that Kile has passed he is still full of it. That situation is totally separate from the custody so therefore his "good deed" of chartering a plane means nothing to me and the fact that he possibly came to the funeral but didn’t acknowledge his own sons …yeah…nothing. He is who he is and I just pray that things work out for the kids. I wont even go there about the house because I personally feel that is the Least he could do…in my opinion. If I was her I personally would not want to stay there but her choice…
If she was woman enough to lay with, make TWO kids with AND marry he need to be man enough to respect the mother of his children. Usher knows he has the upper hand and uses it to his advantage…
Cosign!!!!!
So Usher is a cheater disrespecting women! mistreat Tameka after she unexpectedly lost her son! rip the other two should be celebrated!
Y’all full of crap!
now if this was done to any of your family members close friends you would say something else go seat down some place!
Usher is a playa typical Ass*ole with money
Dam B*tch call Grace Miguel is pimping her p*ssy looking like an old dried up rags letting her daughter loose around NYC cause she too busy chasing after him…
************** LOVE THIS SITE PUTTING USHER ON BLAST *******************************
he is a looser on my book hellllllllllllllllll no won’t be buying his isssssss… wtf>> happened to his dam swag..
Usher is NOT A MAN!!!! So stop it! This boy is washed up!
So fan mail is just an excuse to resurect the Usher bashing. Before Usher took "everyone’s favorite victim" to court he was fine with paying child support and joint custody, but according to his interviews and blogs probably even this one, meka wouldn’t have the kids ready for him when they agreed she would and wouldn’t let them spend the night with him as they agreed upon, so he took her to court. Then she was acting nasty in court (when most of you were team Usher) and want to fight and spit on him in front of the kids so he went for full custody. Usher has primary custody and she can see them at the times they agree upon. Since a judge was involved he has to give her viaitation so she will see them. Had he been a deadbeat you all would still talk bad about him. Ahe just mad cause her @$% has to work like most of us. Ans he said he messss with thoae girls when they were seperated. Most people don’t wait for the divorce to be finalized before moving on. Imo with Meka forgiving her friends she probably pulled one of those flirt with him and see if he gives in and rje women not only did it but they had sex with him.
Ans he said he messss with thoae girls when they were seperated
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Any sexual contact with another person before a divorce is an extramarital affair.
Good Lord.
Where in my comment did I say it wasn’t? I’m typing on a cell phone so I’m not going to recheck my spelling, but since you CAN’T read I’ll type it again and you should read it slower. I said they were separated and most people don’t wait for a divorce to move on. Shall I type it again?
No, it’s just as stupid the second time. I read clearly. Typically, when you state/type something such as the sentence I highlighted, it sounds (reads) like justification. Yeah, I read it, typos and all
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Oh my dang, I thought we were done with this when the Chris Brown/Koochie Cakes and Pothead story broke. There is so much other things to gossip about. That, lhha, chester’s, nene leaving real housewives etc. No one says Usher stuff don’t stink, but he won. Get over it, judge ruled in his favor, etc. All these comments are mute. He deserves to father his kids 24/7 just as much as Tameka. I hate it had to come to that but it is what it is.
Usher is a jerk !! heartless Mother F*cker who lost his swags these little girls not old enough to screw him come to his defense !!!
"Grace better watch Leaf might be next maybe she’ll let him screw her too" low self esteem old granny Karma is taking a little too dam long that poor lady (Tameka) can’t imagine what it feels like to be in her shoes prayers goes out to her !
Lol, I feel this is another attempt for StraightFromTheA writers to (prove the crowd wrong)… THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH EACH OTHER! How do you compare Usher fighting in court against a baby mama that just wasn’t the person to have custody of the children at all to…. Chris Brown hitting Rihanna?
Now I saw that we tried to compare it, but I think Rihanna and a lot of other women that went through what she did would be highly disappointed in this comparison… #TruthBeTold
I just have one question….Why do ppl who claim they are so tired of reading about Usher..come to the posts about Usher and comment?Things that make you go hmmmmmm….
well as for the Chris brown incident physically abusing another human being is a crime. Chris was charged for and admitted to it.the situations really don’t compare at all. the judge awarded him primary custody he didn’t just snatch them away. at the end of the day they still have joint custody. . they still see their mother all the time. its not about her being unfit either. since they still have joint custody both parents have to be "fit" parents. the judge awarded primary custody to him because she felt he would stick to the agreement more not because she was "unfit". they pretty much have the same agreement as before only there roles have reversed.people seem to think that since she wasn’t deemed unfit that she should have primary custody. but the primary parent only makes the decisions, they are the "boss" so to speak. so if the judge felt like Tameka wasn’t being a fair boss then she could hand that position over to the other parent. simple as that. if its true that she gets 12 days a month then in the end he only gets a week more than she does with the kids.(give or take a day or two depending on the month) and if he does the same thing the judge can give it right back to her.
Your comment makes all kinds of good sense. WITH ONE EXCEPTION… A woman carries, nurtures, loves and gives BIRTH to children, a man can not. I’m not saying a man doesn’t love their kids a lot, but there is NO COMPARISON between a real mothers love and a father. Usher was deemed the better "boss" (your words) because he had the BEST budget, influence, and lawyers with slippery palms.
How is it that a man who is not settled and is on tours, at clubs, on tv, doing videos, taking pictures, etc should be left to make all the "boss" like decisions for these 2 babies???? The judge had to clearly be drunk, biased or slow. This is just "malarky". A mother with visit days for her own children?? Usher is crazy and a huge jerk to even ask for this given his lifestyle and worldly lifestyle. When is he still and off a tour bus?? He doesn’t even have "primary custody" of himself or his schedule.
Talia I could not agree with you more…I think many people need to also remember Usher wanted full custody but was awarded primary. He was looking for a way to take total control from Tameka and essentially control her life where the kids are involved.
I must add this…you stated
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I’m not saying a man doesn’t love their kids a lot, but there is NO COMPARISON between a real mothers love and a father
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I can see many people not agreeing with you on this statement because many will miss the words "real mother". I can say with every fiber of my being that I have NEVER experienced love like that which I have for my son. I definitely realize that my husband loves him but he and I both can agree that there is no comparison. Now with THAT being said…the love my son gives me is also one that is so rare. My child adores his mama. He is still young so he is not caught up in society’s idea of beauty so for him mommie is it. I clearly believe Usher saw these qualities in Tameka with her older kids which is what drew him to want to have kids with her…I also believe he knew this could be the very thing to destroy her and until I see a legal document proving otherwise this is what I will believe.
I can completely understand these view points.to tell you the truth i don’t have a certain side I’m teaming with in this situation. however when it comes to me i feel like everything related to this case is just an assumption from both sides. it seems like people have to pick a side and condemn the other parent all the time(whether its him or her) but i have no doubt in my mind that both of them love their children very much.they are human beings they feel, love and hurt just like we do. they make mistakes. at the end of the day there is no way to know what really happened to the two of them behind closed doors. there’s no way to tell what made both of them do the things that they did. so i feel like it is truly unfair for people to say hes evil or shes a gold digger. i myself have been in situations where other people are quick to assume things about me and they were completely wrong. it is very hurtful. so i try not to do it.
I forgot to add that Chris Brown got harsher treatment 1)domestic violence is highly frowned on and 2)there was physical, tangible evidence that we saw saying he did it. He even joked about it at one point or said something that the media put out there in a way he didn’t mean it. All the evidence was and is there. Though you have the tea, these as just accusations. People accuse people all the time, that’s just life. These comments still crack me up. Insight on ignorance is crazy addiction.
I really want Karma to come and kick Usher and puddle ass now !! I can’t stand Grace she looks like a old beat up puddle !!! and Usher what a looser so disappointed no longer a FAN
Who ever wrote that email needs to get a damn life n leave the man alone. How is Chris Brown beating RiRi’s ass compare to that. Everyone jumping on usher the man must have been tired of meka’s jealous ass n probably using the man kids to control n hurt him. She seems so bitter i dnt put it pass her, i dnt know the trust n only them do if every black man loved and want their kids the same way we would have less worthless males in society n our girls would know the love of real man so they stop end up being bitter ass females. Im glad he wanted his kids n got them!!!!
All of you woman are MAD single Baby mamas barely making it -Taking it out on #Usher He didnt do u-That was that lame nigga u had a baby with – #HowabouThat #NEXT
dwwlll you made my night so damn tru,lol
I have no kids, so I guess that whole analogy is dumb as shit.
and I’m happily married to my sons father who takes very good care of our family…I dont do lame "niggas"…maybe you on the wrong side of Chicago.
Dont Hate On my BOO-Tameka is a Groupie playing Games and fell in her own Trap –Now believe what u want- But God is in Control-This is Gods Plan,So if u have a problem take it up with him…I’m sure that’s NOt what u want to do-With your opinions that ain’t worth a DIME #Holla
neither is yours
Usher is a douche bag! Phony fake smile pretender
2012 biggest looser
Now that I’m done commenting on everyone else, MY two cents…
Both Tameka AND Chilli have implied that Usher can be emotionally and verbally abusive. And let’s face it, nothing is more emotionally abusive than f*cking two bridesmaids. While there’s a thin line between being emotionally/verbally abusive and physically abusive (one is usually a predecessor to the other), I don’t think CB and Usher are anything alike. Both are arrogant (CB is narcissistic, whereas Usher is histrionic), but CB is blatant with his stupidity. Usher is a "throw the rock, hide the hand" kind of person. All smoke and mirrors, and proud in his ability to fool the masses. Go look up the traits of histrionic PDO and tell me it doesn’t ring of Usher.
But with all his flaws, he still doesn’t self destruct publically. We wouldn’t know it if it wasn’t in the blogs. Can’t say that about CB.
I couldn’t agree more…and I hope they both can get it together. While both issues are vastly different both careers have taken a major hit. CB thrives musically and in overall performance when his life is on the upswing unfortunately it hasn’t been for a very long time. Ush thrives off of drama (although he and some producers would like for you to believe it’s not HIS drama) problem is the drama that he is going through now would not only expose others but would expose himself and that aint happening.
This is one of your best comments!!!!
"Usher is a "throw the rock, hide the hand" kind of person. All smoke and mirrors, and proud in his ability to fool the masses. Go look up the traits of histrionic PDO and tell me it doesn’t ring of Usher."
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His pseudo mama’s boy image has helped him with this, although some of us know that he and "Jonetta" as he so affectionately calls her aren’t the poster for mom and son love. Dysfunctional would be putting it mildly. He is messed up in the head at her hands. Believe that. She is a nutty, controlling and cold woman inside and out. No wonder he respects no women, he has no good example. She supports his dirt and helps shovel dirt over his wrongs, remember the Oprah interview. She was rooting for him to "win" his kids. Feeble lady doesn’t realize that there are NO winners in this fight. The kids suffer in the end, what a unintelligent woman she is. I still prefer CB over those 2 mutts.
Oh boy! This is what happens when people use blogs and the media to get their facts. Being a court appointed special advocate for children this ruling is highly unlikely in the conservative state of Georgia. Typically children stay with the mother. In Fulton county the sure way for a man to get custody is for the mother to piss off the judge by parental alienation. Please people read the court documents. Usher is no angel but his doggish ways have nothing to do with his ability as a parent. Tameka has continuously been in contempt of previous orders and by her own testimony she threatened to "fck him up." It is unfortunate that she lost her child but Usher has as much right to be a parent as she does. It is refreshing to see a black man fighting for his kids. I do not believe this was a spiteful move because custody cases are brutal because the standard is in the best interest of the child therefore nothing is off limits. One day just sit in the court during a child custody case and you will have a better understanding. For the record Usher offered her a 50/50 split and to increase her payments and she rejected his offer. She wants him to pay her lawyer fees, child support, and basically to take care of her. Their marriage didn’t even last 2 years so there really wasn’t a standard of living established. Child support is just what it says its not take care of momma support. The woman should be putting up a third of her income as well. Tameka still gets to be a parent Usher is just the primary custodial parent. In actuality this is good because the most influential parent is the paren of the same sex. Tameka cannot teach them how to be men. She is still their mother and has rights. People have to learn to love their kids more than they hate their ex. Women don’t get an automatic custody pass because they are the mothers. Just because she had children by a man with money doesn’t make her entitled to be taken care of. She needs to take care of herself and her children. This wouldn’t be an issue if he was a regular Joe. Tameka has to provide shelter, food, clothing etc for herself and her children. His provided his share to take care of the children but they are divorced so she has to pay her own way. Tameka also has other children she has to provide for so why does Usher need to provide a house for her, her other kids, and his 2 children? Usher didn’t take away their children she forfeited her primary custodial parent status by being in contempt of court orders and letting her anger cloud her ability to co-parent amicably same as Dwayne Wade’s ex wife.
Your first sentence sums up your whole comment which is totally inaccurate. Tameka was never found in contempt and why would he "offer" a 50/50 split when that is what they had to begin with?! She is the one who was ok with original agreement. Usher wanted full custody point blank and period. Being the parent of the same sex means nothing Hell he still needs to learn how to be a man. As far as the house that was decided in their divorce so regardless to how we feel until USHER legally changes things that is her and her sons place of residence. I wish people would stop comparing Usher the celebrity to your cousin Ray Ray. Money talks and he has used that to his advantage. Now you stop reading blogs and listening to the media some of us actually know better.
Except the fact that Tameka was never found in contempt and Usher actually was. DWades wife was too, thats why she lost, but why did Tameka lose to him? MONEY.
Usher isn’t even around Atlanta to take care of them. I do not believe the 50/50 split part, because that’s what they had originally. Usher had joint custody and then HE wanted to step it up for full (sole custody). If she was the one that kept the kids from him, why was HE FOUND in CONTEMPT???? Yet the judge gave him the same things she found him in contempt of. The case or the outcome makes zero sense. Ushers influence and money is why he won. He is not the one taking care of those kids and his money is. So what if his $150 million dollar man self is paying for her house, he was married to her and they have TWO KIDS it doesn’t matter who else lives there, he’s rich petty, simple man to me. I deleted all of his music off my Ipod.
Usher is a mama’s boy this is why he is stuck on old granny panties dysfunctional
Actually LawSchool is right. Usher’s lawyers did file several contempt motions because she was not abiding by the visitation schedule. Usher’s legal team did an ex parte hearing with the judge to end the battle with Tameka giving majority of the time and him increasing payments but Tamekas side declined and wanted to move forward with the trial.He wanted full custody after Tameka always wanted to pick a fight with him. It should not be a battle to see your kids.I have actually sat in some of Judge Tipton-Lane’s trials for class and she is fair. Most men hate to go before her because it is rumored that she will never take away custody from a mother and is biased because her own husband took her through a messy battle. Most lawyers try to find a way to go before another judge. Usually the only time a man going for custody wants to go before Judge Lane is if there has been multiple contempt orders or situations of the mother not abiding by the visitation schedule. Just because someone has money doesn’t mean someone is paid off. That’s why America has the appeal system. If the judge was so against Tameka she would not have granted the motion for Usher to pay for Tameka’s legal expenses. I guess men are in a catch 22 if they want custody of their children they are wrong and being vindictive. If they don’t fight for them they are deadbeats more concerned with their own lives and new relationships. Why is Tameka making a fuss about the judge now? Judge Lane presided over her first divorce.
Hi Kylie the fact that Judge Lane presided over her first divorce which from my understanding wasnt a full blown out trail may be the very reason why she was ok with her for this case…who knows. She may have very well felt she was fair in her first divorce. But I am confused by things that I know to be factual and some of the things you have here…help me out!! lol Usher filed for full-custody at the start of all of this why then would he offer 50/50 (which was the original order) and an increase in child support? So are you saying he changed his mind about wanting full custody and decided to settle for joint (which they already had) AND give her more child support? Also both sides filed contempt motions against each other according to the court documents Usher was found in contempt for nanny fees and the Sak’s card. So from what I have seen neither was found in contempt by the JUDGE for visitation. Instead the Judge ordered them to communicate via email in regards to the kids and visitation. As far as legal fees I can see and understand why he should have had to pay them…he took her to court and financially he can afford to cover them.
Let me just say I dont think that there is anything wrong with a father fighting for his kids when there is just cause. I do have a problem with a father trying to control the role that the mother plays in her kids lives not because she is unfit but because HE has a problem with her. For a man who has had many issues with his mother and a void from not having his father one would think that he would want better for his kids…not subject them to his reality. He learned how to parent from his parent…his mother and I wont comment on that…
all u usher haters can go 2hell 4all i care……. he is d bigest boi
Like, totally???
My two cents; Everyone is entitled to there opinion via the 1st Amendment, but some if not majority are sexist, ignorant, and biased. If this was vise versa you would be praising that woman like a goddess with all your "good for her, go girl etc" crap if she was taking them from him. Not to sound insensitive but Usher is not responsible for her and Ryan children. She and Ryan lost a child. The event was tragic and may the little guy rest peacefully in the Lords embrace. You are idiots to agree in comparison. You compare a male who physically assaulted a female to a male who fought for custody of HIS OWN flesh!!! Not to mention they have been in a custody battled months before the that tragedy. And for you inhuman individuals to say you stop listening to his music all because he was still fighting for custody of HIS children even though she was grieving at the loss of one of her and her ex?? Grow the hell up!!! Though he had a connection with the boy he has no biological obligation. Of course he was hurt as well as she was by the loss but…do blame him for moving forward with his life and a case the was already in progress before that tragic loss.
lol
Vay, exactly. Inhumane is an act of incest or rape, not withdrawing your financial support. Are people who don’t buy Alicia Keys, CB or R Kelly cds inhumane as well? I don’t think they’re 2 peas in the same pod, but I doubt those who do are saying so because he sought custody. Grow the hell up? Odd advice from a post like yours.
*shrugs*
Its because he has always been in spotlight. Most people know the singer; what they see is a youthful soul which keeps him young. But Usher has an old mentality. You have to let him finish his sentence and follow his directions or he is quick to anger and the old person comes out.Some issues I find with him are that he can become so angry or needs to express his feelings in such a way that he isolates,barracades and turns to his music and his dancing(expression)We have been having very heated arguments all about money and I told him I was done and its in our best interest to see other people because I wont argue with him over material and he started to play his guitar.It was so beautiful. He did so because he knows that I was trying to leave. Even if you love someone with all your heart it makes you look stupid for waiting on a person who publicly flaunts women that he claims he doesn’t like around and people have pictures; That is where his delusion resides because some of the pictures he is in yet he can’t stop calling me. I’m confused because I care enough about him to be his friend. He is not ready for a serious relationship with me whether I am poor or he is rich; His ego gets in the way of being happy. He rebounds to certain women everytime we have an argument. I don’t take any of his arguments seriously beacuse I alwas tell him we have never argued and won’t start today. If you have a problem its probably within you and I suggest you talk to the mirror.