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Don’t Shoot The Messenger: TFGR Explains Being Black in America
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Finally…someone listened to me! Tameka Foster Glover Raymond recently decided to prove me wrong and show that she is indeed smart enough to write a blog. Meka stepped into the shoes of those she most despises (i.e. the bloggers) and The Huffington Post gave her a forum to debate the history of dark skinned vs. light skinned African Americans. While the message in the post is pertinent, it gets totally lost from the messenger.
Reading magazines, social media sites, watching our music videos, and television shows feed our appetites for all things ‘beauty”. Rarely, however do I see depictions of grace and elegance in the form of dark complexioned women.
Tameka is such a sad figure these days and wants your sympathy in whatever way she can get it. Now it’s all WOE is me…love me cause I’m darker than everyone else… gimme a f*ckin break! Let’s not forget how Meka dissed fellow blogger Sandra Rose’s darker skin by calling her burnt cigarette while they argued on Twitter a few months back:
“She mad cause she old, ugly and looks like a burnt cigarette. We go elsewhere for our gossip anyway” ~ Tameka Raymond (Read More)
So now we’re supposed to assume that Tameka Foster Glover Raymond is sensitive to the issue of inter-racial conflicts and an authority on being Black and/or Dark-Skinned in America? As someone who is far from being considered a “red bone,” I’m totally confused as to why Tameka Foster Glover Raymond would choose now to nominate herself as the voice of all dark skinned woman. I, personally, would have chosen more suitable representation. Where’s Gabriel Union, Taraji P. Henson, Michelle Obama? Anyone who doesn’t hate themselves and the color of their own skin.
“In fact, I have read similar comments about myself that I am ‘dark, aggressive, bossy and bitchy.’ It has been stated that my husband should have been with a “younger, more beautiful” woman. Astoundingly, the majority of the remarks come from African-American women and are mimicked by others. Sadly enough, I don’t know nor have I met 99% of those making these assertions. Funny, how we can judge another without having personally seen, interacted with or experienced a person’s character.” ~ Tameka Foster Glover Raymond
I can’t speak for all bloggers who go hard on Tameka but I have personally interacted with her and so have quite a few of my fellow ATLiens. We all stand by what we say so I won’t even bore you by breaking down the entire essay, but here’s the cliff notes version:
Tameka Foster Glover Raymond is a darker-skinned African American woman who compares the color of her skin to other women, specifically the woman Usher has chosen to kick it with right now. Tameka also feels that her darker skin has hindered her in someway from using Usher’s celebrity to be great and now she wants to know what can she do (outside of changing the color of her dark skin) to be loved and accepted by the masses.
Speaking as “a dark skinned African-American woman with features that reflect my ancestry” I must personally acknowledge that I would NEVER use my skin tone in an effort to remain relevant and neither should you Tameka.
ATLien…out!
Question of the day: Would you embrace Tameka Foster Glover Raymond if she was lighter-skinned?
Click Here to read Tameka Foster Glover Raymond’s full blog: “She’s Pretty For A Dark Skinned Girl…”
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Eleven8
August 13, 2009 @ 11:59 amI am a dark skinned also faaaaaar from redbone myself and Tameka does not speak for me..(i see you Margeaux!)
First of all Chilli is the SAME color as Tameka and everyone that she and Usher made a beautiful couple. Do people call Tameka bitchy & abrasive because her skin is dark or do they call her bitchy and abrasive because she is BITCHY AND ABRASIVE? I’m so sick of the boo hoo feel sorry for me because I’m black. That means you are using your beautiful skin as a handicap and THAT it is NOT! Only person that hates Meka’s dark skin is Meka! My skin is not a crutch..in fact I have mostly light skinned friends that I go out with and I don’t have ANY problem getting a man….so Margeaux, pass this message on to Tameka: ***** SIT DOWN!
LeahS.
August 13, 2009 @ 1:42 pmTameka who? Who ******* cares about anything she has to say? She wants to be famous so bad that now it’s her SKIN COLOR that’s holding her back? Please tell me that The Huffington Post printed this as a joke! Cause it’s turning into a BIG ONE!
Would we embrace Tameka Foster Glover Raymond ( ATLien you’re a fool for that one!) if she had light skin, didn’t have to wear a weave and married Usher? Hell no! We would embrace her if she would shut the **** up, be a mother to her kids and stop trying to steal the Spotlight from Usher. It’s clear she hates herself so it’s a self fulfilling prophecy that everyone else will also.
DARKAQUA
August 13, 2009 @ 1:50 pmCHILLI WASN’T LIGHT-SKINNED…POW!!
MrsGrapevine
August 13, 2009 @ 2:46 pmGive me a break is right, when I saw that article on my site, I was upset, but then I was like who cares, she got it twisted if she thinks it’s about color. Like she’s the only brown skin woman who dated a super star. Help me, please help me!!! I feel like I’m in the twilight zone, and I’m about to explode.
sk
August 13, 2009 @ 4:08 pmwhy are you still on her…she is so done and not even relevant. you said what you had to say weeks ago so please move on honey cause you are starting to sound like sandra rose with her wack ***.
blank
August 13, 2009 @ 5:21 pmthey can’t move on because it’s tameka, if it was some one ealse they wouldn’t have anything bad to say,if they will read with understanding they would know that shes’ not saying that people hate her because of her color she said that because that was said to her ,they said why are you dark skin women so mean? now that came from someone who wrote that on her twitter page. and she also said that she fell into the trap of people talking about how she looks,can’t know one say that at one time or another that the words that someone said to them didn’t hurt. if you do you are a lier, she don’t want any one to feel sorry for her this is part of what her charity is about eccepting youself,
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August 15, 2009 @ 4:18 pmWhy the Huffington Post?? What about essence.com, ebony.com or sister2sister.com? White folks don’t care about our intra-racisim.
Attorneymom @ www.charactercorner.blogspot.com
August 15, 2009 @ 4:21 pmSidebar: Did she finally follow her attorney’s advice to keep her azz off of twitter?
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