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It’s a sad state of affairs in America when a man can snatch kids from a mother simply because he has the money to do so.
As you know, Usher Raymond filed suit against his ex-wife Tameka Raymond seeking sole custody of their 2 young sons, Usher V and Naviyd.
[READ: Raymond v. Raymond: 5 Things Other Sites Won't Tell You Re: This Custody Battle]
A few days after closing arguments were heard in the months long battle, the judge issued a ruling regarding Tameka’s counterclaims in the lawsuit.
[READ: Usher held in Contempt... Tameka Gets Saks Card Back & More *COURT DOCS*]
An official ruling was made in the custody battle today and sadly the judge ruled in Usher’s favor.
Details below…
I’m waiting on the official documents, but here’s what I’ve heard so far…
A decision has reportedly been written where Usher has been granted “parental control” of the kids (meaning he gets to call all the shots), while the couple will maintain joint custody (but Usher has been granted “primary” custody.)
This means that Usher will be able to legally make all the decisions regarding his sons, including when and where Tameka can see them.
Many feel that Usher’s money and influence was a prime factor in the judges decision and it’s clear that Tameka can’t win a battle against a man who has that many “fans”.
As Tameka’s attorney stated during closing arguments… it was all “the Usher show”… one big performance where he (and his team) totally manipulated and controlled each and every aspect of the case.
[READ: Raymond v. Raymond: Custody Battle ALMOST Over... Closing Arguments Presented]
There was absolutely NO evidence presented that proved that Tameka Raymond is a bad mother! None… nada… zilch!
Money talks though huh?? It can buy “friends” who’ll testify against you…
[READ: Raymond v. Rayomond: With Friends LIke Linda Brock White, Who Needs Enemies?]
…and apparently it can buy children too!!! Excuse me while I go burn all my Usher CD’s……
I’ll update as I get more info.
UPDATE #1 – 8/24/12 – 3:31pm
Via TMZ:
…we’re told a judge sided with the singer — awarding Usher primary custody of the ex-couple’s two sons, which means the children will be spending the majority of the time with their father.
Tameka still retains some custodial rights — but the extent to which Tameka will be able to see her kids is unclear.
There has to be a whole lot more to this than the public knows, judges SELDOM give this kind of a ruling without evidence of the mother not being fit or stable on some level, sad for all involved.
So true.
When it comes to money and connections many things can happen and fact is the judge is also connected to one of Usher’s lawyers as well and the fact that he has money can also buy him favors….
And if that nasty phone call Usher made to Tameka really does exists, and if she really has it recorded, now would be the time to release it. I would think she would be able to challenge this ruling based on UsHER’s lawyer’s connection to this case. I guess it helps when:
1. You have a shitload of money.
2. You’re boinking your attorney.
3. There’s a new standard of celebrity males suing for custody. Not because they feel the other parent is incompetent, but because they don’t want to come off those dollars. They weren’t bad mothers when they were knee deep in that cootchie.
Usher having parental control is nothing new, no? Watch the UsHER stans and God’s representative (once she hack her way back in) start to gloat like they have a personal stock in this in 5, 4, 3,….
Theres more to this than we know. It seems to me that Usher was a good dad and Tameka was interested in his money. I hate that she buried a child but let’s be real, she was only concern about her money before Kyle died. As a woman and a mother being fair to the my kids father was only right. We are both parents. Just because I birthed them doesn’t mean the court should favor me as their mom. I wouldn’t have my sons if it wasn’t for their father. Why get mad at Usher for putting his boys first? I’m not a fan of his music but tameka must not have been a stand out mom otherwise why would the courts lean more to the father. I don’t think his money was the bases for the judge decision. Ijs. The courts usually if not always favor the mother! Even some drug addict mother keeps their right or are giving multiple chances.
TAMEKA BETTER GO HAVE A TALK WITH LISA WU B/C THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT KEITH SWEAT DID TO HER. HE & HIS LAWYER, CHARLES MATHIS(R.I.P.) TOLD HER FROM THE JUMP THAT THEY HAD PAID THE JUDGE OFF SO EITHER SHE CAME BACK TO HIM OR HE WAS TAKING THE KIDS EVEN THOUGH HE HAD A DRUG HISTORY, WAS ABUSIVE & HAD 4 KIDS ON HER WHILE THEY WERE MARRIED. WOW!!!! HOW MUCH MORE LOSE CAN THIS WOMAN TAKE. I GUARANTEE HE’LL SALE WOOD ON HIS NEXT ALBUM B/C KARMA IS A BEY-OTCH!!!……..JENNY JONES!!!
Wood…LMAO!
Jenny Jones you never cease to amaze me. I didn’t know all that went down with Keith Sweat. I saw him in concert and he told this half-black/half-asian chick in the audience that she looked like one of his baby mommas and I about hollered cuz I knew he was talking about Lisa.
You can’t trust these ninjas with money because their morality and commons sense goes way out of the window.
I feel so bad for Tameka. You birth and nurture those babies and some peasy ninja pays a judge to steal them from you. RATCHETT ON RATCHETT!
Yuuup… like those secret financial transactions…
Agreed, there is way more to this than what we have seen and heard. Because I can attest that as a child of divorced parents myself, most judges rule in favor of the mother, even if she has decent living arrangements (Me and my mom were living in my grandparents home while my dad had his own house and plenty of money). This is a very rare occurrence where the father wins the case.
And as much as you can be mad ATLien, I’ve been following this case through your blog and if anything stood out to me this did: Tameka kept making excuses for crap that had nothing to do with nothing. Like being depressed and isolating herself from the kids because Usher allegedly cheated on her with her bridesmaid. Whether that was true or not, she should have got some therapy and kept being a mother. The other thing was stressing out over not getting along with Usher’s mother. Like WTH, what that got to do with your kids!?!?!
Usher is probably a jerk, but if she wanted to win this case, she should have played it smart and got a better lawyer and not brought of nonsense, because that is ultimately how you win these things.
She was in therapy, but you can’t have it 24/7. When the whole world hates you, sometimes you do close off, and sometimes you will depend on others to step up, nannies included. As far as her attorney, Lisa West kicked ass. She could represent me any day.
I wonder if Judas testifying against her helped to turn the tide.
Crackhead mothers get to keep their kids, child abusers get to keep their kids, there is more to this then you (Michelle) or any of the public knows. I hope Usher does right by those kids because after all is said and done, those kids will need both of their parents in their lives!!!
say it again boo
Alright, you better say it…(Throwing my shoes at you)
LMAO.
I agree there is much ,we as the public don’t know.
I don’t understand why society sees a father having custody of his own children as wrong. We expect men to stand up financially for their children , why can’t he stand legally for his. He owns the rights to his children just as much as she does.
Who said that? What we said was that he wasn’t justified in saying she was a poor mother and his timing sucked ass.
Clearly, the judge felt otherwise.
Just because we didn’t think Usher had a good case doesn’t mean we object to fathers getting custody. That assumption is very unfair.
He wasn’t justified? So, how do you know she wasn’t a poor mother? I have personally seen more neglectful, lazy, abusive, and uninterested parenting by black mother’s in public places than I’d care to mention. I can only imagine what this woman did in private. I have seen mother’s mistreat one child because he/she had a different father than her other kids. I have seen and heard some really disturbing things come out of the mouths of women who CLAIM to love their kids all because their angry at their father. Just because you give birth to a child it does NOT make you a loving, responsible, mother.
As a social worker, I’ve seen the same of mothers. As far as your last statement, that could easily be said of fathers. How do I know she wasn’t a poor mother? The same way people know Usher wasn’t a poor dad; that’s what I choose to believe. That’s the beauty about freedom of speech.
The judge looks just like a snake on that photo, and Usher is "Scum of the earth", Don’t worry Tameka, "GOD" is the "FINAL JUDGE" and has the "LAST WORD" in "Every Situation".
Yea the judge had got a mean devious smug. Doesn’t look like she’s upholding the integrity of her position of authority.
You sound just like my child’s mother, after I was awarded custodial rights and parental control. She’s always throwing quotes like yours @ me, while failing to realize the role she played in the judge’s decision. So what makes you so sure that it wasn’t in GOD’s will to put the children in the care of the better parent (Usher)? Maybe this was his "LAST WORD". We only know what we hear, not what the real story is.
And wasn’t Ryan Glover (her 1st ex husband) awarded custody of Tameka’s other 2 children as well???
Don’t know anything about the Glover’s case. He’s not an A list star. The media covers what they want to. If Tameka’s responsible for her reputation, Usher is just as responsible for his…dad. *side eye lol.
YEAH BUT THAT’S THE SOUTH!
Men still have the upper hand in the South and the more money and fame you have, the higher your hand will go.
I feel so bad for Tameka. She already lost one child, has had to face infidelity issues in a courtroom and now is having her two youngest babies taken from her. Just awful.
Tameka if you’re reading this, take your kids, liquidate your assets, get that money and high tail it out of the country. Go somewhere that doesn’t recognize US parental laws. If Usher gets those kids he will do just like Dwayne Wade and act as if they never had a mother and it was all about him.
WOORD!! lool with that said,i recommend my motherland Africa…its huuuge,nobody knows where u are,no rules,no laws lool…
It can’t be the south. I know a chick who lost custody of her 3 kids in a divorce. They live in California.
Quit with the dramaics, please! They both have joint custody. Usher is the PRIMARY decision maker. You all act like he took the kids and moved to another country leaving her with no visitation and a jail sentence. Good grief!
I meant to say, quit with the dramatics.
I absolutely agree. And I’m disappointed that ATLien so blatantly has it out for Usher. I’m sure that the judge carefully weighed all the evidence against each party and came to the correct conclusion. @ATLien – friends will lie to protect their own interest, but I guess a blogger has to choose a side too. Congrats to Usher. Get your life together Tameka.
Agreed. Tameka was married to a superstar and still don’t have her stuff together.
You are a pitiful excuse of a woman and I hope that someone takes YOUR children because they decide they no longer like YOU….
I’d like to know how you can "buy" your own kids. That has to be the dumbest statement in this whole article. He has just as much right to his children as she does after a divorce. Maybe if she’d focus more on the kids instead of the Saks card, she’d have custody. Please. This all could have been settled amicably when they divorced. But no, fools gotta act like fools. And another thing, she has just as much access to good lawyers as he did. It’s her fault she got some incompetent lawyers.
"Maybe if she’d focus more on the kids instead of the Saks card, she’d have custody." <—— That’s right.
Exactly. Clearly the writer of this post has a dislike for Usher because a Judge doesn’t grant the father primary custody for no reason. If all it took was money to gain custody of kids then more rich men would fight for that right because the majority of them don’t want to give their exes a dime. Also let’s not forget Tameka doesn’t have custody of her older kids, the father does. Then after the tragic loss of her son Tameka turns to twitter talking reckless about Usher’s new girlfriend. Why does she even care. This woman’s priorities are so misplaced. She has serious issues and I think the boys are better off being raised by Usher. Tameka will still be able to play a significant role in their lives. Maybe this woman will stop obsessing over Usher and move on with her life…although I doubt it. Some people just never learn.
What! I didn’t know she didn’t have custody of her oldest sons! WOW. Please have some seats Tameka.
That should have been a red flag for Usher before marrying and making babies with her. If her first set of kids where taken away from her then what makes you think she would suddenly become fit to care for two more? Usher stated in the beginning he sought primary custody because of all the bs she was pulling, seems to me if she would have acted like more of an adult instead of a teenager scourned by love she would still have primary custody. Everyone tearing Usher a new one, why not tear Glover a new one since he took her children away from her as well.
Carry two babies for 9 months each getting fat and going through hella pain just for the man to get full custody?….*stares at screen in disbelief*
That’s what I’ve always said too!!! You throw up every morning for 9 months just to let somebody else walk off with the child?
I wish people would stop assuming women are better parents over men, becase it’s not true. I think Usher is sparing Tameka a whole lot more than we think and if he wanted to, he could he put everything out there for the world to see with videos to prove it. And you know he could have if he wanted to, but he didn’t, because she’s the mother of his kids. And the same goes for Tameka.
EXACTLY! There are ‘people’ saying that we outsiders don’t know the HALF of what has gone on in this situation… They’re not surprised IN.THE.LEAST… at this ruling. SMH
It’s just sad that these boys have lost a brother and Tameka has lost a son and should get all the time in the world to help her boys deal with the loss and herself as well. Usher is a dirty DOGGGGG! and this proves it. How could you go through with this instead of trying to compromise for the sake of those little boys?! God don’t like ugly!
Let’s not assume Usher hasn’t tried other ways to manage this. Let’s not assume he wanted custody out of spite. Let’s all keep in mind, his chidren are the main objective here and no one else.
P.S. If Usher is a dirty dog, then so is Tameka for having an affair with him while she was still married to her first husband?
okay *shrugs*
Usher wanted to give her time to greive but she wanted to go forward with the case, which is a smart move because she can play the sympathy card.
Agreed. Tameka has a criminal past.
Ifhe wants to call all the shots fine..one of them BETTER be that they continue to be a strong part of Tameka’s life and her other children..I need to know what tipped the judge..money can’t be stated so CONVINCE me how she was a bad mother..Karma is a cock eyed bitch and usher it’s COMING for you
Why it gotta be cockeyed? lol
Lmao @Cockeyed…..
Right! Lol. I always thought Karma was beautiful.
Cosign…
Money has nothing to do with it. Who wants to risk being disbarred and jail time for Usher? No one. All the court outburst and name calling did her in and accusing him of using drugs in front of the kids without proof was dumb of her. Plus she gave up the rights to her other kids. Hopefully this will end women getting preggo for the money, cause judges are favoring with fathers more and more.
She didn’t give up rights to her other kids–she shares custody with her ex.
She gave up custody to be with Usher
where are those court papers posted at? I’d love to read them.
@ Really: If you think people can’t be bought, then you must be really, really young. I was just discussing this with a family member on the phone last night. People will turn on you like Tameka’s "friend" did for $5, let alone thousands of dollars.
Also, there is video somewhere of Usher acting incoherently in concert. It’s not like she just pulled that out of thin air. The interesting thing is, he accused her of not being mentally competent, yet she still completed the psychiatric evaluation. Per the reports, he NEVER completed the drug test.
You can side with Usher. That’s your right, but at least acknowledge the facts.
…and let’s not forget he NEVER took that drug test!
Excellent comment! The judge got bought off. They and cops get bought off all the time which is why the justice system is so screwed up.
Them poor babies!
agreed!
Usher should have just had kids with a surrogate because he knows he will NEVER be with just one woman. Especially because he knows he gets down with men occasionally. Those boys are gonna be subject to Usher being a womanizer. Sad!
I really think the woman has mental issues, and I believe the judge thought that too, that’s why Usher was granted primary custody. All those twitter rants didn’t help her case at all. They only confirmed her issues.
If any, they proved that Tameka is a woman scorned. She didn’t cheat in the marriage Usher did. What woman wouldn’t be pissed about the fact that he ex wants to raise her babies with someone he was cheating on her with among other women. They cannot just say she has mental issues without having documented proof.
I couldn’t agree with more! I have begged my colleagues to stop broadcasting their every thought on these social media outlets, because it will come back to haunt you. One colleage in particular lost her husband over that STUPID facebook, so Tameka should have discussed her thoughts with a therapist or her pastor, but it’s too late now.
Everybody has a price. Even me. Even you. Can’t say what you won’t do if the price is right. Ask the people who sold pics of Rihanna’s face bashed in.
No everyone does not have a price,EVERYONE DOES NOT! So please don’t go through this life believing such a thing or you will teach your children to be bought and sold to the highest bidder. Some of us have not only morals and values,but want to be able to look in the mirror daily without Cringing at our reflection.
Are you implying I have no morals? I’m a realist. And I have no problems looking myself in the mirror. I also know that as much as I pride myself on being decent and fair, I’ve not confronted EVERY situation. Sometimes you have no idea of what you may do when the situation is desperate enough.
@customcalendars4u2 I agree. Not everyone can be bought off. There are some people who like to sleep at night.
Who DOESN’T like to sleep well at night? Good Lawd lmao.
lmaaooo
I think that Usher is absolutely disgusting and despicable. Is this suppose to be a joke? Giving her the saks card but completely taking her kids away? What type of sick sh*t is this?
Ditto, I was thinking the same thing.
Uhhh…actually, he didn’t GIVE the Saks card back. He was ordered to do so by the court because SHE said it was of crucial factor to her job as a celebrity stylist. Be correct about this, thanks. But, on another note, none of us know the true and full story so none of us have a place to judge and take sides. If you do in fact think that this was "rigged" or "bought off" Pray about it and leave it be. The truth will eventually reveal itself. Until then it is what it is. Pray for the safety and well being of these babies and stop worrying about the extra sh*t.
The judge gave it back! The same judge that revoked her parental rights so there’re one in the same, so whatchutalkinabout? You’re contradicting yourself with not worrying about the extra sh*t, if you weren’t a statement on other people’s comment wouldn’t have been stated by you.
I’m mad that I have ALL his music. I will not support that dirty dog no more though. His music sucks lately anyway! He wants everyone to feel sorry for him, for what? He didn’t marry Tameka because he wanted to be married he married her because he wanted his fans to think he was this stand up guy so they would continue to buy his music. He’s not what the public thinks he is?
I can like his music without liking the man. Plenty of people in the music have shady past but are on the radio everyday. We dont buy morals we buy music because if we did then wouldnt anyone have any money.
Yes, you’re right, but they keep stars’ vices out of the media because they know it will have an impact on their career. R. Kelly, Jerry Lee Lewis, MJ, etc. etc. That is why publicists are still in high command. Fame is a double edged sword. I’d take rich any day, the famous? They can keep.
demand.
@STL Chic:R.Kelly made hella money after that tape came out. He had backlash for a little while but then had everyone “stepping in the name of love”. Jerry Lee Lewis has been on TV asking folks for money in the name of the children long after his scandal and is well supported. He is more known for his telethons than anything. MJ was the butt of many jokes for years but now all any can say is “he is the greatest”. So a good publicist goes a long way, but memories are short. All this tells me is that in a couple of years he will be richer than ever and she will fade to black like the little girl in the video, the little girl JLL married and the little boys who accused Michael. Can we name any of them without google? Probably not so, soon she too will “fade to black” in our memories.
I said Jerry LEE Lewis, not Jerry Lewis lol. And R Kelly went from selling out arenas to working clubs and cruise ships. And even though Chris Brown is doing "alright," he’s certainly suffered a fall from grace. They have publicists for a reason…and image consultants. Can’t argue that.
But that’s all she wanted from him in the first place. Money. The best way to get some is to have his kids. Except it backfired. She put a price on herself and he paid it. Now she sees that money is not worth much when you have to exchange other valuables, like kids, in order to get it. She played herself.
You are absolutely right! She played herself BIG TIME! And so did Evelyn Lozada.
I won’t comment on ths outcome becuase I was not a part of their household nor do I know full details of what went on between the two. and going to the trial does not give you insight of the life they had together. Goodluck to Tameka and Usher and I hope that they just keep the kids first.
Cosign…
I couldn’t agree more.
You’re agreeing with each sentence but the 1st, right? lol Like me, you clearly have an opinion.
cosign with pretty brown …smdh
Congrats Usher!!!! You know something is wrong with your ass if you go before a judge and lose. Nothing to do with money because obviously that judge has some info that the public may not be privy too. Shit and Tameka’s track record speaks for itself as far as her demeanor and behaviors. Y’all can continue to be biased all you want but there is more evidence of Tameka’s negligence than there is of Usher’s! At least to the public’s knowledge..not even considering what isn’t released to the public. BOOM.
Amen!!!!
Now, every other site (including this one) is sayign it was open court, and not one person, even ones who at first did side with Usher, could see that this whole thing was a set up. Where did they prove she was not a fit mother? If that was the case, there would be no join custody still in place. He even called to taunt her about losing the case, 24 hours after the judge rulled. I hope she files for an appeal and plays the recording. Something ain’t clean in the water.
It was open court (I was there) but they tried to discourage people from coming in by posting armed deputies at the entrance. Don’t let me get started….
Please do….you really need to spill. This is a hot mess!! Spill, spill, spill. Let Usher’s stans know who this "man" really is.
You were NOT there for the ENTIRE trial….Stop with your bias LIES!!!
BOy do you have haters. They attack you everytime you blog sheesh. It’s a sad day when you can convince people women in general that it’s okay to do a woman like this. Thanks for keeping me informed. And now I think I will Burn my usher cds as well.
Exactly. All women aren’t meant to be mothers…get over it. I can’t respect a person who gives up their kids to be with someone just to have more kids.
it has come to a point where stupidity doesnt amaze me nomore….if u can crucify and judge this woman,then get to know her very well,she shares custody of her kids with her ex,thank u.
BOOM!
Lmaoooooo! Yall are KILLING me with these comments!
Exactly!!And all these muthfukkas on here sayin "its cause usher has money…." bytch please! This aint a Lifetime made for tv movie! If the judge was being totally bias and was getting her palms greased or her pussy eaten on the side,then yes I call foul! But im sure there were things that we havent seen,and yall have forgotten,she has been keeping them kids away from Usher,and didnt she just beat up his girlfriend the last time he came to get his kids?? All that is taken into consideration. She tryin to play the victim ande I aint buyin it! Im sorry her son died,and hopefully she will get some therepy and try to get her shit together.
Beth, plz take all that profane nonsense back to Bossip or RWS. It’s always one.
Kiss my ass please….
Beth, please learn how to SPELL before leaving a comment too. You big ole dummy. The judge is and was biased. Why wasnt he required to take a drug test????? Thats the first bias, then he travels every week to do shows or parties, how is that not considered? The judge was BOUGHT period. Its so obvious, why didnt she leave as joint or the same as before???? She is a bought bitch, they look like they have the same hair stylist too. LMAOOO
Here’s why: you can’t just make allegations without proof. She had no proof or evidence of previous behavior. Now, let’s say Usher was a male version of Lindsey Lohan. He’d lose custody in a heartbeat. Look at Britney Spears. She lost her mind. shaved her head and who got custody AND child support? Kevin Federline. Britney Spears has WAY more money than Usher and she lost custody. Come on now.
First please run your post through spell check before you call someone else out. Second talking in absolutes with no proof other than
a gut feeling is stupid you big ole crackhead!
Um, Um Um and to think your name comes from the bible SMH
you can go ahead and kiss my ass too,please…
WASH your ass, please.
Do you know anything about the judicial system? Apparently not. Killers get off free all the time, and just recently a mother who regained custody after leaving her son in the car just decapitated him and put his head in the freezer before killing herself. Slavery and segregation was once legal as well, and a man who broke into someone’s house and injured himself sued the home owner and WON! My point? The justice system ain’t always about justice.
And please tell me you were joking about being bias. You are very bias too, my dear. You’re just on the other side of the argument.
Look if a woman should lose custody of her children just because she rants,makes accusations against her ex,doesn’t behave like someone else thinks she should and tweets when she could be private then I guess millions of more dads will be suing for custody of their children from the mothers and winning. Tameka is "NOT" some scandalous woman with a salacious criminal or negligent background,because if she were those things would have come out when she was dating Usher. Unfortunately she made an enemy of the judge and lost her children(judges r people 2 & not always the professionals they should be), because there could be no other reason for this injustice!
Now on this, I agree. lol We all have supervisors that has "a favorite." I’m supposed to be objective in my field, but I truly have at least two clients I cannot STAND! I was with one yesterday, and by the time I dropped her off she was all kinds of names…in my head lol.
Tameka does have a "salacious criminal or negligent background’. She was convicted of welfare fraud in Oakland, along with some other crimes. This is one of the reasons why Usher’s mom didn’t like her. This came out years ago when they first started dating, Usher married her anyway.
these are things that she did when she was a teen… she was 19 when she had her first child… yes we do dumb things when we are young and I’m sure we all have done something we are ashamed of but you age and you get wiser and hopefully you learn from your mistakes…. Usher has said in past interviews that he fell in love with Tameka because she is a great mother… so he needs to stop with the crazy momma drama now that he wants his way in court.
Ahahahaha @ "You know something is wrong with your ass if you go before a judge and lose."
Tameka never had full custody of her oldest two sons, why is that? Did she fight for them and lose too?
I feel bad for her losing her youngest two so close to the death of one of her oldest. I can’t help but feel that Tameka set herself up with her antics over the past few years. She’s shown time and time again that she’s not completely stable. I hope that this isn’t a forever thing and Tameka is able to get herself mentally capable of taking care of her children and a shared custody agreement can be reached in the future.
I think it may be more that Tameka hasn’t really shown herself to be trustworthy. She hasn’t shown that she can be relied on or trusted to do the right thing.
Tamika and her ex Ryan Glover have joint custody of their son. Always did, do your research. You know nothing.
I will NEVER EVER EVER buy or support another Usher anything! This is crazy. I hope she kept the recording of him taunting her saying how she has already lost and some old other bull crap. He is a punk. But not to worry because God has never liked ugly! And Usher has been that for a long time now. Just ugly!
Buying his music has absolutely nothing to do with the outcome of this trial! He don’t give a rat’s behind that you don’t buy his music. Hell, you probably downloaded it illegally anyway. O_o! All he want’s is his kids. He gottem. Keep your $1.29. Seriously?
The biggest problem that Tameka has had is Usher fanatics like you that always had it out for her just because Usher married Tameka and I’m quite sure that Usher does care when people aren’t putting money in his pocket…
Had I read this, I could’ve saved myself a post. Well said!
His fans didn’t like her because she was older and had a criminal past. How come no one remembers this? Lol.
His fans disliked her long before they learned of her past. Long before she got pregnant, and long before they got engaged. His fans wanted him with Chilli or someone like her.
stfu o he cares!
He will when millions of people share her opinion. Not speaking only about Usher, but alot of these celebrities could care less about fans when they’re performing at stadiums. Once the shine is off their star and they’re left praying that a club appearance will have a good turn out, it’s a completely different tune.
$1.29? Am I the only one who buys CD’s anymore? lol
This is sad on soo many levels! There has to be more to this story that is not being said. How can a Judge leave all the "DECISION" making to Usher who clearly can’t make any "DECISIONS" on his own without his "TEAM" or his "OLDER" woman? This is pathetic and until Tameka is proven to be "unfit" I think this decision needs to be reversed. Children need both parents!!! SMH!!!
It’s rumored that one of Ushers attorneys actually worked on the Judges campaign… this isn’t about who’s the better parent… It’s about who could afford a judgment.
If that rumor is true, the lawyer or judge should have recused themselves..that’s grounds for an appeal..However, I do know Family Court is not held to the same as other courts..I know Tameka doesn’t have the greatest personality but I never thought that she didn’t care about her kids
Appeal.Appeal..Appeal… and hopefully she can retain custody while she is appealing her case. They know Usher will not be home to care for his kids. hes not giving up his career for one second..which he should but thats another story. …Tameka has ppl coming at her from every side. from the second she married usher she has been ridiculed and so forth. When she lost her son..ppl saying she should have been there and now this ! Fulton county justice system is full of it..from the judges to the employees and tell me Im not being honest. they were probaly being groupies outside of the courtroom. and leaking the info to TMZ.sick
Better yet, why didn’t Tameka’s lawyers bring that up and request another judge? It’s not that difficult to find out who’s connected to whom. If there was a conflict, her lawyers should have filed a motion once they realized which judge got their case. That’s why they have paralegals: to look at all angles.
@Michelle, if that is true, wouldn’t that be a reason for her lawyers to appeal. I hope they look in to that. I feel really bad for her. I don’t see how he can tour, perform etc and care for 2 young boys at the same damn time. But help to understand this, so they both have joint custody but he has parental control. So does that mean they will live with him majority of the time and he decides when she can see them????
Then on the same token, since she’s a celebrity stylist, how is she going to take care of the kids? The same way Usher would: Nannies. You do realize that rich people do not raise their kids by themselves, right? They ALL have help. You’re being very naive if you believe Tameka didn’t have nannies too.
That’s exactly what it means Usher is the primary custodial parent he will say when,where,how long and even if he has time for the children to visit with their birth mother Tameka. Remember Mr. D Wade?? Well his celebrity schedule is just as busy as Usher’s and that didn’t stop a judge from ruling against his stay at home ex wife either. You can have a judge in your pocket and it never be proved as such and I really believe this judge didn’t like Tameka very much,awarding her a Saks card & not her children? That was an intentional SMACK in the face!
Can Tameka appeal the case if the "ACLU" is involved????? After all before there were problems in the relationship Usher was defending Tameka against anyone who said anything against her, and now suddenly she’s "Unstable". Usher is a "Nut Basket" with Mommy Attention Deficit Syndrom….."Karma is a _itch, Just ask Tiger Woods,…I digress
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thats very sad , the world loves its own
I am a mother that lost a child and that feeling never go’s away time just is a better way too hid my pain .
I am going too be praying for for that mother .
People seem too always be there when it first
append and then when you really need people too
comfort you they are not there .
You know what? There is an uncomfortableness that goes along with loss of a loved one. People don’t mean any harm, but they don’t always know what to say other than they are sorry for you, to comfort you at that time and then they slowly fade to black to give you space and privacy which in return feels like loneliness and isolation for the bereaved parent. Loss(DEATH)is something we all will experience in life at some point no matter who you are, but the wonderful news is that when people have gone away "God" is always there to comfort for each and every one of us,remember that!
Now he can go write a song about it. 3,2,1….
Or pay someone to write it. Like he paid that judge.
LOL. Both y’all right.
take a side. either you are going to report the news or just blog. stop straddling the fence…geesh!
Cosign…Thank you!!! SMH #tackyass
GOD BLESS TAMEKA RAYMOND… Lord, have mercy.
MICHELLE, YOU AND YOUR STANS ARE SIMPS IF YOU THINK THIS WAS ABOUT MONEY. You know more than most of us how conniving, malicious and manipulative Tameka is. You’ve had your rows with her. All of a sudden, she loses a son and she has your sympathy?
What? You think we don’t empathize with her? Well here’s some news, I DO. However, my sympathy for her losing her son has NOTHING to do with her inability to co-parent successfully with her ex-husband because she is bitter about him and his cheating ways.
Usher being a BAD HUSBAND and cheater does not mean he’s a BAD FATHER. And NO I am NOT an Usher fan. I don’t own any of his CDs, but women shouldn’t corner the market on children if they cannot put their emotions aside to co-parent because it hurts the children in the long run.
AMENNNNNNN GIRL THANK YOU
BOOM! Point blank period. People seem to have selective amnesia when it comes to Tameka and her bs. Don’t let me get started.
I’ve disagreed with a lot of mess that Tameka has done…I can’t do the same with UsHER? What I call being objective other people see as being wishy-washy, or having selective memory. To each his/her own. Nothing selective about MY memory, because my decision is based on what’s in front of me, not what I’ve read or heard in the past. People was are broad-minded may change their opinions, depending on the information presented to them. We can’t control the accuracy of the information, just the way we receive it.
*who are broad minded, that is.
Well, at least someone on this blog has sense.
AMENNNNNNNNNNNNN!!! In that order!!
PREACH. I know someone was actually paying attention to this case.
Exactly!!!! Now you are accusing a Judge of taking bribes, being paid off??? You better watch what you say!
THANK YOU!!!!! No one could have said it better.
speak on it!!!!! emotions and logic do not mix…
I’m sorry…but..if he’s a bad husband and a cheater…that says something about him. So…please with that. I think he’s gonna lose some respect and fans behind all this.
So..The boys are gonna be removed from their mom and siblings to be cared for by strangers. That’s crazy. You know this is about who he is and what he can afford. When I’ve seen children given back to abusive parents, ex cons and drug addicts. So…I guess droppin a celebrities seed isn’t always golden.
**But, Kandi…who likes to drop dimes on the low…lol said Tameka didn’t have custody of the other boys either. They live with their father and she has visitations. So…I don’t know what’s going on with her. I’m just wondering why Usher would marry and have kids with someone he didn’t see as a good person or has been said to be unfit as a mother. That speaks to his character too. At the end of the day this can trigger unhealthy behavior and issues in the kids…wanting their mom. Kids don’t get this stuff. So I feel for these children.
Good point. UsHER stans are nothing if not redundant.
Just like you!
*thumbs in my ear, wiggling my hands and sticking out my tongue*
YOU KNOW YOUR NAME!!!
It’s not what they call you, it’s what you answer to. You just answered.
I co-sign on your post…simply because it’s the truth. Tameka has always used those kids as weapons, and made it difficult for them to co-parent.
What PROOF do YOU have that Tameka used those boys as weapons?
Usher is not the saint his fans make him out to be and Tameka is not a devil.Tameka has just been defensive against all the hate she receives from his jealous stans…….
I have seen hateful Usher stans say that the death of her son Kile was karma but I was trying real hard to figure out what Tameka has done so bad to anyone that would cause karma to come to her son in the form of death.The women has not killed anyone and she hasn’t done anything personally to her haters.
Usher don’t even get along with his mother and he’s very arrogant…Everything about Usher is an act.
I meant *WOMAN* in this statement—->The women has not killed anyone and she hasn’t done anything personally to her haters.
And neither has he. They’ve only done crap to each other, culminating in this ridiculous custody battle. They could and should have worked this out amicably. It can be done, but only if the adults act like adults.
so you know him personally? i mean really. just because the man wants custody of his children. They still have joint. He is just primary. there roles have just reversed. Nobody knows what happened in their household. with or without a courtroom we still don’t know and probably never will.people are always trying to pick sides and make one of the people out to be a monster. They are just people like you and me.
Has the whole world gone ape shit? how could you people be so callus this woman lost custody of her kids with no substantial evidence against her. My God, how insensitive the world is today!
There are some really mean people in this world and I have no faith whatsoever in man….
Cuz that’s what stans do. Now, I’m not calling every Usher fan a stan. Up until today, I considered myself an UsHER fan. But the stans are easy to spot; they are the ones who side with their idols no matter what, and UsHER fans will forever hate Tameka "just because." It’s like someone else said; jealousy. He chose a woman who wasn’t a knock out beauty and it wasn’t them. No concerning this case, it wasn’t a complete victory for Usher. Primary custody is not the same as sole custody, and that’s what the dirty d*ck dog was going for.
^^^^^^^^^^^LOL, You threw the triple D’s @ him
Co-sign…. From the beginning he was trying to take away all of her rights, he wanted sole physical and legal. That speaks volumes to me, if he had just said he wanted primary physical from the beginning I would have felt differently towards him. I was a fan myself, been listening to his music since the beginning, so I don’t hate him. I’ve just lost respect for him as a man.
His Stans thinks he walks on water though and refuse to believe that there is no way that he could have done anything wrong.. AT ALL
Everything you said Sounds good, but not everyone’s maturity level is up to par with your own. Tameka’s children (these two in particular) are still very young and she’s unable to rise above her pain and grief over a dead child,lost love and failed marriage making all the politically correct moves you feel she should. This happens to many couples that break up and either the man or woman has a difficult time moving forward, but how does that equate the loss of custody of your children? She didn’t deserve that!! Did she?? The only way I as a woman can fix my mouth to say "Just Get Over It Tameka" is if I have never experienced the betrayal of a man,because if you to have experienced that; then you will also know just getting over it is easier said than done!
PREACH……
NONE OF US LIVED WITH THIS COUPLE OR KNOW FULL DETAILS OF THIS MATTER …….However she didnt have custody of her 2 older boys either so why isnt anyone bitchin over that ???????? i dont think money was a factor cause we live in a woman dominated world when it comes to custody of children we usually win … plp jus think !!!! clearly not all the evidence that we read and saw on blog sites were the full hundred im sure there are unreleased evidence ….. im not picking sides but i find it hard to say im gonna delete usher songs n burn cds when i dont know the truth …..clearly ryan glover know some truth about this woman because according to many sites she didnt have custody of her other 2 sons either …..just HAVE ALL FACTS B4 U START HATING OR DISLIKING SOMEONE …..
WASN’T******
People keep saying how she doesn’t have custody if her other two and I’ve always wondered where if that was really true and facts surrounding that??
A friend of mind let her ex have primary physical custody w/o any fuss because they live very close to eachother so nothing changes (school/daycare) regardless of which parent the boys are with. Also they are able to parent well together.
She does say that women look at her different or judge her when they find out, thinking she’s a bad mom…
I often wondered if maybe that was how it was between tameka and Ryan.??
Didn’t she walk away from her family for usher? I don’t have any cd’s to burn but I say let her find another way to finance her lifestyle,put that card to use,best of luck to all.
But she has her own money, I hear that she is successful as a stylist and as an all-around entrepreneur. I don’t even think Ush pays that much child support (if he pays any for that matter).
he pays 8k…. that has been stated several times!
Why did she need or want that Saks card for her business?
If you go thru the other threads about this court case, that’s answered; might actually be answered above…not sure.
The question isn’t if she needed the Saks Card, the question is why did she feel the need to petition for it during the custody trial??? Couldn’t she have waited until after the judge granted her ruling in this case to get it back? like seriously. It makes me question her priorities in this matter.
I don’t see why everyone is feeling some sort of way about a father getting granted parental control of his Two son’s futures what’s the problem? She still has joint custody so again while y’all feeling some kind of way? Smh y’all way to deep in y’all feelings over someone else’s children. I don’t think Tameka is That Great of a mother in the first place and that’s just my personal opinion so good for Usher and obviously the Judge thinks so as well so there is probably some things that weren’t public in this trial that the judge took into consideration so instead of being all bias and in your feelings let the man live and get some business and kids of your own!
THANK YOU ….JUST ANOTHER BITTER BLACK WOMAN THAT GOT CUT OFF N USES HER CHILDREN AS PAWNS TO HURT THE MAN …. WHEN IT SHOULD BE WATS BEST FOR THE CHILDREN WHICH IS BOTH PARENTS N IF DAD CALLS N WANT HIS SONS FOR THE WEEKEND HE SHOULD B ABLE TO CALL N PICK THEM UP N NOT HAVE TO KISS ASS ……then we complain that our kids have dead beats smhhhh THATS CAUSE U MAKIN UR EMOTIONS CLOUD YOUR CHILDS HAPPINESS
question: what if the dad never helps, doesnt ever pay his child support, is violent, only comes around when its convenient to him to get them, has multiple kids all over town, talks mad shyt when you see him, would you still let him get them when he WANTS THEM? just wanted your opinion….
Tameka is that you? Lol
But IF that were the case, then you as the woman should get full custody. You have to understand that this case is a rarity in that most judges rule in favor of the mother than anything. So even if the father shows the slightest sign of being a deadbeat, he’s not winning.
You’re not the first & won’t be the last to have had children by a man you didn’t know well enough ahead of time. So you you need to do what is in the best interest of your children! If the fathers lack of parenting is affecting your children’s behavior or personalities in a negative light then act accordingly or if the fathers behavior is even affecting your behavior or personality in a negative light therefore; affecting your ability to parent your children in a loving way then remove yourself and your children from the drama. Let him take you to court for visitation if he cares to, but the chances are he won’t and eventually will disappear along with your headaches…
Maybe that’s all the stuff Tameka was doing. Lol…
Omg, thank you. Tameka’s money grubbing scheme simply backfired.
I agree with you. I dont know much about her but what I have HEARD, she isn’t that great of a mother and if she LEFT her kids to kick it with Usher like she was a single lady and put a MAN before her CHILDREN, she will never be right in my book EVER.
Thank you!!! Fathers are just as good as mother, POINT BLANK!! And this is coming from a MOM!!!
It’s sad that women feel that because they give birth that automatically makes them a mother. NO it DOESN’T. No different than a dude dropping his seed to make a baby doesn’t make him a Father. Parenting requires 110% from both sides, having the kid is only a small piece of the puzzle. And how much effort you put into raising those kids will show.
I don’t think the majority are saying if the woman gives birth she is automatically fit to retain custody of her children, because many of us know that is not the case at all. We read everyday in the news of some poor,helpless,defenseless child being abused or dying at the hands of their own birth mother,but this is NOT one of those cases and didn’t even come close to being that so Tameka should not have lost her children to Usher in a court of law. Seems as though she’s been punished for being an irritant to society and nothing else..
Yes, Custom…, it does.
I agree Tameka is probably not the best mother.
Can’t imagine how she feels to lose 3 kids in such close timing. I’m a first time mom and I’ll be damn if I lost the best thing that ever happened to me to an ex-spouse with fame. Praying the best for you girl. #suicidewatch (ijs)
Well, she did have the choice to postpone this but she didn’t want to so…
Exactly…My heart breaks for her having lost her child, but she was the one who didn’t want to postpone the hearing, and I don’t understand that. Was she expecting to get a sympathy ruling from the judge?
I couldn’t imagine anyone taking my kids either. You know the feds monitor these blogs, so I wouldn’t even say what I’d do if I was in this situation, but I bet you can imagine. Mama Bear is no joke.
Really?!?!?
Or HOMICIDE!!! IJS..
I’ve always know Usher wasn’t worth a damn. Watch his stock plummet. He has lost a lot of fans/stans. I’m so happy I do not worship these celebs. They are all full of shit.
Eff Grace’s barren ass. Old bish.
Lmao Grace has nothing to do with this. She has children of her own. However she’ll be a good step mommy to Cinco and Nav tho. Haha. Tameka better try to fire up her old ass uterus and cooch to see if she can pop out some more babies for the next ballet to secure her future.
You know she would be a good step mom…how exactly? I hope your uterus and cooch doesn’t get old too….if you’re a man, I hope your dick can still stand up.
And you know Tameka is good mother…How exactly? You think Usher wouldn’t be a good father…How exactly? Where do you know them from, again??
*known
And you know he’s out celebrating with that crypt keeper.
how is she barren when she has children? im just saying
I’ve never been a fan of Usher. I’m a single mother. I’ve also been a part of a trial where a father was in court trying to win custody of his three kids, and won. I was privy to a lot of information that didn’t come out in court. Like I tell my friend to this day, it’s three sides to a story, his side, her side, and the truth. I’m no fool, I don’t believe EVERYTHING someone tell me. But, you have to weigh the evidence and ask a lot of questions. Like what did the children’s attorney had to report to the court? Unless you’re close to the people in the case that is confidential. I just hope they both do what is in the best interest of the children. Because when they grow up they will resent the parent that tried to keep them from their other parent. What happens in the dark will come to light..
I couldn’t agree more. PREACH.
That is so true. I know a girl who tries to keep her daughter from her father and I’ve always told her that will backfire when the daughter gets older. Children eventually grow up and get minds of their own and when they realize one parent has kept them from a relationship with the other parent, all hell will break loose on the parent to played "keep away".
I want to see the documents and how and why this judge ruled against Tameka. If there’s no damning evidence, then clearly the judge was paid off.
That’s a very serious accusation, you and Michelle had BETTER back it up. IJS
She Does not have custody of her other children the father is raising them what’s up with that. she was married when she seduced Usher left husband for Usher.
Yall watch it he will have a new song coming soon entitle.. "I GOT THE KIDS", every song the young man makes it’s off someone else’s hurt.
Lmao at people mad that a LOVING FATHER has custody of his children. Usher is not a bum ass dude from the down the street. He loves his kids and is determined to be everything to them that his father wasnt to him. He has the means to take care of them as well. Yall will DEAL. And Tameka’s fugly self surely will deal. Not that she has a choice anyway. I told y’all it was coming.
How you know he’s a loving father?
How do you know he’s not??
Usher just a lost a fan. I may not matter, but enough fans will matter and hopefully women are wise enough to see that the ruling in this case is a slap in the face to all motherhood.I don’t know him in real life, but this case makes him out to be an egotistical jerk. I hope Tameka has already filed an appeal,because this is some straight up bull!!
WOW!! You allow a BLOGGER to do your thinking?? How do you exactly know what REALLY happened behind closed door? No way in the world I will allow a BLOGGER to do my thinking..IJS
MEEKA! MEEKA KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!
What the Judge say: Meeka you can have back the Sacks Dicount card, but you loose custody of your children.
I guess there must have been some truth to that story that came out about Usher calling Meeka letting her know she lost..(I read it on S**dr* R**e )
I didn’t want to believe that a person could stoop so low!
Dang! Private detective pretended to be a grieving mother to get dirt on Meeka, Payed Ex friend to testify against Meeka (some one she once considered to be family…That LOOOOOW down dirty) She best be glad it’s Meeka. If it were me everytime I think about the fact she was part of the reason I lost custody of my children I would whooop her behind ( her ex-friend is dirrrrttty no good will come to her)))))
I’m no longer a fan of his!!!
Meeka if you are able to Appeal gurl. I wish you well.
Don’t let Usher feel as if he has the Upper hand..That what he wants Keep your head up..Stand strong!!!
Echoing your sentiments.
How is it a slap in the face to all motherhood? If a mother really is unfit then her children should go to the father or any other next of kin. Mothers lose custody all the time, we just don’t hear about it cause they aren’t famous. I’m sure this judge hears custody cases all the time and has given lots of fathers custody where it is warranted.
This girl two houses down from me lost her child to the father because he presented facebook messages and voicemails of her bragging that the childsupport he pays goes to her shoes and clubbing. The childs lawyer statement provided to the court implied that the grandmother and aunt were the ones raising her. The childrens statements are not public record so we will never know what the full story is in the Raymond vs Raymond case. If she appeals how do you know he wont get sole custody. She might just want to cut her losses
Team ManEka this is fucked up! Usher is such a Queen!
THAT IS HORRIBLE! Usher is the freaking unfit parent! Tameka ALWAYS has those kids. Every move she makes, SHE HAS ALL HER BABIES WITH HER! You know there are some REAL sorry a– parents out here that are abusive and don’t watch their children but they don’t take THEIR kids. Instead, they take kids away from an actual caring, loving and attentive mother! I have never been a fan of Tameka but that does NOT change the fact that she’s a good mom to her kids. Usher has officially lost a fan and I will NEVER spend money on his records AGAIN. It seems to me that Usher is mad because Tameka won’t let him run her life. When she has the kids, she can take them anywhere she got darn pleases! SHE CARRIED AND PUSHED THEM BABIES OUT, NOT HIM! ALL HE DID WAS BUST A NUT! (hope it’s ok to say that word and Michelle doesn’t block me. LOL). This is ridiculous. I am praying very hard for Tameka because it is apparent the devil is busy in her life right now and trying to drag her down to hell with him. PLEASE Father watch over that lady and her babies. They going to push the woman to suicide. SMH.
Really..how do you know this !!! She didn’t have them with her when she went to Brazil and almost didn’t make it back..she didn’t have them when her son had his accident…SMH at how bloggers know so much about a person life that they do not know personally!!
Fool get over yourself talking about Brazil!
You’re actually EVIL enough to blame Tameka for Kile’s accident because Tameka wasn’t there even though he was with his father????????????
Newsflash to Usher stans—->Usher DOES NOT want you and he never has.He did all of this not because of genuine concern for his kids.He did it because of spite for Tameka because she dared to move on with her life.
She did say she *always* has her kids with her. That’s two examples out of many that she didn’t. Besides, it’s unrealistic to even state that she *always* has her kids with her. The older ones don’t go to school. She doesn’t work as a stylist. Oh, she’s taking them all to work with her, right?? Come on, now. Logic is your friend. She has help, just like everyone else of her economic standing, some paid, some family. Nothing wrong with that at all (lord, I wish I had help sometimes), but don’t act like she’s doing it all by herself because she’s not.
where did she blame her for the death of her child?
Girl BOOM. When has Tameka moved on?? Are you serious? Lmao. Please take that damn cape off, it’s blinding you. Nobody wants Usher and furthermore TRUST me when I say he’s not hard to get out. Usher has fucked with more fans and regular girls than you think. So that is a moot point cuz shit Tameka def ain’t no beauty queen. He filed because he was tired of Tameka’s mess. Being spiteful and hateful because HE moved on with his life. Are we forgetting who filed for divorce? And the Brazil incident can be brought up because NEWS FLASH– it happened and it did NOT help her case. If she was more concerned about the well being of her kids and not who Usher is fucking, maybe she woulda been better off in this case.
How do you know this? Oohhhhh because your mind is run by a BLOGGER!! SMH….so side
No, no, no..first make sure you are starting a family with a man who loves God and where you two have discussed children and child rearing.
It takes two people to make a baby and both are the parents, not just the mother or just the father. Two people equally love their child, do what is right for the child not for your emotional neediness. This is a matter of respect between the two parents as well as respecting the child.
Why would this man who earns his income the way he does pursue custody?
Your child is a person, a human being and not a pawn in two sick parents game.
Never, ever say anything negative about the other parent. They’re intelligent enough to figure it out.
Too often, emotionally needy parents burden their children with adult issues and literally strip the child of their childhood. That is wrong, wrong and still wrong.
Don’t pawn your children off on others, even if they are family, so many parents do not know their children and vice versa. A nanny to me is a privilege but I want to be the one to instill values in my child not allow some stranger because a nanny is a stranger to me.
I see parents make mistakes everyday and all the time and yes that includes me too.
To be a parent is both bitter and sweet and not for everybody.
Finally, don’t let some guy you met 3 hours ago at the club knock you up–he prolly don’t want to have a baby with you was not looking to have a baby with you but now you have lifetime relationship and lifetime of running him down trying to make him responsible for baby he never asked for or wanted in the first place.
You are speaking in proverbs that not even the village idiot would misunderstand.
This hit especially VERY CLOSE to home for me:
"Too often, emotionally needy parents burden their children with adult issues and literally strip the child of their childhood."
Jesus that statement is so true!!!
Yes women "carry" the babies but let’s not minimize the father’s role in the life of their children. I have no dog in this fight, just want whatever is deemed best for the children to happen so my comments are not based on liking one over the other. But we can’t have it both ways. We can’t want men to step up be real fathers to their children then just as soon as they want to be recognized as having the same rights & access to their children. We cry fowl and say, "NO because I carried them". We have raised 2 adult sons and I would like to think that like their father they are and would be equally as capable of raising their children if they were no longer with their wives. That is my hope and that is my prayer. I hope these two will put any anger and animosity they have towards each other and raise their kids. Perhaps it’s time they attend a few counseling sessions to help facilitate a better co-parenting relationship.
Why do females feel that you have to show that a mother is unfit in order to loose full custody of their child. There are other circumstances that a parent can loose custody. This is a woman who have 5 sons and have joint custody of only 1 and I am sorry that this child is no longer here.
We are just bloggers and read what is on the internet, we do not know the full story between these two.
I am just that the children will be stable and hope she exercise her visiting and custody rights with tweeting everything that goes wrong.
**without tweeting**
Why do females feel that you have to show that a mother is unfit in order to loose full custody of their child. There are other circumstances that a parent can loose custody.
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Enlighten me please.
Britney Spears. She lost custody of her kids to Kevin Federline. She had way more money and recognition and she lost custody to a dude who did not support his kids by Shar Jackson. Kevin Federline was a loser AND unemployed, yet managed to get sole custody of his two children, as well as a house, child support AND spousal support.
He GOT custody because she was unfit. Anybody whose father has to get guardianship is obviously unstable.
If you are a scientology freak you just might loose your child. Lol.
I think Sherry said it best, the judge is no fool, she doesn’t want her decision overturned on any technicality. It surprises me that Usher won which means there was something to cause a rational woman to make such a judgment.
I don’t tell other mothers how or what to do for/with their kids. However, all my friends are loving mothers and put their children before everything including the husband. As mothers we only want to raise socially well-adjusted citizens and put God first. My only daughter entered college this year, I turned down several marriage proposals after my divorce 10 years ago because even trying to court a man took a lot of time and I didn’t have it to give. My first commitment was to being a good mother.
So I guess you all forgot that she left her family and kids to be with Usher and have more kids. She can’t be a good mom to babies if she isn’t a good mom to her oldest. When the next man come along she might ditch them too. Halle and Meka wouldn’t have these problems if they would just let the dads be apart of their kids lives. Not too many men want to step up and the ones that do get treated like crap.
I hate to say this but, Halle is unstable. We knew this a long time ago when she told us about all her past relationships. She’s being unreasonable when it comes to her daughter’s father.
What about the conflict of interest with Usher’s lawyer and the judge? Unless there is something huge that we haven’t heard yet, this is very disturbing. It really makes me think twice about having children. I don’t want to go through this type of mess if the marriage doesn’t work out.
Every Judge and Lawyer has a relationship and know each other personally, unless they were involved personally or had outside dealings together it is a rap!!!
TRUST TAMEKA ATTORNEYS SHOPPED AROUND FOR A JUDGE THAT THEY FEEL WOULD BE MORE ON HER SIDE..
why is it wrong for a father to have custody of his children. society wants to hold men accountable…. now that this man is accountable… he’s wrong. The children are a product of them NOT her. Kudos Usher. in my opinion if this was merely about the children..u keep your Saks Card and gimmie my youngins… when I need you… I’ll call.
If I were the judge and you were sitting before the bar with a custody issue and the matter of a Saks discount card came up in the custody battle, I might give the dad custody too since you the mother have your priorities in the wrong place. Why would she really care about a damn Saks discount card, people make promises everyday that they don’t keep. It makes her look desperate not for her sons but for the Saks discount card. I guess she can look at the Saks discount card as her consolation prize. I wish she had not gone there with the Saks discount card it really makes her look shallow and like her priorities are in the wrong place and judge ruled on the Saks discount card.
CTFU ——> "and judge ruled on the Saks discount card."
I totally forgot about that damn Saks card. It threw me a straight curveball when it was brought up in the first place. WTH. What did she need it for anyway? I know she has her own money but REALLY? a Saks card? during a custody proceeding??? WHY???
You seriously just opened up my eyes even wider.
Yeh, she can KEEP her little Saks card then if it was so important for her to get it back.
I was going to write a lengthly response but decided it wasn’t worth the effort, bottom line it was threatening her livelihood.
Right, the Saks card situation is very telling about her mentality.
Btw Usher don’t care if you burn ur cd’s you not getting a refund. If he don’t sell another cd he still wont be broke. All he wants to to be the father to his kids that didn’t have. If he was a dead beat you all would still talk about him.
Cosign
OMG,YOU HAVE TO BE KIDDING!!! USHER IS A PUNK BITCH AND HIS MAMA SHOULD BE ASHAMED FOR RAISING ONE. TAMEKA HAS ISSUES JUST LIKE WE ALL DO BUT TO GIVE PRISSY ASS USHER FULL CUSTODY IS A CRYING SHAME, AND GOD FORBID IF SOMETHING HAPPENS TO THOSE BOYS WHILE WITH USHER, HE AND THIS BITCH JUDGE SHOULD BE THROWN IN JAIL. I DIDN’T/DON’T WANT TO BELIEVE IT BUT I KNEW BY GIVING HER BACK HER CREDIT CARD, SHE WOULD FAVOR USHER.A CREDIT CAN’T/WON’T/WILL REPLACE TIME WITH HER KIDS. BITCH ASS NIGGA USHER. I WILL NEVER BUY A DAMN THING WITH USHER’S NAME ON IT. KARMA A BITCH.
ONE MORE THING I HOPE THIS KILL HIS FREAKIN CAREER.
u see this is the reason y u don’t have nothing on ur own cause u with other people bad luck.if something happened to Usher kids y they with him it no problems,they r his kids and when Tamika son die didn’t anything happened to her;i guest no.now i know y Tamika is so ignorant cause she have ignorant people like u around.
You know, if you master the English language a little better, it would make your comments (in your case, insults) more coherent.
Everyone is so quick to judge Usher!! Yes it is sad Tameka lost her Son last month but this is a totally different matter. Does she even have her other kids? Lets not forget she is a gold digger!! Since they first split its been all about the money. Who needs $8,000 in child support and not you want $10,000 plus cry a river over him cancelling your SAK card. Does she not work to support her children at all? Of course she had Usher’s sons with her everywhere those were her 2 little paychecks thought you all knew. Maybe if she wasnt such a money hungry, drama filled witch and acted her age they could have shared custody and he wouldn’t of had to do this.
Nick, you talk about people judging Usher now…Tameka’s been judged for much longer. As far as what we all "know," we believe what we choose to believe, regardless of what side you’re on. I mean no disrespect to your point of view, even though it differs from mine. The problem on other blogs (and occasionally this one, especially once school lets out) is that there’s such an intolerance for different opinions. If I’ve offended anyone with my comments, I apologize. No one should be (or feel) insulted for expressing their opinion.
THANK YOU! Finally somebody else on here gets that Tameka had those kids for money. Period. Loser women think kids are an insurance policy to hedge against divorce. Thinking the more kids they have the more child support they will get. Like welfare. She don’t care nothing about those kids. This was proven when she exchanged them for a Saks discount card.
Yes, but remember Tameka didn’t plant those kids in a garden or make them out of clay; she was impregnated by UsHER’s seed. This whole thing could have been avoided w/ a condom, because even if she (or any woman) was on the pill and forgot to take it *accidentally on purpose* lol, a condom would nip all that stuff in the bud.
As millionaires, you’d think all these celebs would be more careful.
This is so sad, I’m really devastated by this. As a mother I couldn’t fathom having my children taking away from me with no evidence that I was neglectful to them. This is a bunch of BULLSHIT! Usher I pray that our God that sits high and looks low even to the depths of your action won’t let this go unpunished. I can’t express how utterly disgusted I am of hearing this.
Usher doesn’t even have the same fanbase anymore..he couldn’t care less if we stopped dealing with him..he has crossed over and his audience is outside of RnB…He’s got the control he wanted..I hope all of this was worth it from both parties…
Obviously you didn’t pay attention to the fact that his latest release was a complete flop…
Again he couldn’t care less..his latest effort was NOT geared to an RnB audience so WHAT exactly is your point?
How do you know that Usher doesn’t care? I know for a fact he cares….I don’t recall saying a thing about genres or who his latest project was geared towards,so why would you even go there?
It’s real clear that you are an Usher stan that seems to care when people say they aren’t buying his music.I’ve never bought any of Usher’s music so of course he wouldn’t miss my money but he will miss the money of those that made him 10x platinum so please don’t even try to say that isn’t true because you will make yourself look even more dense.
No it is NOT clear I am an Usher stan..I haven’t said one thing where it shows I am on his side ..If I stated he doesn’t care about his rnb audience because he is NOT making rnb music then that’s MY truth..YOU are the stan because YOU are going in at me for stating my opinion ABOUT him..get over yourself and try and find someone else to start mess with on a damn blog..
What release? I guess that proves your point doesn’t it? LOL.
Yes, it does LMAO!!!
Exactly….LOL
What I don’t understand is why the judge would feel that it would be better for "nannies" to raise these children rather than their own mother? Usher may take them to a few fun places when he has the time. How about bedtime, bath, shoot just sitting on the couch and watching a movie! If he is touring how would he be able to spend quality time with them?
the nannies were already raising them from both sides..
That is really sad. I know they love their mother and she loves them. I don’t think Usher can do a better job than Tameka and she should not have lost custody. But, I do think that she has to provide a more stable home for her children. She vacations way too much. And has all these people, nannies around her kids. There are tons of single moms that take care of multiple kids. She should be at home with the kids and hire one or two family members to help her with the kids. Have compnay cleaning your house every few days, a chef preparing your meals off site, a gardner taking care of the lawn, a driver to get you and the kids (don’t send the kids by themselves) to the destinations you all need to be. That is way more help than she needs and then she can say, I take care of my kids myself…period. Yes, I have help around the house but, I care for these kids. All these 100′s of different Nannies, ect are rediculous. And then, you should not even brought up this SAKS card girl, you needed to be heavy hitting about how awful of a father Usher is. He can not provide a more stable home that Tameka…period. Especially, if she would just sit still. You child just passed, why are you going on vacation and having some women who is not even a family member watch your kids that don’t even like you. Come on Boo, Boo. What else was the judge to do when you come in there talking about a SAKS card and Usher is talking about the kids?????
I had to laugh at your screen name. Kim got that one locked in for the next 18 years. He better not ever get hurt.
I hear you and I agree that a home should not be a revolving door with nannies, chefs, security, etc. coming in and out all over the place. You only need a babysitter to watch your kids when you can’t, and it should be the same one. It does not take a whole team of people to raise two children. It only takes a mom and a dad.
There is more to this story and I would really wait to see what the documents. This has not been the Usher show because everything we have read has been against him. If he was controlling that, why put it out there.
I just want to say that courts today are shying away from the old "child belong with their mothers" idea as science is proving, that a fathers role is just as important.
What did the Guardian ad Litem have to say? That is the attorney appointed to represent the best interest of the children. Somewhere along the line, Ms. Raymond might not met the burden of proof in proving that she is the best option. Not saying that she is unfit but also not proving that she’s the best fit. There are alot of things that went along with this. Contact Pheadra for a expert opinion, she is a lawyer isn’t she?
And courts also see a trend in uneducated women marrying wealthy men, having kids, but conveniently staying uneducated so the man will have to bare all the financial responsibility when they get a divorce since she can’t get a decent job without an education.
huh?
Lol. Judges are catching on to the fact that there are women who are only out to scam a man and they are starting to rule against those women. A lot of housewives deliberately won’t acquire any job skills or education in order to keep themselves employable. They just live off the man. That way when they get divorced, thinking she will automatically get custody, cause that’s how it’s always been, she can tell the judge her husband has always taken care of her and she doesn’t have any current skills or education to get a job, therefore the ex husband needs to continue to support her financially. Hoping it will be enough to where she still doesn’t have to go to work. Now, instead of giving the housewife custody and making the man continue to support her, judges are giving custody to the husband and telling the housewife to go get a job/skills/education so she can start contributing financially, rather than thinking she’s gonna sit on her behind and collect checks from the ex for the next 18 years. A girl I know tried to pull this and it didn’t work, so that’s how I know this, hahaha. Lost her kids and the house, because technically she couldn’t maintain either one without a job anyway. The ex husband lives in the house with their kids. Obviously there’s more that contributed to her losing custody, but the judge knew she was gold-digging. While they were married I used to always tell her to keep a job cause you never know what might happen and you can’t rely on a man. But she always thought that was stupid advice. She was too busy digging for gold and that eventually went against her.
And why DIDN’T she get Pheadra? If I get in any legal trouble I’m calling Pheadra. LOL.
Don’t understand why he would lose fans over this,it’s not wrong for a father to want to raise his kids,if she was such a great mother she would have had all her kids but she chose to chase money,she lost him how she got him she was the one cheating….he saw your character and he showed his…she lost her meal ticket but she got her discount card….usher will have nannies just like she did,nothing wrong with that…you don’t just lose kids for no good reason…give the man a break and hope he does the right thing by them…sad that accident happened to her son but as a mother she was nowhere around. Hope they all do well in the future,some people here talk like they know and you will never know all the details.
Everyone talks about Usher cheating but how come no one remembers that he doubted that the second son was his and asked for a paternity test? Karma is real. She cheated on her first husband with Usher and now ask us to cry a river because Usher cheated on her, no sympathy here.
That’s her 1st husband’s problem, no what I mean? People seem to justify UsHER’s cheating by her cheating in her first marriage. Yes, it’s the same woman, but the relationships are different. I can see if Usher were married and she busted up THAT relationship, but that didn’t happen. She screwed herself. With Usher’s help, of course. And the fact that he busted up grace’s marriage too is very telling.
"No what I mean?" Nope, sorry. Karma is Karma. How you got him is how you lose him. She was all too happy cheat on her husband with him, so what makes you think he is not going to cheat on you? He obviously doesn’t respect the vows of marriage or he wouldn’t have been part of the adultery. You didn’t honor your vows with your first husband, and now your husband didn’t honor his vows with you. That’s called Karma. Her first husband has been moved on from her and she needs to move on from Usher. It’s been 3 years already.
Okay, so you’ve explained it, and that makes sense. If you say, "she cheated on her old husband for her new husband, and he in turn cheated on her; that’s karma." I get that. I can even agree, because I can’t stand adulterers. BUT, you have stans that say, "so what Usher cheated on her; she cheated on Ryan," like that’s justification. That I cannot get behind. It’s not like he was screwin’ Grace doggie-style and said, "baby, I know I shouldn’t be doing this, but Tameka cheated on her husband with me, so it’s okay." lol. He didn’t cheat on Tameka because he thought as an adultery she’d understand, since she ‘did it herself.’ He did it for the same reason a dog licks itself…because he can.
And she didn’t Usher by busting up his marriage; he busted up HER marriage, so he was the "mistress." How you find ‘em is how you lose ‘em applies to Grace, in this case.
I don’t know if I’m explaining it clearly…Yeah, Tameka got what she gave to Ryan, but that does not excuse Usher’s infidelity…I guess that’s my point in a roundabout way.
I HOPE THE PPL THAT ARE ROOTING FOR URSHER ARE PARENTS….CAUSE UMM IT’S NOT AS EASY AS PPL THINK OR SEE…ESPECIALLY IF YOU WILLING TO CATCH A CHARGE STEALING DIAPERS ETC. I READ SOME WHERE MAYBE THIS WEBSITE LOL USHER IS CONTROLLING AN DIDNT WANT TO SEE TAMEKA MOVE ON WITH ANOTHER HIGH PROFILE CELEB…LETS NOT FORGET THIS MAN MARRIED HER AN HAD KIDS WITH HER KNOWING HER BCKGROUND AN ALL SO HOW BAD OF A MOTHER COULD SHE REALLY BE??? AN SOME OF US WOMEN KNOW HOW CRAZY KNEE-GROWS GET ONCE THEY REALIZE THERE EX IS OVER THERE CHEATING AN DOGGISH WAYS…(THEY GO DUMB STUPID PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE) SO HE’LL GO FAR ENOUGH TO TAKE HER KIDS??? REALLY?? BESIDES THE FACT HER SON JUST PASSED…THAT JUST SAYS "CONTROL!!" (IN MY SMOKEY VOICE ) ALL OVER IT.. MY KIDS CAN DRIVE ME STIR CRAZY BUT WHEN THERE GONE ALL I THINK ABOUT IS THEM….I CANT IMAGINE HOW SHE FEELS. GOD DONT LIKE UGLY!
Uhm….WOW!
There is still one who sits high and is the ultimate judge and jury.Yes, man say it’s one thing, but God says something totally different.God is the final judge.A lot of "so-called celebrity people" don’t want to pay child’s support.Hmmm…why are black women that are/were married to famous black men losing their children and support monies(attack on the family…i see it).Something in the milk aint clean?Weird and bizarre!
I dont think Usher is a dirtbag for wanting coustody of his kids..I’m sure we’ve all heard crazy things about both of them but,from what court info I’ve read(awhile back)on tmz..it sounds like the nannies gave strong info and the 2 arrest didnt help..1 said she was left in the car w/the youngest child while Tameka went inside to a basketball game due to lack of seats..not sure how long she stayed but thats awful!and she would stay in her room for hrs while the nanny had the kids..and how much time is spent w/them if she has 2 stores and a stylist career plus shopping a reality show prior to this!..? I think the judge looked at her mental state and character over his money.
@freekroy How many nannies will be around the boys when Usher goes on tour? Goes to the BET Awards? VMA’s? Grammy’s? Talk Shows? Tameka is a working woman that is in the limelight(that’s why we know abt them), her taking vacations is nothing compared to the different place we see Ush when he’s NOT working. Anyhow, this is truly sad. Nothing that I have read or has come on in that courtroom indicated that she was unfit. Only time will tell.
I agree, Usher will not be a better parent than Tameka. I stated that. However, the judge is looking at the current situation. You have nanny’s and friends testifying against you, saying that you are a bad parent and are too busy for the kids. There are cold hard facts that document how many Nannies you have hired to take care of these small kids. Why do you need all these damn Nannies? That is a danger to the kids. Tameka’s number 1 job should have been a mother to her kids, I am sure she was getting way over $30,000 a month in child support from Usher alone, plus, he paid the mortgage on the house that they lived in. Tameka needs to slow down and be home with the kids. Maybe Usher had more consistancy. I don’t know but, something made that judge change that customy agreement and I believe it had to do with the Nanny testifying agaist her. She had to slow down and sit still with these kids. I am sorry, no one loves your kids like you, I don’t care how much they make you can not buy a mother and fathers love..period. Tameka, slow down, limit the vacations to 2 or 3 summer vacations with the kids are out of school or even a Christmas vacations. And, no more Nanny’s. Yes, get help around the house but, deal with your kids on your own. They are no longer babies, so, they don’t need nurses and nannies. They need you…especially now.
Nothing against working mothers, but why is she trying to work if the career is preventing her from being a fit partent? It’s not like she needs the money. She should have stayed at home and raised her 4 boys like Ann Romney.
Trying to escape that label of goldigger that people were quick to slap on her? Just a thought.
Usher is an ass. Unless her kids are hungry, naked, unhappy, abused, locked in a basement…. why would he put this woman through this???? Her son just died, their brother and now he wants to take them from their mother too? What an asshole. He has no time to raise those kids unless he is retiring for good, tours, parties, travel, shoots, when is there time for the kids really??? He is just doing this to spite their mother or NOT pay child support. Petty reasons, given his status. What a Class A- asshole??!! Your comment is wrong because It shows she was only getting $8,000 per month from him for BOTH kids, so Im sure she still needs to work. $8k is bullshit from a multi-millionaire, Im sorry he is a rat.
There is more to this parenting case then we know. My son’s father took me to court for custody of our son. He came from a wealthier family than me, in fact he lives in one of the top school districts in the country, and shelled out a lot of money for a "good" attorney, but guess what he LOST. Money doesn’t always play a factor in raising a child. The judge saw that in spite of the fact that monetarily the scale tipped in his favor, however in the entire scheme of things I was the better parent. Period. I love my son and fought with every thing I had. Sometimes I didn’t even have the money to pay my attorney but God made a way.
My son is flourishing he is bright kid taking accelerated classes and is just a wonderful kid. He promised to make my life a living hell and would taunt me about how I was going to lose my son, but unfortunately the tables turned and now he has to live with his mistake. I don’t know Usher and Tameka but I do see her tweeting. I’m not judging her but if I just lost a child there is no way that I would be tweeting anything!! I would probably be on the ground somewhere curled up still crying over the loss of my child. This whole thing just seems strange. Nonetheless, I hope these two can make peace but it seems like not even death can bring these two together.
I’m not judging her but if I just lost a child there is no way that I would be tweeting anything!! I would probably be on the ground somewhere curled up still crying over the loss of my child.
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Exactly! Me too, but when her "friend" complained about her isolating in her room during her testimony,s he was painted as being unfit. Who functions well when they’re mourning? In fact, why didn’t UsHER have custody of the two boys so she could mourn?
Look, maybe if Tameka hadn’t tried to keep those children away from Usher in the first place, things would not have been taken this far! Her ass wanted to be greedy, and bitter about not being Ushers wife anymore and getting all the perks and status that came along with being his wife! Instead of being the bigger person, she wanted to make it as hard as she could for him to be with his children. I am sorry that her son died,but she has to be held accountable for the role she has played in her kids bein given to their father. He is about to give her a dose of her own medicine, and when she sees how it feels to be denied visits,and constantly told where her children can and cannot be taken,and with whom, then she will know how he felt in that situation.I hope she learns from this and they can somehow come together and raise these kids without the hatred and bitterness in the air. Tameka you are NOT married to Usher anymore,go out and get a fucking job!He got your kids now,so the plan of livin large for 18 years is now shot down.You better hope he dont take you back to court to modify your divorce decree now that he has custody of the kids. Get your shit together,get some therepy, and try to be a better woman!
The judge is held accountable for doing what is in the best interested of the children… and given the FACTS (sans sympathetic rhetoric due to Kyle’s death); this is the best decision. Tamika has demonstrated that children are optional components of her life; while money is not. It’s funny to me that people do not recognized KARMA when it’s happening to them… this IS KARMA for Tamika… so she should just suck it up and charge it to the game, like a real player would.
She is probably secretly happy that she doesn’t have to deal the kids on a day to day basis and is only upset because now Usher is not obligate to pay her child support. Her lifestyle just got demoted.
DID ANYONE CATCH THIS?! why was she begging for money when Kyle was in the hospital; but was able to afford a trip to St. Barth’s the week after she buried him? I was in St. Barth’s in January – it is stupid expensive!!! Even a cheap trip for a week will set you back at least $40K FOR ONE PERSON – and she had a crew. Just wondering…
So I guess we ALL are letting the blogs think for us, because Tameka begging for money was never confirmed.
@ Elle Michelle…40 grand for one week for one person….only if you stay at an exclusive resort. She may have stayed somewhere that was less expensive. I also never saw her ask for money while he was in the hospital. She did set up a fund for Lake Lanier AFTER he passed. She only asked for PRAYER while he was in the hospital.
she did ask usher
You just said it right here —-> "She is probably secretly happy that she doesn’t have to deal the kids on a day to day basis and is only upset because now Usher is not obligate to pay her child support. Her lifestyle just got demoted."
Tried to play and got played herself.
Not sure how accurate that is as far as child support is conerned…they still have joint custody. While there may be a reduction in child support he may still have to pay her so that she can maintain a home and living environment for them when they are in her care. He has the means to provide support for his kids and should still have to do so and in most cases just because a parent have primary custody doesnt mean that child support orders are dropped. Primary custody means he calls all the shots with the kids school, dr, nanny etc without needing Tameka’s approval. They will still be with their mom quite a bit. So dont get too happy for Ush… financially she will always be set unless he gains FULL custody…unless the Judge ruled differently which in this case which would not surprise me…all of their hands seem a little dirty.
So I think joint custody would have been best, but apparently they tried it and it didn’t work. I’m not going to say anything about either one because I don’t know them personally and wasn’t in the court room. Even reading what so called insiders had to say was sketchy. One thing that bothered me was the drug use thing. In my opinion if you thought/knew he was doing drugs months back, why are you just now saying something about it when he petitioned for custody, better yet why do you still want joint custody if you think he does drugs. Secondly infidelity was brought up a lot, but I’m sorry it’s not a divorce hearing it is a custody hearing what does that have to do with anything. Also it annoys me when people say Usher is horrible for continuing the case when she lost a child. Now I can’t even begin to understand how it would fell to lose a child, but just because you lose a child doesn’t mean you ae the better parent. If Usher thought he was the better parent why shouldn’t he pursue coustody. Now if she still feels she is the better parent and I can’t say she isn’t…she should appeal. But honestly sometimes it isn’t money, look at Britney Spears.
Money always wins in America. That is why celebrities and rich kids get away with murder. If you got the cash you have the verdict in your favor.
Didn’t help Britney Spears.
Cuz she went ape shit crazy, that’s why lol. Remember, her father had to petition for guardianship.
Or Tom Cruise.
Let me be PERFECTLY CLEAR.. IF this true, it is NOT okay. I do NOT know Tameka, but NO WHERE in America should a woman be stripped of her children in this manner and for reasons as TRIVIAL as these. I WILL assist in anyway possible to assist her. Protests, boycott of USHER. IF ANYONE can reach Tameka, PLEASE have her email me .. THIS is NOT OKAY and as women we SHOULD be supporting and protecting each other. My daughter;s mother was HORRIBLE but I did NO allow my husband to strip her mother of her rights, WE stepped up paid extra and gave more, but worked together to ensure she received the BEST of everything and LOVED her mother. Today she is a brilliant young woman and we ALL remain very close. USHER is WORSE than scum for this….
So now we should start a movement because she does not have primary custody??? Really..there are mothers who should be stripped of the rights..check the news and there are mothers who do not deserve full custody. A child deserves both parents and we as outsiders do not know the whole story…Where was the outcry when she gave up custody of the other 3 sons!!!
Who knew her then? lol All people saw was the "gold digging cougar" that trapped UsHER.
Renee, there’s no sisterhood among black women.
You are absolutely correct and it is DEPLORABLE. It is also the reason the REST of the world shits on black women because we shit on each other. Every woman that is a mother or EVER hopes to be one should be deeply troubled by this outcome. Because MONEY has mpre power than love.
I’ve never really been a fan of hers, at the same time I never cared enough to research ab
about her. But there had to be more as to why the judge ruled in Ms. Usher’s favor. Also if she was affiliated with Usher’s legal team, Tameka’s attorney should have asked her to recuse herself or even took it even higher.
At the end of the day, I really feel sorry for her, losing 1 son so tragically last month and now primary custody of her last 2 boys. On top of that she has to look for new dwellings. God is love and I’m sure she’ll land on her feet.
When is Usher and his "fossil" getting married? We all know he likes them old.
i told yall the right one would win!!!!! you go boy!!! AS FOR TAMEKA, GET SOME HELP!!!
i just read that there was a psychological evaluation done and Tameka was considered to have "moderately severe mental disorder". which i would have, if i had just lost my son, but they r saying that is what the judge ultimately based the decision on giving Usher primary custody. it is just sad all the way round.
I’m in mental health, and I don’t know what the hell that is. I know almost all of the Axis I’s and Most of the Axis II’s…that sounds vague like a MOFO.
"Moderately Severe"???? That’s contradictory in itself… which is it? This all sounds fishy and like more "Usher camp" slander. I hope she sues him for his draws because this nicca done went too far, he is a bitch for reals. I was such a fan until he showed his girl side. This is HOE behavior im sorry, turned off and lost fan here.
I just read there was a load of extra testimony that worked against her including her psych exam(prior to Kile)if that is the case, then no amount of money was needed..you can’t be unstable and raise kids PERIOD..time to get off of Twitter and regroup as a stylist and get her life back the best way she can..Usher is no longer a financial factor
I only feel bad for the kids. I’m not on Usher or Tameka’s side but Tameka’s "glowing" personality and actions did not help her case. Did someone not testify she would leave the kids for DAYS and not tell the nannies where she was or how to contact her? Didn’t she leave her kids somewhere to run off to Brazil for plastic surgery? This women is forever goin off on Twitter. Judges take a lok at all that.
This is bad! This is another burden us women have to bare from a man. We go through so much,it’s a shame. No woman should have her children taken away from her! I feel like boycotting! I’m about to research Tameka’s attorney and see what I could do to help! I looked over the case myself and NOWHERE showed Tameka was unfit.For all of you looking for more evidence and the "judge must no something we don’t",this is bull shit! Money talks and in this case,Usher has the money! Lord knows I don’t wish death on anyone,but the way Usher won this case is pushing me to it! What’s the judge’s name and number? She and I need to talk. Tameka took GREAT care of those kids!
Women don’t bear more than anyone else. Please, get a grip.
You MUST be a man lol
No, I’m a woman.
Well flip me over and paint me blue! I miscalled that one lol.
I’m just glad this saga is over. I hope it was in the best interet of the kids. I hope Tameka gets the help she needs.
I am so sick of, "from what I’ve heard about her…based on her reputation," or "based on her past behaviors…"
Hell, if our life experiences were based on what others heard about us or what reputation we have (had), or behaviors past and present, we’d all have a life of misery. Tell me I’m wrong. No matter what your age is, you’ve met someone that absolutely hates your guts. Keep livin’. That number will keep rising.
@ stlchick: You better preach! Nothing but absolute TRUTH in your comment from 6:28 p.m.
I think people are bringing up her past and reputation because that’s what determines character. Courts look at that in a custody case. Stealing from a store one time in your past does not really tell anyone about your character, but robbing banks in your past speaks volumes about your character. While we all have a past, not everyone’s past is shady enough to be used against them in a court case.
While the whole thing is sad, and I sympathize with Tameka ………. Is it possible that a man can, for once, be seen as better suited to raise HIS sons? We’re so used to being unmarried babymamas, with absent fathers that the idea of a man who wants to actually parent is unheard of. When a judge strips rights from the maternal mother – there’s more to the story than what’s being put out. And as publicized and scrutinized as the is trial was, I doubt bribery was a factor in the outcome.
Finally The Men Get One. Who says when u divorce the kids auotmatically goes to the woman. Men step up take care of your kids. Lesson for the Gold diggin women who have kids for finacial securtiy.Use your money and get yo kids. Now who gets the last laugh.GOLD DIGGERS U ARE NOW ON NOTICE. MONEY TALK BULLSHITWALK. NOW SHARE THAT
YOU are a poor excuse of a human….
Man take your issues with the woman that dogged you to a couch because Tameka doesn’t have a thing to do with that.
I’m sorry but I have to agree with him. There are some women who sole game plan is to pop one out for a man with money. When I lived in Miami in my late teens/early twenties this was many peoples game plan at the events I attended on Fire Island and in Key West. Black, White, Hispanic and any nationality you could think of. To them a baby equaled security. They were willing to give up self-respect for a check, because they did not care if the man was faithful or not as long as she could shop, not work and the bills were paid. I am not saying this applies to Tameka but it does apply to those who think this way. Also plenty of girls strip not to pay bills but to “get out of the life” because they see it has worked for other i.e. Nene landing Greg, Amber landing Kanye, Chyna landing Tyga….
They still have joint custody, usher is just the decision maker in this case.
Im not an Tameka or an Usher however it could be that Usher is scared that in the long run tameka may leave his children for another man.
That’s what I thought. Like I said, he didn’t WIN like he wanted to, because he doesn’t have sole custody, and he always had the final say as far as decisions about the kids, per the divorce agreement.
*neglect
Why can’t we just say this was a ho with a ho and wish the kids all the best?? at times just listen to mama..
Yep, and at times think with the big head, not the small one. So much drama and heartache can be avoided that way.
Bottom line, Usher Debbie Rowe’d this ho. Peace to MJ. Lol. Y’all can cape all you want, but FACTS are what won Usher this case. Insulting Grace is also dumb considering that she and Tameka are guilty of the same thing when it comes to the infidelity shit, although Grace never lost custody of HER kids. Theyre always around her and Usher both. But anyway, whats done is done. Tameka LOST and I told y’all she stays losing. Talkin about Grace and a damn Saks card when she and her attorney shoulda been gettin their shit together. Her whole damn argument was based on emotions, not logic. Usher obviously had a good attorney cuz he got his babies. Now he’s about to finish her off by selling that damn house. If Tameka had any sense, she’d move her ass back to Oakland and get her life together. But knowing her, she probably has burned too many bridges there as well. That false sense of entitlement shit is OVER.
And to think back when Usher’s episode of BTM aired, she was talkin mad shit about Rozonda. I bet she’s somewhere laughing her ass off at Tameka’s silly ass.
What IS your connectio to Grace, cuz you ride for this middle aged chick awefully hard.
Oops…connection, awfully. That is all.
As hard as you ride for Tameka? Lmao girl bye. I’m not outing who I am on a damn blog but I have had dealings with people. That’s all I’ll say on that. And Tameka and Grace are the same age if I’m not mistaken. So middle aged they both are, but only one of them acts their age.
In other words, you don’t know Grace’s ass at all, because if you did, you’d know she’s got a few years on Tameka. And when you say Good bye, I pray to God and 10 more white people that you mean it. Dueces! Oh, I’m sorry…
BOOM!
You don’t know who I know and I have nothing to prove to anybody. Grace being 42 (which she likes to tell folks) or 45 really doesn’t matter became Tameka has lied about her age in the past as well. Bottom line they are both 40+. And hell you couldnt tell the diff because they look the same age any damn way. Please don’t try to go to toe to toe with me because you WILL lose. Stay your ass in your lane and finish caping for Foster, mkay? Good.
Real shit, girl don’t ever think I’m one to be intimidated OR messed with. The fact that every other word you say is BOOM speaks volumes about your maturity (or lack thereof). Who are you to be outed? WTF are you, friends of some jump offs/groupies that run in his circle? Maybe one yourself? The only thing I’ll lose with you is my temper. Don’t worry about me staying in MY lane, because I’m well out of your league. You better try that shit with somebody else. Why don’t you go find that seat you’re so quick to offer everybody else. Villiage idiot.
I love it! That’s right stlchick,dig in their ass! I bet she’s also between the ages of 16 and 23 and think Usher is the love of her life! Girl,don’t get me started!
I love how I keep people pressed. Lmao and 16-23, shiiiit I wish. A lil older than that. And @Sam your cheer leading ass is reaching for the stars just like this one is. Get started. You’ll get shut down just like the other ones do. Including this pressed one who rides every post I put on here. Sit back.
Yall better RUN before the Keyboard thug get you!!! hahahahaha
Vay, you silly. She don’t want none of this lol. I play with people for only so long.
Smh some of y’all act just as crazy as Tameka ass did in court… Who argues, insult, and threatens others based on celebrities jacked up life? Idgaf who don’t like my opinion and I do not debate with ignoramuses so save your replies for someone who does…. Imo, she is one evil, vindictive, hateful crazy ass chic and im sure the judge saw through her and based the decision on that alone. I could care less about their crappy marriage but right is right and wrong is wrong and it was proven to the judge that Tameka is the WRONG one to have PRIMARY custody over their children. The crazy chic refused to follow judge order and allow that father visitation so she can not be trusted. Now stop insulting each other over shit that do not concern you…smh, crazies everywhere!
Bish u late. keep up
u didn’t have a problem with his money when the judge ruled in favor of her with a credit card..just cause a woman spits them out doesn’t mean she should keep them esp boys. a woman can’t teach a boy how to be a man…just look around…gtfoy…glad he got custody..even gladder he didn’t listen to society and say he has less parental rights or doesn’t matter in his children lives..more fathers should take their kids..
I know alot of ppl dont like this woman for unbeknownst reasons, but I have seen no legit evidence that she is a irresponsible/wreckless mother. Then again, I dont follow this couples daily struggles. I never thought much of this battle b/c I figured he wouldnt win. Iv’e seen women that outright beat and abuse their kids but yet still have them. Tameka seems to have the finances and wit to take adequate care of them. It takes ALOT for a mother to lose custody of her kids. What evidene did they have? Were they using Kile’s accident as a sick excuse? Is that why Usher bumped up the court date cause he knew he had a heated edge? Im against Usher on this one. His stans act like he’s the most upstanding man b/c he’s considered attractive. Usher really isnt shit. Let’s be real. He plays all his romantic interests to the left and has a habit of sleeping with staff/co-workers. Very unprofessional. He’s a whore like any other man in the entertainment world. Tameeka was just an unfortunate pawn. Money and favoritism had to be the only reason. I dont understand how Usher could possibly take care of young boys since he frequents world tours and has a harem of women frequenting his dwelling. Poor Tameka. To have one of your children die and 2 other’s taken away pretty much.
Well said.
I’m not mad at her for tweeting when she lost her baby. When my mom and aunt died withing weeks of each other, i was all over FB like white on rice expressing my grief because i needed to talk and needed for somebody to understand. Maybe her kin folk weren’t as helpful or understanding or attentive. Sometimes people just want to be heard and not preached to.
You can’t judge someone’s reaction to the loss of a family member because we all react differently and handle our pain differently.
I still say bump Usher with then lines on his forehead and that peasy hair. Ninja lost my respect for him.
I understand now why she was on twitter obviously by the back stabbing bimbo she had on vacation with her it show what type of supportive "friends" she had.
Also my condolence to you, a mother is someone that could never be replaced.
So you want to burn all your usher CDs because he wanted his children???? I’m lost, since when is it bad for a man to want his children. Now that the shoe is on the other foot he gets all the flak. It’s clear who you are close too but please check it
Ght.Well if money is what won him the case then why don’t most rich men have custody instead of paying child support? If that was the case their wouldn’t be any "housewife " reality shows. No one complained when britney spears lost custody…she’s rich. We want equal rights and now that we have them it’s not right. Boo hoo.
@ Really: Because some men don’t want custody. There does seem to be a growing # of wealthy celebs fighting for custody all of a sudden or hiring high powered lawyers to keep child support payments lower than they would usually be. Some men would rather pay money than have to deal with their kids.
As for Britney Spears, she clearly has dealt with some emotional/psychological issues publicly.
Tameka took the psych evaluation. If there was a "smoking gun" in the evaluation, believe me, it would have been brought up in court. There is no comparison with Tameka and Britney.
There is comparison for the simple fact that she tweeted everything going on in court and relishing in every victory she thought she had. So obviously she has some mental issues. She birthed 5 kids abed only has visitation rights for all the minor kids. She has issues.
Get real…her oldest son is grown she has joint custody with Ryan Sr and joint custody with Usher she was rarely on Twitter during the court period. Stop making shit up.
So sad…Tameka- keep fighting it…don’t give up hope. God is with you.
I feel bad that she is being called a bad mother meanwhile there was noone to testify that she was a bad mother..MMMM…… like i said before i enjoy usher’s music and im a big fan but whats right is right and whats wrong is wrong….something is up.One tip for TAMEKA becareful who you tell your bis to. Men/so called friends take that and run with it.She did an interview along time ago on how she told usher how her life was years ago.And she said he didnt budge and then she knew that he accepted her for who she was.Im sorry thats how men get you never tell you story right away like that.Sometimes people will take your story either make it look like their story or will turn on you when you least except it.Believe me i know something is very wrong in that relationship.Why would you want the mother of your children to be so distant.They said she was "unstable and had issues"hmmm…what i dont understand why did usher not say something before when they were together before the boys were born noone ever came forward about her being a bad mother.I also questioned why tameka never said anything about usher being on drugs before and also why usher didnt take the test. I think they both have some wrong in this situation.From what i see Tameka takes care of her boys the best way that she can and she stated that.Im sure usher is a good parent also nobody wants to ever be called a BAD PARENT thats fighting words.Well i guess usher will see how it feels to be a fulltime parent.It also could be that his father was not in his life and he wants to be a good father figure and teach them how to be a man.usually when parents split they are worried about who their ex partners mate will be and doesnt want them to be raise by that person.But if thats the case your the one that left so she should be free to date whom ever she wants.So is he but i do understand why she would be upset with you bringing the new lady to the house.My daughters father tried the same thing but i left him and i was gonna go to the car to let her know who i was and he rushed our daughter to the drive way so i wouldnt see her lol.Im sorry usher if the shoe was on the other foot you would have been mad too.Tameka That person you took on vacation with you that you knew for years smmfh she had to be paid to lie on you…I feel for her as a mother i hope they can get through this.smh
Admittedly he should NEVER have brought his new biotch 2 the house….that was cause 4 an axx whooping….as far as the drugs thing, I honestly believe they were probably smoking that wxxd together…she probably BEEN knew what he was doin’ cause she was right there with him so the drug test thing is pointless issue…how about they BOTH take a drugs tests…i’m talking HAIR samples…..
Um, thank you. BOTH of them were doing drugs. That’s obvious.
exactly, he had the nerve to say he don’t understand why she would be mad because they weren’t together anymore. He know dag gone well he would be pissed if it was him… he’s such a punk a22…
Usher do want to be the best dad that he can like many men do but having an evil and hateful baby momma can prevent that. She went against court orders and denied him precious time woth his sons and therefore she can not be trusted to do the right thing for the children when it comes to their father and she lost. As a divorced mother of four o despise chics who are so hateful and keep babes from their loving father. They are soul destroyers who constantly destroy the souls of innoceny children. It would tear those babes and Usher apart if she was successful at keeping them from each other. He is not keeping them away from her now is he? Sje no longer has authority to destroy those innocent lil boys souls by keeping them and their Father apart.
Usher is a straight up Biatchmade BIATCH!
Who does that to a grieving mother? *going to every free downloading site and downloading that bullshiat a&& looking for myself bullshiat!* I got them bootlegs! I got them bootlegs!
In the future try not to incriminate yourself, IJS
Mojax hush before the FBI come knocking at your door!! lol
lmbao! I was in my feelings. Usher is currently that ish I don’t like!
Im so disgusted by this that I’m with u Michelle I’m done with Ursher. WTH I know everything aint peaches but damn did he have to keep going with this. I can’t even imagine how that would feel for someone to tell when you can and cannot see your kids. Such a shame, my heart goes out to tameka.
As a mother, I can’t imagine one month my child dying and the next my last two taken. My heart goes out to Tameka. I have truly lost respect for Usher, I am no longer a fan. To do this to a person out of spite, is horrible. Shame on the judge! Georgia residents do not vote her back in!!
Im sorry–im not feeling STFA’s biased opinion on this..at least look at from both sides. Aww poor Tameka, please! how can you say that when you were dogging her like everybody else before her son died?
Im not an Usher stan but obviously the judge ruled in Usher’s favor for reasons that are in the children’s best interest–not for $$.. We have to look at both sides, not his, and not hers.
And just b/c usher has primary custody does not mean she will not see her children at all. hello! we dont even know what kind of custody arrangment it is so stop this " boo hoo tameka’s kids got torn out of her loving arms never to see them again" bs.
Cold.
He’s the primary parent and the shot caller, so if she doesn’t jump through his hoops she’s endanger of breeching the agreement and grounds for him to seek sole custody later.
I see. Oh he fancy, huh? He better hope nothing happens to those boys while in the custody of those nannies or any of the Village People.
@Tell Da Truth: You are 100% correct in that Usher can’t decide when/how much Tameka sees the children. That will be worked out and LISTED in the parenting plan and custody agreement. Once the lawyers work that out, it will be submitted to the judge to review and sign. Before signing, the judge can send it back for changes or reject it. But once it is signed, BOTH parties are bound to abide by it. If there are any deviations from the agrement, they need to be documented (in writing is best, whether text, email or snail mail) as agreed to by BOTH parties, or that will be grounds for a contempt charge on the violating parent. And trust me, as a father who went thru this and now has custody of his child, these contempt charges can hurt you (or in my case, my child’s mother).
I’m not siding with Usher (I’m not a fan of his and have always felt he was a talented entertainer but phony), but all of this "He’s a no good so & so for doing this…" and "No mother deserves…" is just some BS! Sometimes judges think that the father will be the better parent for the children.
As a Mother I sympathize with her. This is too much for her. I don’t know what went on and I’m not going to sit here and speculate either. Children need both of their parents and I pray they get this all the way together for their beautiful kids sake.
None of the people involved in this case could care less about you or your opinion. Worry about your trails and tribulations and leave other people issues alone. Get a life. Anyone who pays this much attention to a celebrity case must not have a lot going on in their lives.
And you’re here commenting on the same blog and comments we are why?
Go stand in the corner and think about that for a minute. Pointy cap optional.
……I’ve had 2 make that SAME point 2 some bloggers…..
EXACTLY @STLchick! Would you say it again?! Folks crazy as hell talking about what YOU commenting on and how YOU have no life when they are READING it and COMMENTING/RESPONDING themselves!!! Keyboard thugs are the funniest people I know…talking about get a life. My response… I have a life and at the moment it involves… CHECKING YOU!!! hahahaha
IKR, this is something like a hobby during my down time until I learn how to crochet or something. However, I must admit it can be somewhat addictive.
Can’t it, though? I honestly enjoy reading other people’s point of view. Even if they disagree,sometimes they make a point that’s valid, that I never considered before.
That is, of course, when they make sense. Some people are simply too close-minded and judgemental to have a mature conversation, resorting to lil’ digs. Of course, that’s the world we live in. I wish they would start teaching anger management/manners in the school, at a young age. Maybe it will halt all the bullying. Child bullies become adult bullies, but there’s always somebody crazier and more dangerous than you. One day you WILL come across the wrong one.
what is wrong with people? to the people who are "no longer fans" , none of us know what really happened in this case. just a lot of horrible speculation. why is it so wrong for him to want custody? No one knows these people. why base your opinion on someone else’s thoughts on a situation.
why can’t he just love his children. he only has "primary" custody so saying she lost her children is ridiculous.people are always quick to believe something bad.for the people saying how could they take them if she wasn’t proven to be unfit, well that’s the thing she wasn’t proven to be "unfit" because if she was they wouldn’t have joint custody, he would have "full". they would completely take them away from you if you were an unfit parent,but they didn’t take them.this started long before the accident with her son happened. I have sympathy for her but this case has nothing to do with the accident. If the accident didn’t happen would you still feel the same way?
this should be a lesson to all these cunt ass women who think keeping children away from their father. you not too shy to ask for child support and to make a man look bad, but when he fights back for rights to see his kids, the same nigga that knocked you up and you wanna play lil’girl by keeping a child or children away? GOOD FOR YOUR DUMB ASS-
xoxo
Men shouldn’t have to fight to see their own damn kids.
shiat*
Also!
I’m sincerely not trying to be mean but her son dying should have been a better reason for usher to see his kids.
R.I.P to that boy.
She’s a sad excuse of a mother.
The end.
No disrespect to your opinion, but her losing her child is LESS reason for Usher to take two more. Don’t get that one at all.
I’m sorry dear,
She just lost a child, who knows if the father to that boy who passed was also not able to see his father or whatever the case is. It’s not ok for Females to do this. If the tables was turnt hell would break loose and the sorrows, sympathy and any excuse in the book for a female to go off and she wins. She needs to work on not having anymore children with anyone. She’s morally lost that right. Mirena is awesome by the way!
Still missing the point, but at least you tried to explain it without being insulting or going ham ; )
THAT is how you disagree without being disagreeable.
All he wanted was more daddy time and he got it
I believe he wanted control…and yes he got that also.
What an Evil judge knowing full well that the awarding of a Sak’s credit card was in exchange for Tameka’s two sons. Now Usher get’s to have one of his many girlfriends Tameka despises to help him raise his son’s instead of their own devoted mother. I think all women had better take note of having children by celebrity men with money, because once the relationship ends he could very well walk away with your child leaving you wondering what the hell just happened! This is a devastating blow for Tameka and I empathize with her and her other children,but hopefully she won’t SNAP however; if she does I will understand and write her letters in prison.
She still has joint custody.
hopefully she won’t SNAP however; if she does I will understand…
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Okay? lol. I had a dream about UsHER 2 wks ago, and it wasn’t a good one. He may have lost me as a fan, but I would never want to see any harm come to him and I don’t want his sons to lose him as a father. I pray that Tameka doesn’t lose it. It’s only so much any person can bear. I pray for some peace between the two, and that UsHER doesn’t abuse his new authority.
Death dreams always creep me out. Ugh.
Death dreams are the worse. You honestly just said a mouthful though…if Tameka’s mental state is the way they would like us to believe then I hope she has the right people around her, supporting, her and keeping her encouraged. People want to yell this is Karma…this ISH aint Karma this is the DEVIL working to steal, kill and destroy. We have to learn how to recognize the difference. This woman has a spiritual attack on her life and for those of us that do pray we need to keep her lifted up. I wish someone could get her to close her twitter account (not for the reasons folks claim) and stay off the internet. I would hate for her to read something based off of pure hatred and ignorance and just snap. She goes on vacation and her son ultimately dies…sad part is we dont know what her last interaction with Kile was like, was it a kiss, was she fussing for him to clean his room who knows. Her children God-mother testifies against her which we see the results of the case…I just hope that while there are some foolish enough to rejoice in her pain that for those of us that know better do better and pray her through.
This is a sad day indeed. Not just because of this situation but because many of you seem in favor of little boys being taken from their mother (although I don’t think that is what this court order really means) Why is it that we are so used to having one parent around that we cheer when we hear of two ADULTS not being able to parent together and raise their kids together to be productive adults. I have even witnessed one blogger recently attempt to befriend Tameka on twitter and the minute this information came out posted how "women" shouldn’t be raising little boys anyway…really?! I grieve for our culture and the disrespect and hatred we display towards each other, I grieve for the ignorance that we display when someone disagrees with us, I grieve for the way we speak to each other, I grieve for the lies that some of you have “heard” from different “sources” and painted a picture of a woman that you don’t even know…I grieve for the fact that you keep repeating these lies and making them YOUR truth. Remember if repeated enough even the author of a lie will believe it to be fact…
I have heard the following recently about Tameka –
“She don’t deserve to have her kids because she crazy” —but where is the documentation that her being “crazy” has harmed her kids also would she have NOT been crazy when Usher was dating her, married her and had kids with her?
“She don’t deserve to have her kids because she is a gold digger”…say what?!
“Well…she left her FAMILY and ran off with Usher and I know for a FACT cause KANDI said it!!”—I believe she was separated from her husband, how can you run off and leave someone you are not with? I have also seen where she has joint custody with Ryan Sr.
“Well if she was a good mother her son would not have died”—I’ll let you ponder that one
“She NEVER posted pics of her other kids just Ushers because they were money makers”—I actually know for a fact this is a lie
“She crazy because she blocked me on twitter”—hahahaha…sounds smart to me!
“She was on twitter begging for money while her son was in the hospital”—another lie
“She kept her kids from Usher” –Considering ALL the photos that Usher make sure to display in the media of him being a "loving" father I find that to be highly unlikely. Remember Tameka never had a problem with the joint custody agreement that they had. So no I don’t believe for one bit that she kept those boys from their father.
This is a direct quote from another blog
“Oh and let’s not forget that this is the same lady that sat in a court room during this custody battle and laughed while eating popcorn from her purse as Usher gave a tearful testimony about how Tameka attacked his girlfriend because she was in the car when he came to get his kids.”—now yall know good and well this woman was NOT in no court room eating popcorn from her PURSE while dude was crying!!!!lol
None of these reasons would justify her not being deserving to be a mother to her kids full-time. Could there be some psychological issues she is dealing with…sure. BUT I can promise you that having to deal with some of the things that she has had to deal with (prior to her sons death) would send many people over the edge, INCLUDING the way the blogs and media treated her and NO she is not innocent in the media madness either. Now that she is dealing with losing her son she needs time to heal and lots of prayers. The disrespect needs to stop didn’t your mothers and /or fathers teach you if you cant say nothing nice then don’t say anything at all? Many of you don’t even know what it takes to be a good mother or father but you have all the answers. Usher needs to man up and realize that he cant just X her out of those boys lives…should have thought about that before he created those kids with her…he should still be able to lead and guide these relationships so that the KIDS come first especially since he is the “normal one” *side eye. A good father would never want to take his kids from their mother unless there was abuse present. A good father would respect his kids mother and not bring a woman to her house for fear that it would send the wrong message to the CHILDREN. A good father would try to keep the peace with his children mother no matter what because his kids come first. A good father would care about the well-being of his children mother ESPECIALLY when the kids are in her care. A good father would recognize that he cant teach his kids everything and there are some lessons that should come from mom…not a girlfriend or a nanny. A good father and real man don’t need the court to decide and dictate to him how he should parent his children. He understands that his kids should come first and that will mean sacrifice. No one tried to snatch him from his mother as a child…the same woman he adores but rammed his car into hers while she was sitting in it… the same woman he calls a mother fu$ker!!! His lack of respect for WOMEN is very clear and I have no problem calling it like it is. It is my prayer that ALL parties involved will get it together as I feel they both have issues and maybe Usher should start addressing with himself why he couldn’t take a drug test…My thoughts and opinion and I own it.
*waving my church fan in your direction*
YOU BETTA PPPRRRREEEEEEAAAAAACCCCCCCCHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!
Damnnnn Vay, can I get a college recommendation letter from you STAT!
lol I know I’m long winded!
Usher’s mother created the Narcissistic tendencies in him by over indulging him as a child, constantly reminding him of his greatness and that the world was his and together as his Momager by his side they would go out there and conquer it together by him becoming a Superstar. His father wasn’t there and so what sweet revenge than to become a star and show the absentee parent how lovable you are to millions & that they’re missing out on knowing you by becoming a filthy success. No, no one ever snatched him away from his mother, but over the years he’s secretly wished his father had done just that! Now I don’t know if that was Usher Raymond the III or Ben Vereen(alleged daddy) that he prayed would take him from under his mothers controlling spell,but unfortunately his rescue came in the form of another controlling female Tameka who he now resents the hell out of! If Usher attempts to erase Tameka from the boys lives he won’t know the detrimental effects of his actions on them until much later on,but as a self absorbed,self indulged personality type he won’t even care.
*pulling out that church fan again*
Girl, you preachin’ too! Great synopsis.
Preach!!
Preach! Praying for Tameka nightly!
My stomach really dropped when I read this. This is just so sad. I really feel for Tameka.
My heart goes out to Tameka because she’s still grieving over the loss of her son. Again, we don’t know the whole truth about their situation. If Tameka was a bad parent, why didn’t Mr. Glover take his kids away from her? Usher has the money and resources to make Tameka look bad as a parent. If Tameka has the recordings she needs to release them IMMEDIATELY so the world can really know the real USHER RAYMOND. Usher is not a SAINT. I’m sure, the truth will come out.
So very true. Usher has the money, resources AND a PR team to make him look anyway he desire that is the part that I think most people miss. We dont know the whole truth and probably never will. One thing is for certain the Devil is having a field day with these kids lives and I hope that they both have people smart enough in their camps to get to praying.
Well, the judge has ruled…I think she made the right decision…I wish Tameka, Usher, and those children well…I’m sure Usher will come 2 a reasonable agreement with Tameka regarding her time with the kids…on the flip side of that coin had Tameka been granted custody she probably would NEVER let Usher see those children…they would have been her "Weapons of Revenge" 2 use against him 2 get back at him for whatever he’s done that she doesn’t like….say what you want but Tamkea’s past behavior makes her seem like a spiteful, vengeful, hell raising person…..Tameka’s lawyers didn’t prove that Usher was a bad father, the same way his lawyers didn’t prove she was a bad mother….he has as much right 2 raise those kids as she has….I don’t think $$ had any thing 2 do with the outcome…..women need 2 stop thinking that they have more rights 2 children that their fathers have….Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned & Tameka would have demonstrated that had she been awarded parental control of those children…..
Just because you have money doesn’t mean you can win a custody case. Ask Tom Cruise. He’s got all the money in the world, more money than Katie Holmes, and he didn’t stand a chance getting custody of his child. Tameka’s criminal past probably played a part in her losing custody. She also may have done some things in the marriage that were used against her. Why is it sad that he got custody of his own kids? I’ve never really been a big Usher fan (I don’t have any of his cd’s, lol), but he always seemed like a reasonable guy to me and I do see him as the more fit parent. Whereas with Tameka, there were always too many red flags about her from the very beginning: a criminal record, a previous marriage, already had children, she was an older nobody marrying a younger somebody, Usher’s mom didn’t like her, etc. They were never a match. I thought Usher was doing her a favor by even looking her way. And when your family doesn’t like who you are marrying, it never works.
With all due respect your red flags that you saw against Tameka has NOTHING to do with what type of mother she was/is and that is the real issue right? I have YET to see or read any court document that deemed her unfit. I really dont think that is was sad for him to have custody I think that it is sad that he #1 have "possible" connections to the judge that would make losing the case impossible and #2 it seems that his intent is to control EVERYTHING involving the kids including making it very difficult for Tameka to see her kids. Also may I point out Usher has just as many "red flags" against him but for some reason people seem to want to sweep those UNDER the rug so that Tameka’s can be displayed for the world to see. This case and outcome is a travesty of justice and I dont like it at all.
She has a criminal record. That means she can’t be trusted. No trust = unfit.
Actually just b/c someone has a criminal record in itself doesn’t make them unfit…it depends on what they did, how long ago, and their overall history….I don’t know about Tameka’s criminal record but it seems she has certainly done things that make her seem like she is a bit "Emotionally Unstable"….there were definitely BRIGHT red flags there….and to me it didn’t seem as if Usher was trying 2 prove her unfit so much as just trying 2 get his kids….
@ It’s her business…1991 (20 days in jail) and the 1980′s (community service)both of which I am sure are expunged by now…you live and you learn. I know folks with MUCH longer records, more recent criminal activity and they have full custody of thier kids. Doesnt make her unfit by any means. Stupid at one point in time…sure and honestly it depends on what she did. One of them I hear was for stealing diapers, not sure how true that is but ummmmmmmm sometime it be like that! Keep in mind I have been employed since 16 and have never had to steal anything nor have I ever been to jail but I do understand everyones past is different and I cant judge especially since I wasnt there.
One of her offenses was welfare fraud. And that is big time thievin’. Anyone bold enough to steal from the government is sophisticated and well seasoned in shadiness.
@ Lady A and Vay ^^^^^^^^^^^ forgot to put your names.
@It’s her Business….Now i didn’t know that…yeah, it sounds like she is definitely well seasoned in being a CROOK…..any married woman who would leave her kids & husband 4 another man is trifling anyway….dead wrong….I’m glad Usher got those kids 4 whatever reason…Tameka thought she was going 2 live off of child support payments 4 the next however many years while trying 2 bleed Usher dry & make his life miserable all she could, that’s why she wanted those kids so bad…it was her way of maintaining control of Usher….this should be a lesson 2 all high & low profile gold diggers…..if she would defraud the gov’t she can’t be trusted & she is not that smart b/c eventually they gonna catch on….the same way Usher caught on 2 her gold digging behind….I know he loves his kids but wishes he would have never married this woman…..she needs counseling for her emotional instability & she needs a better attorney…she seems like a nasty, spiteful, bitter woman all around…..the judge saw something that made her rule the way she did….
@It’s her business…sounds like it dont it BUT it’s not that hard to commit that type of crime and get away with it for some time…most cases it eventually catches up to you. Let me point out this could be something as simple as receiving a check in a higher amount then what you were promised and didnt report it, claiming you take care of someone else to increase your benefits, or flat out tapping into the system and stealing a whole bunch of checks (which is highly unlikely).Hell she could have even been set up and lied on (happens all the time) It really seems that some people just want to hate this woman and if that is the case cool…I will let it go…pointless convo. BUT I cannot and will not hold a "crime" that took place OVER 21 years ago over ANYONES head just for the sake of having negative feelings towards someone. Having your record expunged means it is NO longer present after so many years so some of you are holding on to a "crime" that no longer shows up on her record which cracks me up. Judge Mathis is an admitted felon and people LOVE him…and rightfully so. He made a wrong, got his life together and NOW is a husband, father, has a TV show and people love him. No one is saying "oh he cant be trusted because in 1808 he sold drugs!" lol At some point even "criminals" deserve rehabilitation and the right to get it right some have to do this in jail but many dont. When it is all said and done I still go back to my original point NONE of your red flag (including this one) would make her a bad mother. …stupid (maybe)
Look at your perfect self sitting up trying to play like you God…Fact is you don’t know ish about Tameka,you just hate the woman because usher married her.
I also want to say there are many criminals that don’t have a record including many that go around judging other people….
Can’t compare these two cases, Tom cruise didn’t stand a chance at custody of his daughter,because Katie’s father is an established Attorney in his own right who was quietly helping his abused miserable daughter prepare for her escape without her husbands knowledge. Tom Cruise admitted that he was blindsided by his ex wife’s filing of divorce now in that case; I DEFINITELY believe there are sealed details of Tom’s wrongdoing that the public will never know, but his wife knew all his Scientology and secret society club dealings which she threatened to use against him and that’s why she was able to get away from the marriage without a fight. Katie Holmes came from a very close knit family with siblings and did you know her daughter was NEVER even allowed to meet her own cousins until just recently,because of Tom Cruise? Had Katie not been smarter working her plan and had that father of hers for support she would have lost her child,career mind and probably her life to,because Tom is connected to people that can easily Houdini you and Katie didn’t like living in fear! How ironic is it that a Black Female judge took away Tameka’s children? We NEVER support each other as women,NEVER! What Katie is a hero for running off with little Suri & Tameka is a villain for protecting her boys?
I think she would have gotten custody without her father because Tom is too whacked out in Scientology for any judge to award him custody. Especially since he was talking about shipping Suri off on a Scientology school boat for years at a time. Tom is mentally unstable. Katie may have not have came up with such a brilliant plan if she did not work with her father, and Tom would have given her a struggle, but Tom knows that Scientology stuff is way too weird to the rest of the world and no judge would grant him custody knowing what his extreme Scientology plans were for the child. He was able to get his oldest two from Nicole Kidman, but supposedly she gave up custody cause she was too afraid not to due to Scientology. When Tom took the two oldest, he wasn’t seen as whacked out back then as he is now.
Tom Cruise didn’t contest having custody. Katie got to keep her daughter so that she will keep silent about the inner working of Scientology and certain aspects of her marriage. Their divorce was finalized very shortly after Katie filling for divorce, almost as soon as it was announced it was over. Something was definitely “not right in Denmark”
Exactly lol. Katie knows too much, plain and simple.
She should have stuck to child-rearing issues instead of fighting for saks card, etc..
…..Yep….you said a mouthful there…..
She aint done with Usher yet because I just saw on her twitter that she will appeal.
GREAT! And I hope she plays that damn recording in court.
I do too and I hope she bring up the connection between the judge and the Usher’s lawyer….
Cue R. Kelly -When A Womans Fed Up
I’m justtrying to figure out what she did to lose her children. I can’t find an ounce of evidence to prove she’s neglectful. Say whatever you want to say about her,but she’s a damn good mother. For ALL of you who say she deserves to have her children taken away,tell me why. Don’t come with the foolishness about her going on vacation because Kile was with his dad which is why she went on vacation. Don’t tell me she’s a gold digger because she has had her own career throughout all of this. Give me something that pin points to her neglecting her children. Don’t tell me about her wanting to slap the shit outof Grace and her "friend"that testified against her. Because lets all be honest here, we would’ve done the same thing or something remotly close to it. Tell me why her children were taken away from her as far as neglect.. I have seen crack heads get their children back and in some cases, they never have their children taken away from them.All of y’llteam Usher kids are really pissingme off. Where are the facts? Give me at least one! Were they dirty,hungry,abused and/or neglected in any way? Think before you respond. And when you come up with nothing (you will come up with nothing),ask yourself,how would you feel if you were in her shoes? She just had her children taken from her without any evidence she’s done anything wrong. Money talks and Usher paid his way through this one.
I totally agree with you! Last week, a drug addict woman decapitated her son. Why did the state of NJ allow this woman to have her son back?!However, Tameka loses custody of her two children. That’s crazy
Sam…the short answer is THEY dont have an answer. The sad part is most of the hateful things that are posted are lies. I hate to say it but I feel the hatred for this woman started because of her looks…she didnt "look" good enough for Usher according to the media, his family and his fans. Many were in love with him and Chili NOT because she was a good person but because "they looked good together". Our society is jacked up and many are too ignorant to even know it. And yes I to am waiting to hear what she did so wrong and neglectful to not deserve to have primary custody of her kids.
Vay, you gets the head nod from me. Black people are so hung up on looks…the hair, the nails, the clothes. Who the hell would buy a $15,000 purse? But look at those fools on HWOA. Sheree was carrying something on her shoulder that most people pay for their transportation, and she was struggling. But as long as she looked good, I guess was her thought. It’s unfortunate the things we put emphasis on. My friend & I talk about this all the time. You see older white folk wearing clothes from the 80′s and driving a beat up car, but they live in a huge paid for house filled with antiques, and when they die actually have something to leave to their offspring. Some black people are waking up. Can’t wait til we all get there together.
Yeah, she has had her own career but she claims she needs Usher’s Saks card 2 run the business she had BEFORE they met….so how was she getting her stuff b4 she married him??…this is about Usher’s $$$ & resources she feels she should still have access 2….she’s a career criminal anyway…I’m sure the IRS is eventually gonna do some kind of audit & have a field day with stuff like using your (EX husbands) PERSONAL discount card 2 buy things for your BUSINESS…how is that being reported???…that sounds shady from a tax standpoint but then again Tameka has seemed shady from the very beginning…..this is a time where he should have just listened 2 his mom and left that woman alone….goodbye and good riddance…..I feel 4 men who accidentally attach themselves 2 woman who act like her…..
You said all of that to say what exactly? Your entire comment was based how how you feel about this woman. I’m guessing you were never married and if you were,you’re probably one of those "hoodrat,ride or die chicks". In my comment, I asked for facts. I also requested for anyone not to come with any foolishness regarding the card. The facts are still not there.How was she an unfit mother? Were they dirty,hungry or abused in any way? I would also like to know what college you attended to have your "tax audit" degree,being as though you could predict what the IRS is about to do to her.I’m sorry,I laughed at you. I even had to call my friend and read your comment to her. You know so much and yet know nothing. Using numbers instead of words,yeah that says a lot about you. Make sure you remember to put money on your man’s books and I’m sure there is a man or two who feels the same way about you that you feel about Tameka.Your comment is going to have me laughing all day. Now let me go look in the urban dictionary for the word ratchet,so I could see what you look like.
Sam I am getting ready to post something to you and some of the other folks…be on the look out. I am currently reading the court docs now and honestly the agreement dont seem that bad to me…
@ Sam…I don’t care if U laugh all day AND night…& you can call everybody in ur Rolodex, Contact’s list, Facebook, high school yearbook, etc….I still wouldn’t give a dxxx…I think U need 2 look up the word axxhole or just look in the mirror but that’s just my opinion, I don’t have facts 2 back that up, only my observation from your wack axx post…i’m amused @ UR pathetic attempt 2 call someone out…trust me you don’t have enough words in your lexicon 2 have an intelligent conversation with me but that’s not really needed 4 a blog now is it??? I wouldn’t know anything about a hoodrat, ride or die, etx…but I’m sure YOU know all about such classless, tasteless things….that was an example, and the IRS is getting everybody with $$ these days….her purpose 4 using a personal card 4 business purposes is a cat that should not have been let out of the bag but stupid things happen when one is making decisions based on emotion instead of reason…I’m a small business owner so I know a little about business taxes and how murky it gets when you mix business w/ the personal stuff….and exactly how was Usher deemed an an unfit parent…that’s right he WASN’T and neither was she…no one’s point was proven here and YOUR opinion daxx sure don’t reign supreme over anyone else’s SWEETIE…contrary 2 what U obviously think….Now "Runtelldat" & keep laughing while U do it…if you can walk & chew gum @ the same time that is…..if you are a woman or man scorned by being left in the dust, which that’s what it sounds like, i’m sorry but that’s something I can’t speak on…..you can go find someone else 2 harass…I’m not the one & it ain’t that serious…and I didn’t reply 2 ur axx in the first so I don’t know Y u saying shxx 2 me anyway…we can agree 2 disagree & keep it movin…..
Welp… I sure hope she’s spending time packing and preparing to move instead of "twatchin" (which is tweet watching) because Usher is going to sell that house. You know damn well she’s still lookin on twitter to see what people are saying about her. And I know she has egg on her face when she seen BUSTA Rhymes and D Wade congratulate Usher on his victory. Lmao she ain’t laughing and talkin shit now. I wonder how Ush is gonna decorate the boys’ room at their new home. Haha. And for people to keep saying she’s gonna appeal, good luck with that. That takes time and money that she doesn’t have. She better be searching for a damn apartment.
Actually I dont think Tameka will be going anywhere any time soon unless USHER pays for it…lol *popping your celebration balloons
Lmao well you can continue to be as much in denial as he is cuz guess what.. He’s selling the house in Roswell. The only reason she was allowed to reside there was because his children were there. Now that they are living with him, he’s selling that house. You can wipe the egg off your face as well. Lmfao. She will have to find her OWN place that SHE will have to pay for.
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Real_ish let’s first be clear. I dont mind having a REAL conversation with you but my patients for folks talking stupid is -0 so IF you can handle having a normal conversation…cool…let’t talk if not- that’s cool to I just wont waste any energy on you. There will be no egg wipping lol or name calling…
After looking at the actual court documents the kids will still be with Tameka just as much as they were before she still has joint custody so it appears that Usher will still be paying child support and definately still paying for Tameka’s nanny. There is no judge that will have her homeless when she has to maintain a home for her kids. Had Usher got FULL custody like he wanted…total different story. Primary custody has more to do with the kids school, Dr visits etc. Tameka still has parental rights as he was not able to prove her to be unfit.
Dont know anything about the house and although I read something about this on another blog I personally dont believe stuff until I can see it for myself in a factual document.
I don’t see where he snatched the kids away. She was the one who started the custody battle by asking for full custody instead of the joint custody they shared. She seemed to be the not so sane one throughout the entire situation and she was more mad about her credit cards being cut off not about her childrens well-being. What’s wrong with America is that everyone believes the mother bared the children so she should hae primery care in any situation and that is not true.
Of course them being celebrities we only know what we see and hear. However, I see a man that took a break from his career to concentrate on his wife and family to only be betrayed and dragged through the mud in the end. The judge made the best decision to me and that’s just my opinion.
Ro with all due respect what is REALLY wrong with America is that we pass judgement on people without knowing the facts. I encourage you to research this specific situation and then draw your conclusion as you see fit.
Yes, and Ro it’s been said time and time again that Usher instigated full custody first. That much is certain.
Dammit! Sam, I didn’t see you there…could’ve saved myself another post lol. Sorry, Ro.
Ro,what case are you talking about? Usher is the one who took Tameka for full custody. Tameka didn’t take Usher. She was fine with joint custody.People need to get it together. Study the case before you comment on it. Also,she will have enough money to appeal the case. Starting with my friends and I,we are sending money towards her legal fees. The appeal may take some time,but it’s worth it in the end.
Ro, you sound stupid as your name, Usher file for Custody against her, not the other way around. She was fine with Joint hs the bitch that wants the apron tied on. He is a fag thru and thru… i heard Busta congratulated him on Twitter another faggot. Love connection maybe?
Sh*t, Busta need to go somewhere and treat his outbreak.
how did u know?were u in their life?o u know Tamika or usher?bitch next time u open ur stinking as mouth to talk about someone make sure u saw it with ur two eyes.
Are YOU in their life? Judging how you spelled her name, I know you’re not in hers.
*STLchick, Sam, NewMeKnowYou and anyone else with a positive MIND lol on this matter…Gonna be a long one…
***Michelle I am sure you are going to do a post on this so I hope you can shed more light on this matter as you have been right on the money so far!** I so appreciate you and your TRUTHFUL coverage.**
OK…looking at the most recent court documents and I honestly don’t think that there is anything wrong with what the Judge ordered…I can say Usher definitely did NOT get what he wanted and neither did Tameka. They are actually going to have to “parent” these kids together. WHOMEVER suggested to Usher to do this really just got a slap in the face because now he HAS to communicate with her and she HAS to communicate with him. It’s almost like the Judge has divided the kids in the sandbox and is making them play nice. I am actually reading this and sort of sad that a judge would have to break down parenting to every detail. Based on this order there is no way he could pretend like she don’t exist . HE may be the one to feel compelled to appeal after all…lol
If you all can, look at the documents on the hip hop site *Michelle posted the link in the other post about Usher* and see what I am missing. Here is my take…
Yes Usher has been awarded primary custody which means he is the final decision maker BUT he has always had that role even in the original order and he also must discuss these matters with Tameka. They are still encouraged to coordinate all activities together but are not required to- so if Tameka enrolls them in a program she doesn’t have to wait for Usher approval to do so. Likewise if the program overlaps into Ushers parenting time he will not have to keep them in the program and vice versa. They must communicate a weekly schedule with each other via email. The email is to ONLY be about the activities and should not discuss anything else, a separate email will need to be sent for schedule changes. The other parent MUST respond that they received the email. If the children/child gets hurt while in the other parents care they must notify the other parent immediately this include colds, fevers etc.*Both Usher and Tameka are guilty of not doing this in the past. When not in one parents care that parent can have a daily phone call or skype with each child. They no longer have to be in agreement about which nanny they will each hire. Upon hiring a nanny they will have to provide a resume to the other parent and contact info *the other parent can ONLY contact the other person nanny to see where the kids are IF the kids are in the care of the nanny…so Tameka can’t just call Ushers nanny to “see how the kids are” etc and Usher can’t so it either. If Tameka decides to have a nanny she may do so and Usher will have to pay an agreed amount to that nanny. Usher will have to provide a monthly lump sum for the payment of the nanny that Tameka hires for the kids and he will not be able to approve of this person prior to hiring. They can also hire a “family nanny” that will simply travel back and forth with the boys regardless to which parent they are with. *If I were Tameka I would NOT trust this option. lol Usher will have to provide Tameka with his travel schedule and keep it updated so that she knows when he is traveling and out of the country. If either parent travels with the kids they BOTH must provide the other parent with all travel info…including hotel, flight number and any alias that may be used during check in at the hotel. So Usher cannot just hop on a flight with the boys without Tameka’s knowledge. If either one of them decide to move they must give the other parent a 30 notice including the new address and phone number. Usher will be the primary holder of the boys passports if Tameka request to have the passports he must turn them over within 7 days of the scheduled departure. Neither one of them can speak negatively about the other parent in the presence of the kids and both parents can have access to all documents pertaining to the kids…school, medical etc. Starting in Oct they both must meet monthy with a family co-parenting coordinator to discuss a school plan, activities for the kids etc. It seems that the visitation will remain the same (I think) Tameka will have the boys every 1,3 and 5 weekend of the month from Wednesday – Sunday. On the weeks that she don’t have them she can get them for dinner on Wed. During the summer they will switch to an every other week schedule. This schedule will change when each child turns 8 to something a little different. There is another date scheduled in Sept which will probably discuss the increase in child support that Tameka is requesting and any financial changes Usher requested. I do believe Usher will still have to pay child support not sure if the amount will be changed. Somewhere I read about the house and Usher wanting to sell it…not sure if that is true or not. I actually feel like this court order is child focused but baby one slip up on either persons part and I am sure they will be right back in court…
*See what happens when my little one takes a nap…mama gets bored and start researching ish. lol
Thanks Vay! I read your entire piece! You need a blog of your own! If this is the case,I agree with the judge. Lets just hope with all of that communication these two don’t start back sleeping together! The judge should of also ordered weekly counseling sessions for the two of them. It doesn’t have to be together,but these two need help.
Yes, Sam, they do. And there is nothing worse than a parent who talks badly about the other parent in the presence of the kids. A damn shame she even had to put that in writing.
No thanks needed Sam! The thought of her losing her kids was messing with my spirit. I totally agree they do need counseling BIG time. They both have done some crazy stuff to each other and at times neither one had the kids best interest at heart. PLUS Tameka will need plenty of help trying to heal and sort though everything involving Kile. I’m going to continue to pray for them because it seemed like the more hatred I saw towards this woman the harder I HAD to pray for this situation.
Oh and having a blog is soooooooo not for me!!! lol Girl some of the disrespect that I see on these boards..whew baby!!
Vay, I like your take on this no one should have any other questions this was thourough enough..and yes the disresepect by the gangsta typists are past unnecessary..
Yes, 2bme, it is beyond rediculous. If I was Michelle and they said that crap about me, I’d be booting them left and right.
I also read the docs and felt better about it assuming usher acts like a mature adult and doesn’t give her a hard time, same for her. It also sounded like the kids get to stay w/her during his tour from feb to march but I’m not competely sure.
I also saw that they have to go back to court in September, wonder what that’s about
@Janet I couldnt figure the tour thing out either BUT this Judge actually is smarter then they give her credit for notice 99.9% of their communication is to be done through email…documentation! She even specifically stated how they should title the email lol. She will probably request progress reports from the co-parenting meetings they have to attend. If anyone of them come back yelling about the other one I can promise she is going to want access to those emails. They both better cover their butts from here on out. I dont care if those boys break a NAIL "Ush Litle Ush broke a nail at 4:49 p.m. no medical care needed." lol The only thing that I saw in regards to Sept (other then the date) is determining how much he will pay Tameka for her nanny (if they cant agree on an amount) on that date. I wonder if that is when her request for the child support increase will be addressed. Unless her expenses have increased for the boys she needs to sit down and thank GOD he didnt get FULL custody!! lol
I agree! The judge is making them both work together even if it’s only by email so in a sense he didn’t really "win" other than that they live with him now. Well he does get to call the shots but I’m praying that he is mature about it. You’re probably right about the sept thing, by the time I got to the end my eyes were crossing lol.
The only thing I didn’t like was that if mothers day falls during his time she has to travel to him to see the kids,BUT it doesn’t sound like she is responsible for and other travel arrangements
I wouldn’t want to be in her position especially being a mother myself, but it sounds like she still gets ample time with them and the judge is making it almost impossible for usher to leave her out which was my fear from the beginning
thanks Vay, seems as if the agreement just outline details that co-parenting entails. Once again thanks for your efforts in clarifying this situation and your toddler takes some mean naps
I would have had more respect for usher if he just taken her to court because he wanted the boys to live with him. Not saying tameka was an angel in all of this but she was bitter and she probably did make it hard for him at times, I know because I’ve been there before. What he tried to do was competely erase her from their lives by seeking SOLE physical and legal custody. And women are basically saying she desrved to not see her kids just because the dont like her attitude. but All he got was primary in the end.
He married her and talked about how she was his best friend so at one point HE thought she was a good mother
So now that it didn’t work out and he got himself a new girlfriend he wants to pretend tameka isn’t their mother???
FYI I was a fan of his since the beginning of his career, but right is right and wrong is wrong
I feel the same way. I haven’t written UsHER off completely…not yet. He’s just in the dog house right now lol. This may be a humbling experience for BOTH of them. Hopefully they can proceed together and be the parents these boys need.
? is, will the boys go the Europe next year? This seems to be what spearheaded this whole thing.
On second thought, he’s going to be in that dog house with me a long time (I was being too generous there lol). My opinion of him as a person has admittedly worsened since I got a peek behind the curtain. I’m just disappointed in him as a fan (I think we ALL are fans on some level…or were, to have such passionate opinions about the topic). He’s still an undeniable talent, though, and if he gets back to making good music, I might buy another CD. MIGHT. I haven’t gotten to that R. Kelly point YET.
Well ladies, this has been an interesting thread. I have to go fight my hair now (natural people don’t wash their hair, the fight with it lol) and get ready for the True Blood finale. And yes, I’ll STILL be doing my hair while it’s on lol.
Yasss! I’m natural too and I’m on a break to rest my arms right now. It took 2 hours to do the wash and condition…. Between me and my dauhters hair it’s crazy on Sunday’s lol
I agree about his music, I won’t go as far to say I’ll never buy his music again but he is in the dog house lol
From the docs I read it said that during his tour from feb to march the orignal 09 agreement shall be enforced and that she should not be compelled to travel during that time due to his schedule ( or something of that nature). So I took it to mean she gets the boys during that time
Nope,Usher lost a fan right here. It’s not that he took her to court,because he probably felt in his heart that he had to do it.However, he shouldn’t of played dirty like he did. He paid her friend and then hired a private investigator to play off her feelings regarding Kile. He was already on thin ice with me when he wrote," I’m ready to sign them papers". Then to find out,they were still sleeping together after that, made matter worse. He bashed the mother of his children and that’s just not right. He played too dirty for me. I too have to go and wash my hair. I’m not natural,but I do my hair every Sunday evening for the week.
Sam I’m sorry to say this but maybe u wasn’t Usher real fan in the first place.if u were his real Fan, u would have stand by him no matter what he does. if Usher was ur son will u stop loving him because he offended someone. don’t act like u never wrong someone cause we all did it before. Usher been in the game for 20 years and this is his first time getting caught up in mess.
I could stand by a lot of things, but not this. Maybe you’re right. Maybe I wasn’t a "real" fan.I have wronged people in the past and no I am not perfect. However, the way Usher did this is just too much.Thye both have their flaws, don’t get me wrong. Usher just went a little too dirty with his. I think the PI thing is just not sitting right with me.
Sam,never apologize for not drinking the kool aid.
SAM, thats’ a good point, and that continues to nag at me as well.
SFTA, you are such a one sided B! If Tameka had won, you’d be on here giving her high 5′s right? NONE of us know what truly happened. I wasn’t a fan for either of them acting like a plum fool! And any woman acting a fool because the man she USE to be with no longer wants her and has moved on, well, maybe she deserves to be called unstable! You are NOT an unbiased writer which is why you suck!
Why are you reading someone who sucks? Just asking.
WOW 438 comments, SFTA is getting popular by the day
Tameka needs to appeal. That is all.
In my opinion, this has nothing to do with money, but who can make the best decisions for the children. I don’t mean for this to be harsh, but her son was fatally injured in an accident while in her care. Enough said in my book. Accidents happen, but I wouldn’t feel comfortable leaving my children with someone after this has happened to their own child. Would you?
Tameka knew what he was capable of. She was laughing when she was putting a wedge between him and his mother all those years ago when she didn’t approve of their relationship. Karma; another older lady……a man who chooses you over his mother may not treat you well either. IJS
He was in his FATHER’S care during the accident dear. How do you not know that by now?
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