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Wendy Williams recently discussed Usher Raymond‘s appearance on Oprah’s Next Chapter, where he discussed the bitter custody battle between he and his ex-wife, Tameka Foster Raymond.
[WATCH: Usher Raymond on Oprah's Next Chapter (FULL VIDEO)]
The opinionated talk show host, who is also the mother of a 12 year old son, got a tad bit emotional, and even shed a few tears, as she talked about Usher’s quest to remove his 2 son’s from their mother.
[READ: Judge Rules in Usher's Favor in Child Custody Battle...]
Williams’ issues where the same as most of ours: a) that Tameka was NOT found to be an unfit parent, b) Usher is clearly harboring some kind of grudge for continuing with the process even after Tameka lost her son, Kile and c) the fact that Usher’s attorney sat on the Judge’s re-election committee is rather shady and there should be some kind of investigation in the matter.
Watch video below…
VIDEO: Wendy Williams Gets Emotional About Usher Custody Battle
I’ve heard that Wendy asked Tameka to appear on the show to discuss her side, but that Tameka was apprehensive because of their history. Back when Wendy had her radio show, she invited Tameka as a guest and once she realized she would “dish dirt” on air, promptly kicked her out.
AUDIO: Tameka Raymond on Wendy Williams Radio Show
So yeah… I could see why she’d pass on it. But it seems like Wendy had a change of heart and I can totally relate.
Most of you know that Tameka and I have never been BFFs, but what I saw in that courtroom made me cringe! Some of y’all may go in on me for supporting Tameka, but what’s fair is fair.
What if it was you in her situation…? or your sister…? or cousin…? or close friend… ?
No… there’s absolutely nothing wrong with a father wanting to raise his own kids. It’s great that Usher wants to be fully and completely in the lives of his sons BUT is it justified that a mother should give up custody just because she and her high-powered ex-husband don’t get along?
The two had joint custody in the first place, I don’t see how justice was served. But that’s just me….
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Meka don’t worry that bastard and his tired ugly momma gonna get theirs, love ya girl stay strong. Usher just a little baby boy trying to be a man. He know he like boys anyway.
This is when the "Government of Rightness" should get involved, why should Usher have any rights after all Usher refused to take a "Drug Test"….what are you hiding???? And his relationship with his mother is "Salty" he doesn’t respect what she has to say, example his mom didn’t want Usher to marry Tameka and we all know how that turned out. Usher sucks…..
Government of Righteousness, whatever Dwayne Wade is no better than Usher, they are both losers…
thank you wendy and michelle.
the custody results bothers me to the core.
i pray for tameka’s light and strength.
Tameka and her loss really tugs at my heart. I see absolutely no fault in her as a mother. She is an awesome mother. I don’t know why she lost full custody but it seems shady that Usher’s lawyer is "close" to the judge. Much love to Tameka and that selffish ex husband of her’s. I don’t know about Usher now.
So the ish that this site and many others have reporting for weeks has just made it to her show, oh wow. She should cry over being too damn late with the story. She is part of the problem. Everyone is projecting their own life into something that is not our business to begin with. No one wants their children taken from them but also no one wants their partner to play fast and loose with the children. She makes it seem as thought Usher wanted to go forward after the death, no that was his ex’s idea. If both parties would have remembered to treat the other like you would want to be treated then maybe this case wouldnt be such a mess. I just hope they grown ass remember that because they are raising children.
I totally agree that he asked for a break in the case. We don’t know all the facts; however women get full custody and the father get’s every other weekend all the time. GET OVER IT!! he is only responsible for his two boys and anything else surrounding them is not his problem. He has every right to have his two boys as often and for however long that he chooses. People have such double standards. If he cn be a better parent, as determined by the courts then he should get his kids. Begging for money ladies will sometimes make you appear unable to provide for the children. Stand on your own two feet and at least provide 50% of the cost for your children and let God do the rest.Wendy get over it! and I wouldnt have taken the drug test either.
People have been projecting their lives, feelings and opinions about these people way before this case even came about. One thing that I agree with Usher on is his fans and the media playing a big part in the demise of this relationship. How sad…what’s even worse is how HE (Usher) has played the media and his fans into thinking that he is this perfect dad when none of us are perfect.He closet of skeletons is just as full as Tameka’s. *Sticking with the facts…he NEVER wanted to stop the case he simply wanted to postpone it and I dont blame Tameka for wanting to move along with the case. No mother OR father deserve to have their joint decision making power taken away from them when there is no justification behind such order. Currently the orginal court order is still in effect so yes I do believe GOD is moving on these kids behalf.
Plus his fans are hypocrites. They had qualms over him and Chilli a decade ago yet they got extremely pissy over him getting with Tameka and marrying her.
@ McDuffie I agree with some of the things you’ve said. Everybody is making a big deal about this man getting custody of his children when it’s usually the opposite on a daily basis. I have empathy for Tameka’s loss of her oldest son too, but the fact still remains that the visitations were tumultous and not working out well. Maybe this way will work out better, who knows? I’m just tired of people acting like life is over because a man wants custody of his sons. If they were girls we’d be saying "Girls need to be raised by their mothers…" I think little boys need to be raised by thier fathers if they are responsible role models. That’s the reason so many of our brothas don’t know how to be men today. As women we’re strong and able to do a lot of things, but teaching boys to be men is not our best attribute. IJS!
Yes,he refuse to take a take a drug test !!!
Exactly!….He refused to take a drug test because his crazy butt was on drugs which is why he was crying and acting so crazy on stage early last year I believe it was.
I believe he’s still on drugs. He kept rubbing his nose while he was being interviewed by Oprah. That is an obvious sign.
Nothing would surprise me as it pertain to Usher.
EXACTLY!! NO CANDY ALL DAY
NOSE
I wish Usher and his sons the best and I hope he makes the right decision in letting Tameka remain a constant factor in their lives. Shows over folks, move on. Your feeling for Tameka is not doing her any good. The court has made their decision, whether you like it or not, and maybe now the two will work in the best interest of the boys.
agree 100%
Agree, make it work and keep it private going forward!!
I sympathize with some of you, but it is also good for Black men to spend time and be with their Fathers. Tameka is not unfit and should def be around all the time.
But at the end of the day is it really so bad if these young boys spend the majority of time with their dad?
This is not about Black men or Black boys because truth be told I am sick and damn tired of the focus always being on Black men and Black boys.Black girls and Black women also need to be priority.
This is about a woman who wasn’t shown to be unfit who lost a custody battle brought on by her ex husband for petty reasons such as he thought his money was supporting her other children including little Kile.
Tameka lost primary custody to someone that can’t be there to take care of the children.
Tameka lost a custody battle to someone that had the judge in his pocket based on her relationship with his lawyer.
Tameka lost primary custody to man who refused to take a drug test so lets not make Usher out to be a saint since many of his supporters are out to make Tameka the devil.
At the end of the day it’s not good for the children to spend time with someone so vindictive and at the end of the day there is no reason why they SHOULD NOT be spending time with their mother….
i agree
Bitch…get over it…black men and black boys should remain our focus…our ethnic group is run by woman and we are beyond behind…Black men need to take over our ethnic group…
Not if they’re anything like you. A real man would never refer to black women as bitches. The reason women are raising men as single parents is because men are making the babies but have no means or desire to care for them. Black men don’t need to "take over," they need to step up to the plate and be men.
black men? what does color have to do with it?..please
Ok this is a human issue not a "Black Men need to spend time and be Father’s issue"… Going off subject for a minute, plenty of my caucasion friends had missing daddys and surprise me being the black chick my daddy has been there from DAY one and still is….. This case is interesting because, why did it have to get to this point, why could’nt they be adults and raise their children together… Oh that’s right EGOs are ginormous…..
Yes it is really bad that he has custody because he’s unreasonable and wicked.
Usher called Tameka after he got word first (seemingly before the judge "officially" informed anyone), that he won the case and said to Tameka over the telephone she taped it): "how does it feel to lose custody of your children?" and "someday I’ll tell my boys they had a mother."
What kind of insane moron says that to a woman whose not only just lost custody of her kids but buried her 11 year old just a few weeks prior?
For that telephone call alone Usher should lose custody as he has no intention of making it easy for Tameka to mother her children and he’s sadistic. Hopefully the real appeal (not the appeal made to the trial judge), will succeed and justice will finally be done.
Oprah FAILED with that scripted @zz interview… He should REALLY have some real answers for these questions. But whatever, right? She deserves what she’s getting because like most women, she married for security (women bring SO much to the table, more money can always be made) right?
Hopefully Wendy will get the okay to have Tameka as a guest on her show. Somebody should offer her the proper platform to give her side.
I agree because no platform has been given to her to give her side.Usher’s mother is still upset with Tameka because her son decided to marry her but she seems upset in an UNNATURAL way,it’s as if she has JEALOUSY for Tameka because she and her son were married…..
I think she is jealous. Don’t quite get that one. It’s almost like, "I sacrificed everything to make you what you are…you OWE me."
Yes it’s very odd….
So I guess Tameka going off on twitter wasn’t enough of a platform???? You can diss Usher all you want, I’m not saying he’s perfect in this either (hell, I think they both deserve the side-eye) but Usher talked about this case ONCE. That was on Oprah. I guarantee you that if Tameka goes on Wendy and says one thing that goes against all the times she put Ush on blast via Twitter she WILL get called out on it. And thats FACT.
Can we move to the present? Tameka hasnt said anything about Usher or this case on Twitter.
Exactly!
So I guess Tameka going off on twitter wasn’t enough of a platform????
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Yeah, right, ’cause you can really set the record straight in 140 characters or less.
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she put Ush on blast via Twitter she WILL get called out on it. And thats FACT.
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Naturally, because his disturbed obsessive ass stans don’t have shit else to do than to torment this woman who divorced this man 2 years ago. If they would only put so much effort and energy into the Nov. election.
Ok let’s all agree, TWITTER in NO shape or form could ever be called a platform….as u were… too funny…
I can’t believe Wendy Williams is dumb enough to fall for this fool’s act.Usher is all about Usher and he is on one big PR tour.
Okay, I reacted before I actually saw the clip because I actually agree with Wendy Williams.
Yeah bitch….get it right before you start talking at your ass…bitches…
Would you please go back to Bossip with that? What’s wrong with you? Maybe you have such f*cked up relationships with women because you call them bitches. I’m sure your mother, your grandmother, and every woman in your life did not raise you to be so disrespectful to women. You are acting like every derogatory stereotype ever given to a black male.
Think about that, and stop starting every sentence with an insult. You seem ignorant.
You come to a blog and call everyone "bitches." All opinions are welcomed and, but why are you here if you don’t have anything positive to contribute to the discussion? Young man, do better. Please!
I really like Tameka a lot and I feel she was treated very unfair and somebody need to look at the whole process of the trail I mean really the shady lawyer & judge something is off and they blocked her appeal…smh I know she won’t ever give up the fight justice will eventually be served….I never cared for Wendy but I do agree with her now…and I use to be a fan of Usher can’t believe dude has a heart like that….The Oprah interview was a joke I wanted to hit him and his mom in the throat….God forgive me but I did….
Your right, Tameka GAVE UP her kids. And as much as it seems that it wasn’t fair for her to lose primary custody, She did that too herself. Can you honestly say that Tameka didn’t create the damage that we alleged Usher’s PR team reported? I read the transcript and it sounds like Usher didn’t do much to make Tameka look suspect. She threw herself under the bus not realizing she was doing just that. You can make all the excuses in the world but what she said and admitted to on that stand (on top of slamming Usher on Twitter) can’t be ignored. I’m not saying that Usher is a saint, hell I think he’s just as suspect as she is, but let’s call "a thing a thing" (Iyanla Vanzant) and acknowledge that this woman is just as messed up.
KEEP YOUR EMOTIONS OUT OF IT!!!!
FINALLY!!!!
She wasn’t prepped before she got on the stand and she never polished her image quick enough for any media outlets which may have played a role in everything. you don’t get on the stand neck rolling then get on twitter and jump on the man’s current significant other and not be given the side eye by everyone. her LAWYERS dropped the ball plenty of times. his refusal to drop urine for the drug test would always be overshadowed by the fact that she’s a bit unstable mentally
KEEP YOUR EMOTIONS OUT OF IT!!!!
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Funny. Just like y’all argue what does Usher’s infidelities, schedule and ramming his mother’s car has to do with his parenting skills, what does Tameka’s behavior towards her cheating husband, his mistress and his harrassing ass stans have to do with her parenting skills.
You’re as emotional as the audience you’re typing to.
Exactly!
I’ve remained hushed on this situation as I think it is really insane that this is happening in the public eye but I don’t see anyone stating some of Tameka’s flaws here and saying she was an excellent mother… really? 1. Where were the kids during her botched surgery in Brazil? 2. Where was she when Kile was injured? 3. She has gone off on & threatened everyone from Usher, his mom, his girlfriend, Wendy Williams and yes even Michele (Straight from the "A" Blogger). 4. Spitting on people 5. Throwing plates 6. Leaving the kids in the house to follow Ursh to his car ranting and raving 7. Not providing the kids itinerary as required by the custody agreement 8. Not having the kids delivered to him on time as required by the custody agreement… the list goes on and on. Tameka has a history of manic antics, wild & volatile behavior. Folks keep going on about him continuing the proceedings when he suggested they put it on hold but she decided to push forward. The connection between Usher’s lawyer and the judge may be actual but it’s not as if they get to CHOOSE which cases are presented before them. The cases are assigned, I also feel it is a discredit to the presiding judge to suggest that she was biased because of it. I’m sure Usher is not worth her career! Also, ppl keep talking about how he cheated with her bridesmaid, from what I’ve read it happened AFTER they seperated. But to give this focus, didn’t Tameka leave her first son’s father for Ryan Glover THEN cheat on him and leave HIM & her 3 kids to be with Usher? Karma is a bitch in heat! Don’t get me wrong, my heart goes out to her for the death of her baby, I couldn’t even imagine but when you play big girl games you get big girl penalties… I like Usher but I can’t really say I’m a fan and I see several causes for him to receive "primary custody". So from what I’ve read, heard and seen Tameka violated the original custody agreement, has admitted to being violent and confrontational and has shown all around instability.
Just to clarify, I don’t think the death of her baby is a result of her "looseness" after reading the post I saw that it could be interpreted that way. I am referring to the public humiliation she is enduring and has endured since marrying the lil boy.
2. Where was she when Kile was injured?
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This question and 1/2 the others you asked have been answered over and over again, if you’d take the time to read.
GAWD DAMN.
The only thing that I agree with that u said is karma is a bitch and it has a bitch named Usher written all over it. Don’t care about half the shit u posted. Show me a document that found her unfit then we can talk. The both have issues
Sorry Meka, did I hit a nerve LOL You don’t have to agree hun, I simply stated facts that (like I said in the post) Tameka herself owned up to. Her not following the original custody order is reason enough for the judge’s decision, they didn’t have to prove her unfit. I agree, they both have issues, however and apparently Usher’s issues are less public. And given your nasty attitude and inability to express yourself in an adult manner you and I will NEVER have anything to talk about whether you get the "document" or not LOL
Isys alot of what you posted isnt accurate…I will give you a few examples. She didnt spit on anyone…she spit on the window of the truck (probably WISHING it hit Grace’s face but it didnt) your # 7 and # 8 were actaully Tameka’s issue with Usher *check the court documents. She also didnt like the fact that he would go to a hotel and not provide the names the rooms would be registered under especailly since he wouldnt take her calls.
"didn’t Tameka leave her first son’s father for Ryan Glover THEN cheat on him and leave HIM & her 3 kids to be with Usher? Karma is a bitch in heat! Don’t get me wrong, my heart goes out to her for the death of her baby, I couldn’t even imagine but when you play big girl games you get big girl penalties…"
Sigh..Tameka’s first son died long before Ryan came along…she was seperated (but still legally married) from Ryan when Usher came along…her and Ryan had and continues to have joint custody of their son together.Not being funny but maybe you might want to check your sources…
Can someone say Amen! I am so glad that someone finally put all this out there. The court never said that she was an unfit parent. If it had, she would not have visitation. She now has the same rights that he had from the beginning. No one has ever said that she was an unfit mother. The court only ruled that Usher was the more fit "primary" parent. Which means in this case, he makes better decisions than she does regarding the kids. It kills me that people want to act like he took the kids away from her forever and for her to never see them again and that is not the case. She has the same rights as he does. It is just that he is the primary decision maker concerning the kids. No one has taken her kids away.
sorry but I understand her visitation was reduced to six days a month and I actually think thats a monumental change.
u HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA WHAT U R TALKING ABOUT. A MOTHER CANT GO TO BRAZIL ON VACATION WITH FRIENDS? WHY DID HE BRING THE WOMAN HE WAS HAVING AN AFFAIR WITH TO THE HOUSE. THAT WAS TOTALLY DAMN DISRESPECTFUL, IF IT WAS ME, I WOULDA KILLED HER. HE CONSTANTLY CHEATED ON THIS WOMAN, PLAYED DUMB ON THE STAND. WHAT HISTORY OF VOLATILE BEHAVIOR? HOW COME WHEN USHER HAD THE KIDS, SHE NEVER KNEW WHERE THEY WERE? KILE WAS WITH HIS REAL FATHER WHEN HE DIED. USHER CLAIMS HE WAS AT THE FUNERAL, HOW DID THE PAPPARAZI MISS THAT? UR AN IDIOT.
Great Points….The thing that get me is the fact these Usher fanatics are actually EVIL enough to use the death of Kile as something against Tameka. People that do that are some really PITIFUL spirits….
YES! Pitiful and evil is a great description. Although they hate her son died (I hope), I’m sure many of them are happy to see her suffer behind it. You can tell by the way they continue to taunt her and talk about her on blogs ("I hate her son died, but karma’s a bitch and she’s a…..). We don’t have amnesia, just the common curteousy not to kick someone at their lowest point. It’s like they see Kile’s death as her penance for duping poor, naive innocent lil’ Usher.
And as somebody said somewhere, we go round and round saying the same damn thing because regardless of what one person may type, people pose the same damn questions. As I’ve said, Groundhog day. I’m guilty too. Read 1st, then post. Maybe the answers to your questions are already there.
Even if he did not take the test for prinicipal sake. Everyones arguement is that he didnt take a drug test, so by not taking it, he looks guilty. If he was doing drugs-YOU HAVE A SCHEDULED DRUG TEST!!! Clean your pee and shave your body just incase they want to pluck some hairs, and shut everyone the hell up. Pee in that cup then smoke, pop or snort what hell you like cause she had the kids at that time.
I agree with this entire post. I never got why everyone bashed Tameka in the first place. It really sucks that more of us aren’t discussing this because of who he is. I feel so badly for Tameka, but the saying is true…Karma is a bitch. Usher will get his, one way or another. The only thing we can do is pray for those children and Tameka.
The women empathizing with Tameka and bashing Usher are just shocked that a father is having his day in court! Every time I hear of a relationship in which kids are involved ending, the mother threatens the father with child support. Many dads are reluctant to seek joint or full custody because of the belief that the court will side with the mother. Usher and his attorney just proved this myth to be false! I hope this convinces more fathers to seek custody of their children. Trifling women scared now…the days of child support being your primary source of income, and using the children against the father are coming to an end!
Tameka is still getting child support…maybe she just want to be a full-time mother to her babies I think that both her and Usher deserve to have that role…
There is so much more that I could say about this post in regards to "men" being fathers but I wont even go there. lol
And when are the days of you trifling men making babies and having to be TOLD by the courts to pay going to end?You sound like a bitter baby daddy who is behind on his payments…And these men are only seeking custody to hurt these women who no longer want to put up with their mess, its not about the kids.
And you sound like a bitter baby momma with 3 kids from 3 different "trifling men". I don’t have to pay child support because my son lives with me and is very well taken care of. If you’re dealing with "trifling men", that’s your fault. You and your trifling baby daddies should share the blame.
Typical-because you can’t get your point across effectively, you have to resort to ATTEMPTING to discuss my life. Amazing, considering I have only experienced your trifling ass on this blog, and you know me in no shape, form, or fashion. Like I stated BEFORE, you sound bitter and behind on your payments. Considering the fact that I’m married to my child’s father, I wouldnt know a thing about "trifling baby daddies"-you sound like a expert though..Experienced in that field, much?Get your life, plz and ty.
Dear Michelle of SFTA,
Although a fan of your website (when you are not reporting on this Usher vs. Tameka situation), it has become more and more apparent that me you have a personal vendetta against Usher. It is very clear from your actions and slanted reporting that either Usher or someone close to him did something to offend you.
You have stated time and time again that Usher was the one that wanted to continue with the custody battle after Kile’s death, yet you fail to realise that you have been contradicting yourself the entire time.
A quick Google search with the key phrase "Usher files to postpone custody case" will produce several articles that prove that Usher wanted to postpone the custody case [due to fears that the court hearing would cause “unnecessary stress and strain” for himself, Tameka, and their two young children]. Although I can’t seem to find the exact link, I also read on another site that another reason Usher filed for the postponement was because he feared that the judge would biasly rule in favour of a mother who just buried one of her kids.
Even Tameka proves my statements true, in a post YOU reported on, entitled [Tameka Foster Raymond wants you to know? Official statement Re. Custody battle]. She clearly wrote, in black and white, "Most importantly, nor do I wish to appear in court while I am mourning the loss of my son. BUT I DO NOT WANT TO DELAY, THUSE PROLONG THESE PROCEEDINGS EITHER. I WOULD RATHER CONTINUE THIS ARDUOUS PROCESS, hoping it will help move me through this most difficult period in my life".
How then, after Tameka’s own admission do you continuously portray Usher as a villain who went after Tameka at her weakest moments, when she herself stated that she wanted to get it over with?
My only advice to you, Michelle, would be to build a bridge and cross over it. Move on!!! Countless celebs like Nene Leakes have dissed you on numerous occasions, yet you always do positive posts about show launches, and events that they host. K.Michelle (and maybe Usher) disses you once and you continue to drag them for filth.
BECAUSE HE IS NOTICE HOW MANY PEOPLE ARE APPALLED BY HIM RIGHT NOW, HE IS A CALLOUS VINDICTIVE JERK AND A BIG LIAR!!!!!
I underdstand why a man would fight for his kids if their mother was not taking care of them properly. Tameka wanted joint. All of you siding with Usher is saying you would be ok if your ex took your children. In a nutshell,this is what is going on. Forget everything including the Oprah interview for a second. Those two boys need both parents to raise them jointly. As a mother and a teacher, I feel for those boys. Nobody could replace their mother and it is time people realize that. I agree with Tameka in this case because she wants joint. She wasn’t trying to be spiteful by going after full custody like Usher did. A real mother realizes children need both parents. I work with children and trust me the stories I hear daily about how they either miss their mom or dad is heartwrenching. I was not there during their marriage,but I do know right from wrong. All of you so called Usher fans, riddle me this.How is it Usher was so hurt about not having his dad in his life,but yet he thinks it’s ok to take Tameka out of his children’s lives? DA you have so much to say,answer that.
They still have joint custody, he is just the primary parent. The only thing that happened is that their roles have changed.
StillSad not really. They both had joint custody and were jointly decision makers for the kids with Usher having the final say. While yes they do have joint custody in regards to visitation. IF this case goes as the Judge ruled Usher will makes all decisions in regards to the boys without Tameka having any say…
Here is an example…just like with her son Kile that passed. Her and Ryan (K’s dad) jointly decided everything that would happen to Kile from hospital to Dr to care etc. With the ruling that was just made Tameka would have NO SAY in anything involving her child. Usher would decide it all and legally she couldn’t do anything about that.
I read only minor situations though, the bigger situations they would have to come to amicable terms
I would consider medical and school to be big and Usher has the say so (those were the two used as an example)…unless there is a book that states what would be "minor" v. "bigger" situations I dont think that is the case.These two would need clear cut directions to make something like that work although they are suppose to be a family coordinator.
Sam, well damn lol.
Sam stopped playing with Usher’s butt a long time ago and I dont blame her. lol
yes yes yes,tameka is finally gona have a platform to speak for herself….just watched entertainment tonight and it has been revealed that nancy o dell interviewed her….now lets see what she’s got to say and see if ppl are still gona hate on her.
hmmmm…this can be good or bad..sigh
I feel Tameka should have played the background, I get she was proud of her marriage and who she was married too..however she is NOT a star her ex husband is..social networking is not a friend to many especially to her..IMO lay low..but don’t make it worse.. painting Usher is a bad light hurts his pockets which will ultimately hurt hers..In the end she may still lose..he’s been in this game too long She just needs to have patience truth doesn’t stay hidden forever
I see why clearing her name may be important to her from a business stand point but this is personal and I dont know if it’s in her or the kids best interest to even speak on it. People who hate her will continue to do so…just because… especially since most who do have no valid reason for doing so.I think it was big of her to not comment on the Usher/Oprah interview but it’s time for her to stay focus on continue to fight for her kids. She might just be fueling the fire which is not a good look.
Vay, someone posted on her twitter page that Oprah was exploiting black people to save her new network when before she barely showcased black guests at all. Her response was a simple "yeah."
Girl, you’d have thought she tore up the Pope’s picture. She was called every damn thing. Like you said, she’s hated "just because." At this point, I believe people who don’t even care for Usher one way or the other hate her "just because."
Exactly STLChick! Last week she tweeted "oh" and someone said to her "bitch what you mean oh" followed by how she needs to drop his last name or the classic one "Tameka you blocked me but you still a hoe" say what?! Those were just last week. People are crazy forreal. But let her respond and she has mental issues. lol Sad part is I dont check Twitter very often but if this is what I see when I do I could only imagine..
OAN: is the Upper Crust open yet? lol I need to plan a trip to come get some soul food! I’ll just have to do double Zumba that day. lol
So a women can have primary custody and take the man to court for more child support, but the man can’t have primary custody? Everyone is saying "look at the facts" but the facts are from bloggers reporting what they saw. We will never know truly what the deal is and what has been going on behind close doors. In general they both got issues and nedd to sit down somewhere. Usher is such the bad guy yet charter her a plan to be with her son. Maybe he might be tired of paying for her life style (living in the manson which i’m sure he is paying for mantinaing plus child support). From what i herd (on the bogger sites) Tameka has been working on a reality show about her life, she pitched it to Oprah and it got refected. I though she said she wouldn’t do anything like that? Again they (Usher and Tameka) both need to have a seat and work it out with out everyone lookin’ in.
I heard that one of the reasons they went to court is because she constantly ran interference when he was supposed to have them..one being him having Cinco for an hour? and she went over party time and tried to get him to come inside, which he refused to do..If that was true I can understand THAT anger.If he had allotted time with his son, she should abide by that and respect it…he shouldn’t have to share his time with his son with her and other people especially if she was aware and agreed to the arrangement..The rest of the reasons seem extra as hell..but again like everything else mere speculation.
See as a mother I have to give that the "side eye". lol If the party was for Cinco then what would have been so hard for him to stop being prideful and come into his SONs other environment? Maybe Cinco was having a ball and didnt want to leave. She invited him in according to what you typed which most evil "baby mama’s" could care less how long he had to wait. IF it were in fact about the kids I dont see what the big deal was. Didnt nobody say go in and touch Tameka up…go in a be a FATHER!
I guess my husband better keep me forever because if HE gives a party for my child I want to be a part…for my child! Life is too short to miss wonderful moments over some bull.
Hey Vay, you can’t force someone to make "family time", if that situation’s true in my opinion she was wrong for that..
Hey mama! I get what you are saying but I just think they both need to grow up and stop being so selfish. I have two step children and we make sure that if we are doing something special for the kids the MOTHERS are involved or at least invited. I put mothers in caps because it’s 2 of them.lol No they dont come over my house to chill, no we dont hang out and no we dont have "family time" BUT we are all involved in the kids lives and ultimately WE are the example of what the kids see as a functioning family. Half the time at functions we dont even sit together. BUT we show each other respect and speak. Tameka and Usher will have to learn to make it work with what they have or they each will end up missing very important milestones in these boys lives.I get it was court ordered but courts also encourage you to work together. An hour? Ok trip if it’s a day. If Tameka was trying to force him to be around her there are a million ways she can do so which wouldnt involve their childs party. lol Usher better stop letting the chick he with at the moment and his mama run his life and planting rotten seeds in his head. Being a dad AND mother is not always comfortable but when it comes to the kids being happy that is what really matters. Just my opinion but I do get where you are coming from…
Right! I feel u there..it’s a whole big mess and the internet isn’t going anywhere anytime soon..people talk and will continue to talk as the boys get older..they both need to THINK
hour? and she went over party time and tried to get him to come inside, which he refused to do..If that was true I can understand THAT anger.If he had allotted time with his son, she should abide by that and respect it…he shouldn’t have to share his time with his son with her and other people especially if she was aware and agreed to the arrangement..
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I said it then and I’ll say it now that Tameka was wrong as hell when she did this. That’s when you report her to the judge, not seek sole custody.
Right now, it’s over. As much as I have to say on it, I’d love to see this topic die down. This ain’t over anyway…All we have to do is wait…it’s just starting, I feel.
correct, I agree with that..If you agreed to a time don’t go over that time to FORCE him to be around you. If that was true it was childish
Come on guys its a party…Life is not so black and white. How many times you try to leave one and you are having a blast so you stay, now if this is a continuous thing then yes, I would pull her up on it via the Lawyers and try to deal with it amicably.
I remember when this story came out and I remember thinking she was wrong in that situation and I still think she was wrong even though i’m so over usher.
It’s obvious that they don’t get along and havent for some time now so there was no need for her to think usher would want to come into the party. That’s for parents who can at least be in the same room, they cannot.
Also if I remember correctly it was a weekend and she had the party at her business. He was to get the kids for a couple of hours late in the evening to celebrate. She could have had that party over and done with well before his scheduled pickup time.
Again I still think tameka has probably done many things wrong, ( just as he has), but she didnt deserve to have lost joint custody. I’m praying for her and really wish she wouldn’t have done the interview, but I can imagine how hard it is to not want to tell your side of the story.
Michelle and anyone else that can help me understand as I am all kinds of confused…
So I have been told that there were two motions that were filed a "Recusal motion" and a "New Trial Motion" by Tameka and her Attorney. So at the time that these motions were filed a "stay" was put in place and the original court order was/is still being enforced. So CURRENTLY they both still have Joint rights to the boys. Apparently the Judge ruled on the "recusal motion" but havent ruled on the "new trial motion"…is that true? The "media" would have you believe different. Plus what happened to the Sept court date that was suppose to take place? The only thing that would have stopped that court date is if the Judge still hasnt ruled which again is totally different from what is being reported.
I really dont see a judge saying "yeah I was wrong in my ruling…sorry" lol .So IF she hasnt ruled on a new trial yet clearly she is trying to make sure she covered all her basis…sounds kind of fishy to me since most Judges do that prior to ruling on a case. lol
I am guessing her lawyers feel the motion(s) will help add to the record of argument leading to an appeal of the case to an appeals court. Which is probably where Tameka and her team want to end up anyway…
IF I am understanding this correctly this Judge is about to be put on notice in a major way. I hope Usher and the money that he paid out is worth it…
Ok somebody help me out!! lol
This situation is not good for any one involved. Anytime children can only see one parent some of the time, that is not good. However, why is everyone feeling so sorry for Tameka? I’m not saying she is an unfit parent but why is it that a man should not be able to have full custody of his kid(s)? Everyday mothers are given full custody or must custody to their kids and fathers are left hurt. I know guys who wish they had their kids in their homes but they can’t. I don’t feel any more sorry for Tameka than I do for fathers that deal with this type of thing everyday. And if I’m not mistakened, didn’t they have joint custody but Tameka wanted full custody? If this is so, then I definitely don’t feel bad.
And Wendy needs to have several seats. She always wants to get on TV and cry for someone she did wrong in the past. i.e. Whitney Houston. Chile please
First of all Wendy hates usher behind him cheating on Chilli and she’s never recovered so that situation was biased from the get go…She couldn’t stand Tameka, but suddenly she’s her bff..boo stop! she needs to worry about her own husband and what he’s doing
I don’t agree at all. I feel she simply sympathizes with Tameka, one mother to another. Particularly since she has a son abt the same age. Concerning Whitney, I think her biggest issue was that she struggled w/ the same demons and it could’ve been her. She tends to internalize more than the average person. Also, Wendy is quite self-involved. It’s all about her.
I doubt she’ll ever see Tameka as a BFF, like I doubt ATLien sees her as a BFF. But even if you despise a person, you show respect when they experience a tragedy not to attack them. Don’t know WTF people are learning nowdays, but clearly you can’t be taught social norms when you’re being raised by technology, like this generation.
No, Tameka NEVER wanted full custody; that was Usher. Tameka wanted joint. Nothing is wrong with fathers having full custody if the mother is unfit. They still have joint (with Usher having primary) because the judge clearly didn’t think she was unfit and warranted losing all custody. The question we have is, why did Usher? His motives seems selfish. But in general, all have agreed that there’s nothing wrong w/ fathers seeking custody. But don’t do it just because you don’t want to pay, or you don’t want to adhere to the agreement. That’s all.
IN MY OPINION I honestly think she was playing chess with those kids, not letting him see them at times, threating to take custody. Honestly none of us know the real issues these two dealt with, with trying to co-parent those kids. All the info we get second and third hand comes from bias blogs. Ya’ll go back and forth saying the same thing everytime there’s a Tameka and Usher post. And even when they (T&U)interview we still wont know the whole truth. I understand being sympathetic on both sides, but sheeesh some of yall have invested toooo much energy into these two. God is love <3
Tameka is hated by many because of second and third hand info coming from blogs and fans.I think if we all hated her it wouldnt be a problem but since that is not the case it comes to question. That woman has never done anything to me so why should I dislike her? You posted this…"I honestly think she was playing chess with those kids, not letting him see them at times, threating to take custody." Ok…unless you were one of the many nannys that THEY fired you are basing that off of the same second hand info that you claim we all are. My heart goes out to Tameka for all the unnessessary hate she gets, my heart goes out to Tameka for her ex husband taking her to court, my heart goes out to Tameka for losing a child, my heart goes out to Tameka for still have to fight a case when she was never found to be unfit.My heart goes out to her for being sooooooo imperfect that the world just wont let her be. Those are all facts. I do agree that we will never know the all the truths but I personally think that we know too much. Both have done wrong, both have hurt each other and I feel they are running out of time to get it right…those boys are getting older and wiser. Eventually they to will take sides…not good. Forget what the world thinks, forget telling your side, figure out a way to make it work for those kids. The LAST thing we need is two more angry black men on this earth with a heart full of hatred because of their parents.
All caps unecessary. Clearly it is all opinions going back and forth. I get your view point. Agree to disagree.
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It really makes me shake my head to see folks cursing at other folks about their opinion over something none of us really knows about. Not everyone will agree but my goodness it’s not that serious. All I wish is for still for them to let the anger go and co-parent for the sake of the kids so they can do it jointly. Navi and Urv deserve this.
Gwendella, that sad thing is this site is more civilized than the others. Social norms are abandoned when one sits behind a key board, & people take disagreements as a personal attack. Nobody’s saying you’re WRONG, they’re just presenting an opposing view. This site is a little more tolerant and stimulating.
You can say something as simple as, "rihanna really needs to watch the things she say, because young girls are looking up to her."
Here’s the responses you’ll get on the other sites:
Bossip- WTF do you expect from these bamma ass black bytches. She’s no different from the fat ass project dwelling baby mamas that suck dyck all day long.
RWS- STFU you jealous as hater! rihanna is beautiful, young, and she’s REAL! Take your black nappy head ass elsewhere. RIHANNA NAVY!!!
MTO- Wow, ain’t that some ish? Follow me on instagram whogiveafuck://htpwtfever
SR- (person 1) Cute outfit, though.
(person 2) *Waves hands* Hey, Mr. Bookman! What it do?
Despite the bickering, most of us do realize it’s abt the kids. It’s the other shit that make things go left lol.
BOOM! There it is! We have been prejudging Tameka from day 1..her skeletons came tumbling out and a large scale by both Sandra Rose and Michelle among others..she didn’t have a chance in hell..and didn’t help herself constantly fighting either..sometimes you can be your worse enemy..I’ve said it before and i’ll say it again..if Tameka laid low, she would have had more on her side instead of this divide that’s constantly switching back and forth..and it’s not just about those babies anymore there are extended members seeing what’s going on and able to comprehend..her sons have friends that read and watch as well..the embarrassment I can only imagine..it’s time to let go and because they both claim to love the Father..let GOD
You know I have to agree with that assessment and truthfully I didn’t read the responses I just know from knowledge that this is usually the worst posts lol. But I agree this is tame compared to others. Huffington Post is one also.
and it’s not just about those babies anymore there are extended members seeing what’s going on and able to comprehend..her sons have friends that read and watch as well.
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Valid points. There’s really no way to protect any of the boys, due to the media, blogs and sites like these. I hope Tameka keeps her boys off social media. I don’t put it past the stans to attack them in an effort to hurt her.
Gwendella, it does take on a life of it’s own, don’t it? lol. It’s like how Beyonce threads are on the other blogs, and God’s wanna be rep. is our very own clit flea.
You know, I had to read back over the thread to see who was cursing whom, cause I didn’t recall seeing much of that. If you’re counting my "gawd damn," I had that reaction because IMO that is an offensive question to ALL parents, mother and father. Why it matters where she was when her son was injured is beyond me. It implies she’s responsible. Children of divorced parents spends time with both. They also go to school. For those who CONSTANTLY ask this, would you say the parents of the Columbine victims are responsible? Of course not. Shit happens. Parents can’t be everywhere.
I really hope this Usher and Tameka , situation end soon and they move forward in raising, the boys in a peaceful manner.I believe,Tameka lost her children because of her behavior.Not, because she was a unfit mom. She has curse Usher out, spit on him, threw a plate of food at him, vandalized his car, threaten him and his girlfried, etc,etc. The court is not going allow the person with custody to behave this way against, the other party. She admitted in court that she did these thing to Usher. Apparently, Tameka didn’t prove to the court that Usher had a drug problem, so the court didn’t agree with her, to make Usher submitted to a drug test. Just, because someone wants you to do something you do it.
I understand Wendy Williams’ reaction 100%. It’s sad and heartbreaking when a man (for no justifiable reason) wants to take a child away from their mother.
People ASSUME that the mother is unfit in some way when a man wants custody of his child. Why can’t he just be spiteful and hateful?
My ex has threatened to take away my child on a daily basis. He’s never accused me of abuse or neglect or even have reason to think that. He does hateful things towards me regularly, putting my child in the middle most of the time. Even with his constant drama, I’ve never kept his child from him or spoken ill of him to our child. Yet he’s done the opposite. The only reason I believe he’s so hateful is because I’m married now, but that is no reason to take my child away. FYI.. he’s been married twice since my child was born!
There’s nothing wrong with a man wanting to see his child or even wanting joint custody. But when a man wants PRIMARY custody, one has to ask… why? Why take a child away from their mother when she’s NOT unfit? Why hurt a mother by taking her children away?
The only way to truly hurt a woman is to separate her from a child she grew in her womb, nurtured and nourished with her own being. Believe it or not, but there’s a reason the Lord made woman (and not man) to bear a child. When a man tries to disconnect that mother/child bond for selfish reason, he is a troubled and hateful being.
I look at the Usher/Tameka situation completely different now. I feel sorry for Tameka for having to deal with this madness. I haven’t heard one thing about her leaving the children unattended, hungry, abused or neglected. Usher needs help. Just because he and his moma don’t like her, don’t give them reason to rip her children away. This is just Usher’s way of having control over a woman that he divorced, embarrassed and neglected publicly. Why is he so mad? He thinks he’s won, but his sons are going to resent him for taking them away from their mother and brothers.
Just remember, Karma is a angry ass b-i-t-c-h!
the kids look so happy when they with him.it look like they love being around usher the there mom.
FYI..this the first Usher post since this mess started where the dialog has been on some grown folk for the most part, I thank you ladies for agreeing to disagree with GOD GIVEN SENSE!
Ditto! ; ). This is the banter I love. Spirited and respectful. The shit is like a soap opera, unfortunately.
People are acting like she only got visitation. The custody is split 51/49 meaning that she got 49% custody the difference is marginal and in Georgia 51% is consider full custody even if it’s only 1 point from joint. Stop acting like this woman will never be able to see her kids.
USHER IS A PUNK!
OMG wendy 4 real..i cant believe some of yall women..its all about the money …if he was a reg guy ..he would be stuck with child support because he dont want the girl nomore she mad he cheated and moved on he cant see the kid cause she dont want any other women around her kids she got kids around her and every triff dude she sleeping with around them..i know cause it happens i seen it in the court house the kids dont get the money she spends it on herself and whatever man she got..i was a single mom..i needed to go back to college..if my kids dad would have stepped up and raise the boys full time so i could finish school it would have been great..she can still see the kids..she didnt lose them ..they boys too..stop trippin yall..its selfish its their dad..dont care if he cheated or not so yall saying cause he did he dont deserve custody..he needs to pay and shut up..wow…i pray my sons make good choices when it comes to love…sex …..and having kids….its not a sport its someones life not about cry babyparents…
She has every right to have her children! Why should he have them? According to you,he should have them because he’s Usher.If you are not in that house or a witness in their personal lives, dont type, like you are on the inside of the situation.Do you find it better that Usher is a public slut,just because hes Usher.Keep fighting Tameka!Usher is disgusting!
Not at all but taking her to court to take her kids from her was not right.That was his intent…to take his boys on move on with his life. What real mother would allow that to happen?! She was never found to be unfit and honestly they BOTH have issues. Tameka has stated that she never had a problem with the joint agreement that they had and would never keep those boys from him. It is amazing that this agreement works with her first husband but not with Usher. He dont deserve full custody which is what he was aiming for.
yeah they should have joint custody not usher having full….
she should have taken the longer trial date, she would have been better mentally. i hpe she can fight this!